What is love?

[JosephR56]

I don't know what love could be anymore. I'm only 16 experienced 3 heartbreaks already, all ending up the same way.. I don't understand? Why is it when I tell a girl I will always be there and care for her and show her my love and loyalty she leaves? All I ever wanted was a girl to love me the way I would love her. I started becoming depressed everyday, I couldn't find happiness in my days anymore. The last heart break was actually online but the rest were IRL. I got a job and the girl online (met through a game, we had fun played skyped a lot) told me she is going to leave me because I was getting a job and I had to move on? I know this sounds stupid but i would leave everything for her but she insisted and she took action. Ever since that( a month ago) everyday is miserable. I see her online with her other guy friends and it makes me feel terrible. Like what is it that I'm not satisfying girls? It's like telling a girl I love you drives them away from me. She's gotten over it but I still think about her from time to time. Even when I'm not, I wonder if I ever will find that someone. I have a tight schedule school then work then i come home late and I barely get to play. The money is promising week after week but theres one thing it can't buy.. The thing I can't receive from anyone.. My parents don't care, I do everything my self. My parents are in a financial crisis so I work to buy the things I've always wanted. I just want a warm welcome when I get home and someone to message me out of the blue" I love you" Is this too much to ask for? I can never find someone to love me, although I would do anything to show my love to someone. It seems like no one would want it anymore, and this world is too judgmental these days so I can't find that one person.

[Jinglebottom]

Love is a myth.

[Judean Zealot]

Romantic love, anyways...

[sqishy]

I don't know what love could be anymore. I'm only 16 experienced 3 heartbreaks already, all ending up the same way.. I don't understand? Why is it when I tell a girl I will always be there and care for her and show her my love and loyalty she leaves? All I ever wanted was a girl to love me the way I would love her. I started becoming depressed everyday, I couldn't find happiness in my days anymore. The last heart break was actually online but the rest were IRL. I got a job and the girl online (met through a game, we had fun played skyped a lot) told me she is going to leave me because I was getting a job and I had to move on? I know this sounds stupid but i would leave everything for her but she insisted and she took action. Ever since that( a month ago) everyday is miserable. I see her online with her other guy friends and it makes me feel terrible. Like what is it that I'm not satisfying girls? It's like telling a girl I love you drives them away from me. She's gotten over it but I still think about her from time to time. Even when I'm not, I wonder if I ever will find that someone. I have a tight schedule school then work then i come home late and I barely get to play. The money is promising week after week but theres one thing it can't buy.. The thing I can't receive from anyone.. My parents don't care, I do everything my self. My parents are in a financial crisis so I work to buy the things I've always wanted. I just want a warm welcome when I get home and someone to message me out of the blue" I love you" Is this too much to ask for? I can never find someone to love me, although I would do anything to show my love to someone. It seems like no one would want it anymore, and this world is too judgmental these days so I can't find that one person.
You will find someone, and someone will find you. I have not yet, but I know I will.


Judean Zealot
Plato's Symposium can be looked at.
By no means do I say it has truth (or that I want to block the exerience of love with philosophical academia), it is just a book with some perspectives on it.

[Judean Zealot]

Judean Zealot
Plato's Symposium can be looked at.
By no means do I say it has truth (or that I want to block the exerience of love with philosophical academia), it is just a book with some perspectives on it.

The point of the Symposium is precisely what I'm saying- true love exists only between a person and the truth: any other love is but a faint shadow of true love.

[ashdyn]

You're only 16! There are literally people twice your age still looking for love. There's really only a handful of people who find actual love in high school or even college. Also, 16 year old girls tend to be scared away by someone so willing to go all in so early in a relationship. You might love them right off the bat but most people get into relationships hoping it grows into love not the other way around. It's why timing is so important when you drop the L bomb.

The online girl just sounded like she didn't want an online relationship...which is understandable. Just gotta get over it. From what you said, it sounds like your parents are going through some things and it may seem like they don't have time for you but I'm sure they love you. I'm sure your friends love you. You don't always need a girl to love and love you back to validate your life. First and foremost, love yourself. You can date as often as you like but you can't make someone love you just by loving them...no matter how hard you love them. Don't let heartache and heartbreak keep you from looking though, before you know it love will eventually find its way to you. Until then though...find love in other areas of your life and just enjoy being a kid. You can't get this time in you life back when it's gone.

[Typhlosion]

Baby don't hurt me. Don't hurt me. No more. (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=09m0B8RRiEE)

[Jordan99]

Are you really falling in love or are you exhibiting co-dependence and neediness? Girls can tell the difference. At 16 and having experienced three heartbreaks is kinda' young. Just chill and enjoy the relationship(s) without declaring your undying love and devotion. That can be scary. My BF and I love each other but we've known each other for years and took things slowly. If he had declared undying love and devotion right of the bat I'd know he was needy and not really in love with me at all. Relax. Take it easy and slow. One day you will "find true love".