major social status changes

[heybuddy23]

ok so im a guy about to turn 15 and from 6th to the beggining of 9th grade (im in 9th grade rn) i was in the most popular group in school but i had a falling out with those guys cuz they were being pricks and overall doing backstabby shit ao me and one other friend from the group left so then it was me the kid from the group and another friend of mine me and the kid from the group tried to start a new group to gain popularity but my other friend was kind of a spaz and my group friend wanted 2 ditch him but i said nah lets give him a chance and help him improve his rep so we can make this group with him both of these guys agreed but the non group kid lets call him ryan was still acting like a spastic and wearing shitty clothes 4 months later and every time we tried 2 show him what 2 do or help him out he got butthurt and was a little bitch about it so we started hanging out with him less and as that happened ryan started to get more and more butthurt until it got to the point where we almost never hang out with him and now he's going behind our backs and talking shit especially about the other kid he even lied to this one kid about the other kid lets call him jason he told a mutual friend that jason was talking shit to try and get jason beat up


1.what should i do to re establish myself and my group
2.what should i do about scumbag ryan

thank you for any responses

[Judean Zealot]

I'll be honest. I think you're approaching this whole thing wrong. From your post it would seem that your "helping" Ryan was nothing more than a cynical ploy to reassert yourself on the social scene. To accomplish this, you tried turning him into the person you wanted him to be. It's no wonder he got turned off.

The first thing you need to do about scumbag Ryan is apologise. After that, you can work on rehabilitating your image by focusing on what other people want from their peers, and give them that. And don't do it to get social power or anything of the sort, because that will inevitably flop, as did your efforts with Ryan. Work on yourself, and learn to actually do things selflessly. The dividends pay off immediately, in terms of your own character, and eventually will get you far socially as well.