Could someone please explain this situation?

[Knopp]

I am not very good in social situations and I don't know what to make of my current situation. Please explain what is going on and how she feels.

I obtained the my crush's phone number, I decided to text her anonymously and tell her I like her. I don't know why I did this though. Since I don't have a phone, I texted with an E-mail address. After exchanging many texts I decided I would tell her who I am on two conditions,

(i) We can continue texting and being friends.
(ii) She doesn't tell anyone my real identity,

She agreed to both of these conditions but didn't continue texting me after I told her who I was. I continued to text her, but she didn't respond. I stopped texting for a while and then she texts me and apologizes for not texting me, she told me she feels terrible. I responded and asked her if she told anyone my identity and she didn't respond afterwards.

On the first day of school I was extremely anxious, but it turns out she kept her promise and didn't tell anyone (that I know of). If she did, I figured people would be bothering me.

One day she asks me why I don't talk very much and asks me why I don't like talking with her. I was thinking of a response when she had to leave somewhere. I then decided it would be a good idea to answer her questions via text messages. I told her that I like talking to her, but I get nervous around her and don't know what so say.

She told me that she would hug me the next day, but she knew I wouldn't like it.

After she said this, she stopped responding to my texts. She told we at school that she couldn't text me because she had to turn her data on.


After I told her this she appeared to stop initiating conversations with me. I try to initiate conversations but I only communicate in the form of questions and fun facts. However, she does stand up for me when other people are being mean to me.

She left to go on vacation yesterday and I wanted to say good bye, so I called her. She said hello but I got nervous so I didn't say anything. I called back a few minutes later and she said hello I asked who this was, she hung up the phone after a brief pause.

Could someone explain all (or some) of these situations to me?

[Hudor]

Some questions:
1. Were you friends/acquantances before you confessed to her about your crush?
2. Does she remain online much even when she's not responding to your texts?
3. When she asked why you didn't talk much, did she mean via texts or speaking?

[SethfromMI]

well I think the problem is she does not know how to respond to you because you make it awkward. I am not picking on you, but I would not know how to respond to you either. it is possible she is not interested in dating you, something else you have to be willing to understand is a possibility

[Knopp]

Some questions:
1. Were you friends/acquantances before you confessed to her about your crush?
2. Does she remain online much even when she's not responding to your texts?
3. When she asked why you didn't talk much, did she mean via texts or speaking?

1: Not really. But I was friendly toward her, and she was friendly toward me.

2: Yes.

3: She meant speaking.

[Knopp]

well I think the problem is she does not know how to respond to you because you make it awkward. I am not picking on you, but I would not know how to respond to you either. it is possible she is not interested in dating you, something else you have to be willing to understand is a possibility

It is alright if she is not interested in dating me, because I have no interest in dating in general.

[SethfromMI]

It is alright if she is not interested in dating me, because I have no interest in dating in general.

I guess I am confused because you called her your crush. what do you want out of the relationship/friendship with her. part of it will be you needing to talk to her some more. then again. some people just don't get along and as nice as she is, she might be looking for something else, even in a simple friendship

[Knopp]

I guess I am confused because you called her your crush. what do you want out of the relationship/friendship with her. part of it will be you needing to talk to her some more. then again. some people just don't get along and as nice as she is, she might be looking for something else, even in a simple friendship

I would like to be friends with her.

[SethfromMI]

I would like to be friends with her.

well you can maybe try talking to her in person more. I know how much that bothers you but that is what friends do. you got to understand, she might not want to be simply a texting buddy. you can keep reaching out to her, but if she wants to be your friend, she might want a friend she can talk to in person. I don't know, I am not her. try talking to her about all this

[Knopp]

well you can maybe try talking to her in person more. I know how much that bothers you but that is what friends do. you got to understand, she might not want to be simply a texting buddy. you can keep reaching out to her, but if she wants to be your friend, she might want a friend she can talk to in person. I don't know, I am not her. try talking to her about all this

I'll try, but I don't know where to start or what to say. It is also difficult talking with her because she is often with her friends and I don't feel comfortable around her friends. If I try to talk to her by her locker I am afraid someone will yell "wheels" at me. They seem to do that whenever a male is talking to a female alone.

I usually talk to her in the hall, but our conversations are very short. I occasionally greet her when I walk past her in the hall. I also talk to her very briefly at the bus stop.

I can't text her anymore because she won't be able to respond.

[SethfromMI]

I'll try, but I don't know where to start or what to say. It is also difficult talking with her because she is often with her friends and I don't feel comfortable around her friends. If I try to talk to her by her locker I am afraid someone will yell "wheels" at me. They seem to do that whenever a male is talking to a female alone.

I usually talk to her in the hall, but our conversations are very short. I occasionally greet her when I walk past her in the hall. I also talk to her very briefly at the bus stop.

I can't text her anymore because she won't be able to respond.

well if you see her at the bus stop do you live somewhat close? I mean, can you talk to her at your house or at her's? just try to be honest about how you feel about her and the struggles you have sometimes talking in public

[Knopp]

well if you see her at the bus stop do you live somewhat close? I mean, can you talk to her at your house or at her's? just try to be honest about how you feel about her and the struggles you have sometimes talking in public

Okay. She lives on the other side of the city. I suppose I'll ask,

"Do I make all of our conversations awkward?"

I could ask her during gym class as well I suppose.

[Hudor]

I think she seems somewhat attracted to you. As a friend or not, I'm not sure. I agree with SethfromMI that you're making it awkward for her. You might be giving her mixed signals too.
Tbh I find it quite confusing what you intend to make of this relationship. I don't really see the point of telling her you have a crush on her, if you don't wish to date her. But that's your call.

As for her reaction, I think she probably prefers talking to you in person over text.

[SethfromMI]

Okay. She lives on the other side of the city. I suppose I'll ask,

"Do I make all of our conversations awkward?"

I could ask her during gym class as well I suppose.

you said you saw her at the bus stop so I don't know. but try talking to her for sure

[Knopp]

I think she seems somewhat attracted to you. As a friend or not, I'm not sure. I agree with SethfromMI that you're making it awkward for her. You might be giving her mixed signals too.
Tbh I find it quite confusing what you intend to make of this relationship. I don't really see the point of telling her you have a crush on her, if you don't wish to date her. But that's your call.

As for her reaction, I think she probably prefers talking to you in person over text.

Oh. What mixed signals might I be giving her?

[Knopp]

you said you saw her at the bus stop so I don't know. but try talking to her for sure

Yes but she doesn't take my bus, she takes the bus that goes to the other end of the city.

[Uniquemind]

If I were her, is feel id be owed an apology and clarification about what the relationship between us is all about.

It feels like there were initial sparks of flirting and she gets into that mental mindset, and then you're just not responding to keep that spark alive.

Never tell someone you have a crush on them, when you don't have romantic or lusty feelings for them.

[Hudor]

Oh. What mixed signals might I be giving her?

She might have gotten the impression you were interested in her but since you didn't follow through, that might have confused her.
When you talk to her next in person, you could clarify to her that you only want to be friends.

[SethfromMI]

If I were her, is feel id be owed an apology and clarification about what the relationship between us is all about.

It feels like there were initial sparks of flirting and she gets into that mental mindset, and then you're just not responding to keep that spark alive.

Never tell someone you have a crush on them, when you don't have romantic or lusty feelings for them.

She might have gotten the impression you were interested in her but since you didn't follow through, that might have confused her.
When you talk to her next in person, you could clarify to her that you only want to be friends.

These two comments. Like I said, I am confused about what you want from her, so I am not surprised she is. you got to try to clarify what you want or are expecting from her

[Stronk Serb]

If you wonder how to start a conversation, there are several patterns if she is talkative to you. Ask her how she is, or what she's been doing lately. Also before starting a conversation, have a rough sum up of questions and answers, avoid the general silence. Also don't ask intrusive questions.