problems with society...

[josh wendt]

why is it wrong to have the desire to be included? why is it wrong to want to be emotionally supported and cared about? why is it wrong to want attention (the kind of attention where people notice that your feeling bad and they support you instead of just laughing at you)? why are guys that show emotion/need emotional support seen as weak (its not just girls that have problems... and not everyone can just wipe away there feelings and not care about what everyone else thinks) why does society think that people with mental illness are faking it? why does society think that people that self harm just want attention?. nowadays you cant even talk to some one without being judged, you cant try to become friends with people without feeling like you'll be seen as awkward/weird. people form their groups and then they ignore anyone else that wants to be included, or worse still, they go around bullying and discriminating against people. why are people that Need others to support,care about and help them enjoy life ignored (especially guys). have you ever noticed that there have been very few female school shooters?. I believe that there are more male school-shooters/violent criminals who are male for many reasons. Both males and females have problems, however females are likely to be able to get help/emotional support before it gets to the point where they become violent,psychotic etc. males on the other hand, will, as a result of betrayal, rejection,abuse,loneliness,bullying etc suffer an intense build up of emotion, until they eventually cant handle it anymore. the people that I am talking about are the ones who, a lot of the time, have no friends,sit alone at school,get bullied or constantly excluded. eventually they become depressed and anxious/paranoid. then they become psychotic and either attempt suicide or get revenge on the world via shooting/violent crime as they believe the world is against them and no one cares. As these people usually have few or no friends/emotional support, they don't care what they do or who they kill (they become psychopathic). the problem is not being accepted or included, it,s the same reason why racial minorities commit more crime. basically anyone that is different will be rejected/ excluded (socially or physically) from society. does anyone else see a problem here? why cant we just support eachother? why cant we all just get along? why is one gender given more support then the other? why is it so hard to make friends these days without being rejected? why do some girls think guys that don't look physically attractive or are shy/have difficulties following social rules are creeps? why has it gotten to the point where guys have to go above and beyond to prove to girls that they aren't like the last asshole (there are so many desperate f*cks/players out there it makes it hard for genuine guys. not everyone has good enough social skills to be able to approach girls and talk to them. there is a difference between being genuine but having bad social skills and being a creep). at what point in time did discrimination,bullying, fighting, mistrust, judgement,selfishness etc become normal?

[ska8er]

Ur very deep and I agree with a lot u say.
I think a lot of guys have to put on a front in order
to prove to themselves or others that they r not weak
when in a lot of cases they really feel insecure about
who they r or what they look like or what others
think about them. It gets to a point that they cant
tolerate it anymore so depression and anxiety starts
and eats at them.

In order to make friends -guys and girls- u have to
b yourself. If u don't like yourself no one is going to
like u. Take an interest in someone-just smile and
say Hi to start and then get to know them better.
U cant make friends with everyone and everyone is
not going to like u but u try and if it doesn't work out
u avoid them and go on to the next one. If u don't try
u r not going to have anyone. Its hard to have good
social skills when u r a teen cause u feel clumsy so u
r self conscious bout it. Im an extrovert and a lot of
girls r after me but its hard for me at times to tell
them that I am interested or not. Sometimes I shake.
Everyone is going through the same feelings. Those that
u think have it all together really r hurting or having probs
just like u. U have to just live with it til u r much older
and hope u grow out of it.

Making friends isn't easy but if u b yourself and b a friend
to someone they might just take an interest in u.

Someone might have a different opinion.
Don't b so deep we r all going through this puberty thing.

[lacey02]

I think we need to just be ourselves and try and find people that build us up while we try to do the same for those around us.

[phuckphace]

why does society think that people with mental illness are faking it?

it doesn't. it thinks mental illnesses are "lifestyles" and that people with mental illnesses are just like you and me except they like to choke their partner out while taking a crap in his mouth. "the DSM"? more like BDSM, bigot.

[Jinglebottom]

Some of the questions you've asked here are yet to be answered by anyone. Honestly, I just think that's how life is. You can't expect every single person in the world to get along with everyone else. People have different personalities, beliefs, traditions, opinions, perspectives, and some of these can vary widely. You just gotta find the people that care about you, and that's a whole challenge by itself. Not to mention the hundreds of thousands of prejudices and stereotypes out there, that prevent any sort of decent communication between two or more people, or those who hold strict expectations of what a certain subject should be (and reject anything that doesn't conform to said expectations).

I try to be nice to everyone I meet, no matter who they are or where they come from. That doesn't always work, but at least I'm trying.

[sqishy]

it doesn't. it thinks mental illnesses are "lifestyles" and that people with mental illnesses are just like you and me except they like to choke their partner out while taking a crap in his mouth. "the DSM"? more like BDSM, bigot.

Umm what?