My ex is confusing me !!!

[LittlePancake]

So I dated this guy for about 10 months and it was awesome. We were pretty close and even if we were quite different we agreed on most things. We also had great chemistry. Then he broke up with me because the initial infatuation was fading even if our relationship was great and because there was this girl he wanted to chase (even if he didn't told it to me). I didn't made a fool of myself when he ended our relationship (I didn't beg, cried or yelled). I almost seemed indifferent (so he doesn't think i was desesperate). Turns out the other was only playing him so he now doesn't want to see her ever again. But my ex and I remained friends even if we broke up months ago and he said he regretted he messed up our relationship so I had some time to think about it. I still think we should try to date again because our relationship was great and it's now almost the same as it used to be without the physical proximity we had. Plus my ex and I tend to flirt by text quite a lot and everytime he finally makes it look like it's a joke to him but he still does it.
I really don't know if he's interested or not. I know he still thinks I'm attractive but i don't know if he is serious when he's flirting with me. I know I was the only girlfriend he ever had and he's not interested in anyone at the moment. Knowing there might still be a spark between us I really don't know if I should try to make him fall for me again or just let it go.

[Uniquemind]

Go ahead and try again, he's definitely putting out feelers to see if you're open to rekindling a relationship, but he's shy because he knows he hurt you.

The ball is in your court to lay down some ground rules for him and to ask him soul searching questions about if you are what he wants, or if he's likely to be tempted by another girl in the future and repeat his mistake?

Have a discussion, then go from there.

[AutumnWinds]

i don't know if i would try again, because i would be worried that he would just go after someone else again, but he does seem like he wants to have you back for the time being at least. it's up to you if you want to take the chance on it being a long term thing this time. whatever you decide to do, good luck.

[SillyShyGuy]

I personally think everybody deserves a second chance, but things change when it comes to relationships. One of my ex girlfriends chased another guy the way your ex chased another girl. She cheated on me an I broke up with her. That experience is the reason I have trust issues. I do not like to admit it, but I am afraid to get attached to anyone because I fear they might cheat on me again. I try not to let my guard down even though I have multiple crushes at a time. If you want to get back together with your ex then by all means, but be mindful. It is not worth the heartache if he cannot be trusted. If he chose another girl over you once, it could happen again.

[ashdyn]

One and done.

Live by that motto in your relationships to help steer clear of drama and heartache. If he dropped you just cause you weren't the shiny new toy anymore and is only coming back because he got rejected then he's obvi not really that into you. Be friends...but don't try to convince yourself that he's a good guy if he isn't.

[Jordan99]

One and done.

Live by that motto in your relationships to help steer clear of drama and heartache. If he dropped you just cause you weren't the shiny new toy anymore and is only coming back because he got rejected then he's obvi not really that into you. Be friends...but don't try to convince yourself that he's a good guy if he isn't.

I agree for the most part, however he may now recognize what he lost or threw away and that life lesson may keep him from ever straying again. Just my humble opinion.