How often is reasonable?

[Cadanance00]

My girlfriend and I have recently become sexually active, but we have done it twice in like five weeks. We have logistical issues since we both share rooms with siblings but I would really, totally, absolutely, positively like to have sex more often with her. What do you think is reasonable to expect in this situation?

[Abhorrence]

If I come across as harsh or whatever then please don't hold it against me. Why can't you just talk to her? Instead of asking strangers on a website what they believe is reasonable for YOUR relationship, why don't you just ask your partner? It would make a lot more sense because it's a rather difficult question to answer when we have no details of your relationship. The best you'll get on here is a generic response based on others' experiences.

[ashdyn]

Reasonable means within reason lol I would have sex every day if I could be it's not reasonable to expect that. You can want to have sex with her all you want, and she obviously wants to have sex with you because she's done it twice already lol but like you said you have a logistical issue so you can't expect it that often. You can try to make find more time but most of that is really out of your control.

[Uniquemind]

No way around issues like that.

I'm in a similar position, and I handle it by using school holidays to carve out time for intimacy.

This problem has also been the time old reason for decades of why the backseat of a car is used to solve this problem.

[Cadanance00]

If I come across as harsh or whatever then please don't hold it against me. Why can't you just talk to her? Instead of asking strangers on a website what they believe is reasonable for YOUR relationship, why don't you just ask your partner? It would make a lot more sense because it's a rather difficult question to answer when we have no details of your relationship. The best you'll get on here is a generic response based on others' experiences.

That's basically what I'm trying to get. I don't want to walk up to somebody I know and say like, "How often do you and ---- fuck?"

And I don't even see how you could do it in the backseat of a car.

[Abhorrence]

That's basically what I'm trying to get. I don't want to walk up to somebody I know and say like, "How often do you and ---- fuck?"

And I don't even see how you could do it in the backseat of a car.

That's why you ask your partner...

[AutumnWinds]

My girlfriend and I have recently become sexually active, but we have done it twice in like five weeks. We have logistical issues since we both share rooms with siblings but I would really, totally, absolutely, positively like to have sex more often with her. What do you think is reasonable to expect in this situation?

i think that what is or is not a reasonable amount of times per week or whatever to have sex varies. i think the important thing is that you and your gf figure out what is right for you two specifically.

[Zachary G]

Only you can answer the question of how much is too much, I think that is a conversation best held between the two of you and no one else. Even with the logistics issue, Id still talk to her about the frequency in which you want to do it so you are both on the same page.

[pascaldesla]

Doing each day would be reasonable. ...but girls often like it less often

[Cadanance00]

i think that what is or is not a reasonable amount of times per week or whatever to have sex varies. i think the important thing is that you and your gf figure out what is right for you two specifically.

That's the problem. She doesn't want to talk about it. She thinks we should sort of let it happen. Only problem is it's only happened twice since Halloween. If I had my choice it would be every fucking day, literally.

[AutumnWinds]

That's the problem. She doesn't want to talk about it. She thinks we should sort of let it happen. Only problem is it's only happened twice since Halloween. If I had my choice it would be every fucking day, literally.

keep in mind I'm a third party who doesn't know either of you, but it sounds to me like she isn't as eager as you are. you may have to respect her wishes here, especially if she just doesn't even wanna talk about it.

[Taryn98]

Generally speaking from my and my friend's experience, once you start doing it in a new relationship, I'd say 3-5 times a week is normal. Usually the longer the relationship goes, the less frequent it becomes.