View Full Version : I don't know who I'm really attracted to. Help?
Hayley aaa
November 25th, 2015, 02:30 PM
I'm 18 and never really questioned my sexuality I always thought I was attracted to guys and I do find them attractive physically but I find it hard to be attracted to them mentally and emotionally. I'm not sure that make sense. I've never had a boyfriend and I've always been okay with that whenever I get asked on dates I decline even if I'm physically attracted to them and I was never sure why. The past few months in certain situations I've found myself attracted to women. All 3-6 years older but I feel like it's a different type of attraction. These woman (3) I've only met on passing situations but I got nervous around them and suddenly felt like I was embarrassed because I found myself getting butterflies and blushing. There's one woman I can't stop thinking about and it's unusual to me. I'm not sure what to make of this. Can someone go through most of their teens not realising they're attracted to the same gender? Or am I thinking too much into it. Any advice? Please because I can't stop thinking about it.
Magenta
November 25th, 2015, 04:30 PM
Some people go their whole lives not realizing who they're attracted to until they meet them. Other people know from childhood. And sexuality is fluid. That's not to say it changes but that everyone's way of perceiving and approaching their sexuality is different.
Have you heard of romantic orientations vs sexual orientations? Sexual orientation is who you are attracted to physically, as you put it. Or you'd be open to a physically intimate scenario with them most likely.
Romantic orientations are people you emotionally connect with, as in you'd go on dates and enjoy the romantic aspects of it. For some people, these two orientations are the same. For others, they're a combination. They may be physically attracted to men and women but only want a relationship with one or the other.
That's just the tip of the ice burg. It's a complicated thing but there's nothing wrong with you for just thinking about this now. But let me tell you: butterflies in the stomach and blushing and not being able to stop thinking about someone? That's usually a crush, regardless of the person's gender.
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