The classic "Does she like me?" question

[red.astrix]

So normally I can figure this out easily. BUT now this girls come around and I seriously got no clue. Sometimes I'll be pretty sure she does but then literally 5mins later im clueless. In class we sit together she'll get sorta touchy, putting her head on my shoulder touching my arm blah blah blah the usual. She told me how she turned another guy down recently for a whole bunch of reasons including the fact that she likes someone else. Then she gave me a sizeable speel on what she wants in a relationship and kinda hinted that she is ready to date someone. She says I hate you alot lol in an affectionate way though,not sure if I should take that with a grain of salt though. I walk out of school with her some days other days she'll say bye and just run off. We've been texting but she'll actually take days to reply sometimes. What dyu guys think? She like me? Cuz I honestly cant tell:what:
EDIT: Im new in town so idk if that makes a difference

[Uniquemind]

So normally I can figure this out easily. BUT now this girls come around and I seriously got no clue. Sometimes I'll be pretty sure she does but then literally 5mins later im clueless. In class we sit together she'll get sorta touchy, putting her head on my shoulder touching my arm blah blah blah the usual. She told me how she turned another guy down recently for a whole bunch of reasons including the fact that she likes someone else. Then she gave me a sizeable speel on what she wants in a relationship and kinda hinted that she is ready to date someone. She says I hate you alot lol in an affectionate way though,not sure if I should take that with a grain of salt though. I walk out of school with her some days other days she'll say bye and just run off. We've been texting but she'll actually take days to reply sometimes. What dyu guys think? She like me? Cuz I honestly cant tell:what:

Yup, you're number one on her short list.

The best way to handle the situation (if you also want her that is) is to counter back with what you want out of a relationship. Be honest, but also make it playful.

[Abhorrence]

The thing is, asking this question is a bit of a difficult thing. We do not know anything about this girl other than the things you have told us. She could have a personality that indicates that she does like you or it could just be a personality in which she acts like this to a lot of people. The best thing to do, honestly, is to ask her. Sounds simple enough, even though it is easier said than done, but there is no other way really. If you want a relationship you're gonna have to be confident and maybe she's waiting for you to ask first.

[Uniquemind]

The thing is, asking this question is a bit of a difficult thing. We do not know anything about this girl other than the things you have told us. She could have a personality that indicates that she does like you or it could just be a personality in which she acts like this to a lot of people. The best thing to do, honestly, is to ask her. Sounds simple enough, even though it is easier said than done, but there is no other way really. If you want a relationship you're gonna have to be confident and maybe she's waiting for you to ask first.

Well let me clarify my post above.

I recommend word-sparing with her, is a good response. Like he should ask her to describe what her crush looks like, and cleverly describe his own features and watch her response, cause that's fun and flirty.

[red.astrix]

Well let me clarify my post above.

I recommend word-sparing with her, is a good response. Like he should ask her to describe what her crush looks like, and cleverly describe his own features and watch her response, cause that's fun and flirty.

Thats what my plan is. Just found out about that part like 2days ago so I tried a bit in school didn't really get anywhere except her basically ending up talking about the guy she turned down and how she didn't like him at all. So its the weekend now I'll try again in school next week, in the mean time I tried via text tryna get her to tell me the "loads of reasons" why she turned the other dude down. She basically told me what she already did in school ._. Then stopped replying after I tried asking again which seems to happen alot when we text, which to me is pretty confusing. Any tips?

The thing is, asking this question is a bit of a difficult thing. We do not know anything about this girl other than the things you have told us. She could have a personality that indicates that she does like you or it could just be a personality in which she acts like this to a lot of people. The best thing to do, honestly, is to ask her. Sounds simple enough, even though it is easier said than done, but there is no other way really. If you want a relationship you're gonna have to be confident and maybe she's waiting for you to ask first.
Well I haven't SEEN her act like that around other people doesn't mean she doesn't though. Don't think she'd tell every random guy what EXACTLY she wants in a relationship. But then you'd think she would reply when we text

[kyrie tony]

Be a gentleman an open up she having told you that she likes someone else and how she wants the relationship to be is a path way just use it

[Uniquemind]

Thats what my plan is. Just found out about that part like 2days ago so I tried a bit in school didn't really get anywhere except her basically ending up talking about the guy she turned down and how she didn't like him at all. So its the weekend now I'll try again in school next week, in the mean time I tried via text tryna get her to tell me the "loads of reasons" why she turned the other dude down. She basically told me what she already did in school ._. Then stopped replying after I tried asking again which seems to happen alot when we text, which to me is pretty confusing. Any tips?

You can't do that over text. It's gotta be face to face so you can flirt with body language.

[red.astrix]

You can't do that over text. It's gotta be face to face so you can flirt with body language.

Yeah gonna do it person just doing it via text rn cuz its the weekend. But like I said when I did it in school I didnt really get any
anywhere :/

Be a gentleman an open up she having told you that she likes someone else and how she wants the relationship to be is a path way just use it

A little hard to do that cuz I don't wanna come off as pretentious and vain etc by assuming shes talking about me.

-merged double post. Please use the "Edit" and "Multi-quote" buttons. -Emerald Dream

[SillyShyGuy]

She might like you buddy, but she seems to be playing hard to get as the children call it. It means she does things to make you think she likes you like touching you or texting you and does things to contradict that like not walking with you or not texting back right away. There is a good chance she likes you, but it might not be a good sign if she is telling you about what she looks for in a relationship. I believe you are in the friendzone. Get out. Now! Ask her on a date and give her an ultimatum. If she is turning down other guys and acts flirty with you then she either likes you or she is playing with your feelings. Find out the truth by asking her on a date.

[red.astrix]

She might like you buddy, but she seems to be playing hard to get as the children call it. It means she does things to make you think she likes you like touching you or texting you and does things to contradict that like not walking with you or not texting back right away. There is a good chance she likes you, but it might not be a good sign if she is telling you about what she looks for in a relationship. I believe you are in the friendzone. Get out. Now! Ask her on a date and give her an ultimatum. If she is turning down other guys and acts flirty with you then she either likes you or she is playing with your feelings. Find out the truth by asking her on a date.
Thanks man this actually makes alot of sense. Just a couple questions....
If I am in the friendzone what's with all the flirty(ish) behaviour? And she hasn't dropped any of the usual hints that I'm in it like calling 'bro' or 'best friend' etc Also why is it not a good sign she told what she's looking for. Sorry for all the q.s just moved to a new country and Im tryna get used to the way things like this work here!

[Uniquemind]

Thanks man this actually makes alot of sense. Just a couple questions....
If I am in the friendzone what's with all the flirty(ish) behaviour? And she hasn't dropped any of the usual hints that I'm in it like calling 'bro' or 'best friend' etc Also why is it not a good sign she told what she's looking for. Sorry for all the q.s just moved to a new country and Im tryna get used to the way things like this work here!

Well flirting happens for many reasons, but it's appeal comes from the fact that it is fun and feels empowering. We do action A, and we get reaction B. It's like a superpower and it's just fun to play with.

But that could be the answer to one of your questions. Don't wait for hints just go for it.

[SillyShyGuy]

Thanks man this actually makes alot of sense. Just a couple questions....
If I am in the friendzone what's with all the flirty(ish) behaviour? And she hasn't dropped any of the usual hints that I'm in it like calling 'bro' or 'best friend' etc Also why is it not a good sign she told what she's looking for. Sorry for all the q.s just moved to a new country and Im tryna get used to the way things like this work here!

Well it could be seen as flirting but sometimes girls just like to be playful. Like my lady friends in high school would do things with me that made people believe my best friend and I were dating. We would hug, hold hands, watch movies at her place, bring each other gifts.

Well it is not always a bad sign if she is telling you about what she wants in a guy. It could possibly mean she wants to make you jealous and see if you will fight for her. Not to say you have to beat up the guys she likes, of course. Just get the courage to ask her on a date and make your move haha. I am sure she likes you so don't worry

[red.astrix]

Well it could be seen as flirting but sometimes girls just like to be playful. Like my lady friends in high school would do things with me that made people believe my best friend and I were dating. We would hug, hold hands, watch movies at her place, bring each other gifts.

Well it is not always a bad sign if she is telling you about what she wants in a guy. It could possibly mean she wants to make you jealous and see if you will fight for her. Not to say you have to beat up the guys she likes, of course. Just get the courage to ask her on a date and make your move haha. I am sure she likes you so don't worry

I get what you're saying mam. Kinda wanna avoid making a tiol out of myself by asking her out and turns out shes not into me cuz im still finding my feet in the new school. And again just got a whole bunch of mixed signals. She got kinda touchy after I helped her with some h.w which I though was odd cuz I help her all the time. But then when we're going home she'll just say bye really quick and bail. Caught her looking at me in class and I don't know if this was a hint or not but she was started saying how shes sure someone is gonna ask her to prom. It was much simpler back at my old place!

[Bontigo Papi .]

I get what you're saying mam. Kinda wanna avoid making a tiol out of myself by asking her out and turns out shes not into me cuz im still finding my feet in the new school. And again just got a whole bunch of mixed signals. She got kinda touchy after I helped her with some h.w which I though was odd cuz I help her all the time. But then when we're going home she'll just say bye really quick and bail. Caught her looking at me in class and I don't know if this was a hint or not but she was started saying how shes sure someone is gonna ask her to prom. It was much simpler back at my old place!

You don't have to ask her, just talk toi her first and find out how she feels .

[red.astrix]

You don't have to ask her, just talk toi her first and find out how she feels .

I would but the only time I see her is during class and at our lockers so its kinda tough given the fact we're always sureounded by our friends.

[Bontigo Papi .]

I would but the only time I see her is during class and at our lockers so its kinda tough given the fact we're always sureounded by our friends.

So do it afterschool . Tell her to meet you somewhere. Walk her home then talk to her, it can't be that difficult...?

[PinkFloyd]

Odds are, she likes you. I'd say the biggest hint is her putting her head on your shoulders and all the stuff about what she wants in a relationship. I say you should go for it and ask her out.

[Uniquemind]

Odds are, she likes you. I'd say the biggest hint is her putting her head on your shoulders and all the stuff about what she wants in a relationship. I say you should go for it and ask her out.

I second this.


But if that is too difficult then slip a flirty letter (assuming you have good penmanship) into her locker, to communicate to her you've noticed her moves.

[red.astrix]

So do it afterschool . Tell her to meet you somewhere. Walk her home then talk to her, it can't be that difficult...?

She gets picked up by her mum. And now that its like -20 degrees outside it makes it a little harder :/

[red.astrix]

Odds are, she likes you. I'd say the biggest hint is her putting her head on your shoulders and all the stuff about what she wants in a relationship. I say you should go for it and ask her out.

Normally I would without a second thought. But cuz Im new to the school I kinda wanna make sure first. Don't wanna lose her as a friend.

[PinkFloyd]

Normally I would without a second thought. But cuz Im new to the school I kinda wanna make sure first. Don't wanna lose her as a friend.

I see what you mean. I suppose you should wait a while before you make any moves.

[Uniquemind]

I get what you're saying mam. Kinda wanna avoid making a tiol out of myself by asking her out and turns out shes not into me cuz im still finding my feet in the new school. And again just got a whole bunch of mixed signals. She got kinda touchy after I helped her with some h.w which I though was odd cuz I help her all the time. But then when we're going home she'll just say bye really quick and bail. Caught her looking at me in class and I don't know if this was a hint or not but she was started saying how shes sure someone is gonna ask her to prom. It was much simpler back at my old place!

I'm gonna do you a favor and explain what's going on in the non-verbal here.

She got touchy and irked while you were helping her with homework, because it was a potential situation where she wound and prepared her mind for you to make a move, because she created a private intimate atmosphere for you to make a move, and you did not seize the opportunity. Instead you did the mundane ordinary thing, and helped her with the homework like you always do. She was enduring a lot of angst and bravery during the entire study session.

Walking home she left you real quickly because she was tense and wound up being around you, and so she left ASAP because she couldn't endure anymore. Perhaps she went home to take the edge off the tension.

The next time she drops the line "She's sure someone's going to ask her to prom" you should quickly go up to her and whisper in her ear "Oh I guarantee it".

Watch her reaction it will be very telling. But then you better ask her out really creatively because you set up the expectation.

[red.astrix]

I'm gonna do you a favor and explain what's going on in the non-verbal here.

She got touchy and irked while you were helping her with homework, because it was a potential situation where she wound and prepared her mind for you to make a move, because she created a private intimate atmosphere for you to make a move, and you did not seize the opportunity. Instead you did the mundane ordinary thing, and helped her with the homework like you always do. She was enduring a lot of angst and bravery during the entire study session.

Walking home she left you real quickly because she was tense and wound up being around you, and so she left ASAP because she couldn't endure anymore. Perhaps she went home to take the edge off the tension.

The next time she drops the line "She's sure someone's going to ask her to prom" you should quickly go up to her and whisper in her ear "Oh I guarantee it".

Watch her reaction it will be very telling. But then you better ask her out really creatively because you set up the expectation.

Smh I should have done what you said when she talked about being asked. Thats actually genius. When I helped her with her homework it wasnt exactly an intimate moment cuz there were tonnes of people around like normal, not like a 1v1 study session. Still think she wanted me to make a move? And when walking home we do it other days as well, just on seemingly random ones she'll bail without a single word :/ so idk if its just tension or what.

EDIT(sorry if this was supposed to be added onto the intial post I wasn't sure): So this girl came and told me some pretty deep personnal problems she was having and told me to NOT ask this other girl out who's into me (I'm not into her ) I told her I was never going to anyways. Literally the next day she started bugging me that I should ask her out and tbh I can't tell if she's being serious and when I tell her she better be joking she laughs and says maybe. So kinda confused given that she opened up to me about some serious issues but then a day later starts tryna set me up 😂

[Uniquemind]

EDIT(sorry if this was supposed to be added onto the intial post I wasn't sure): So this girl came and told me some pretty deep personnal problems she was having and told me to NOT ask this other girl out who's into me (I'm not into her ) I told her I was never going to anyways. Literally the next day she started bugging me that I should ask her out and tbh I can't tell if she's being serious and when I tell her she better be joking she laughs and says maybe. So kinda confused given that she opened up to me about some serious issues but then a day later starts tryna set me up 😂

Since your talking about two different girls here, avoid using the pronoun "her" please. I cannot figured out which female you are referring too.


Yes you were supposed to edit your original post, but whatever's a mod will let you know, you're new here so I'm fairly confident you'll be okay.


I'd recommend asking the girl out, that YOU want to take out. Follow your heart, dating people you're only half-into is not fair to yourself or the other person.

[red.astrix]

Since your talking about two different girls here, avoid using the pronoun "her" please. I cannot figured out which female you are referring too.


Yes you were supposed to edit your original post, but whatever's a mod will let you know, you're new here so I'm fairly confident you'll be okay.


I'd recommend asking the girl out, that YOU want to take out. Follow your heart, dating people you're only half-into is not fair to yourself or the other person.
My bad. I don't have any feelings for the girl I know is into me lol. I'm just wondering why the girl this thread is about is kinda bigging me to ask the girl who likes me out, cuz I kinda thought SHE liked me and based on what you guys said you did too :/

[Uniquemind]

My bad. I don't have any feelings for the girl I know is into me lol. I'm just wondering why the girl this thread is about is kinda bigging me to ask the girl who likes me out, cuz I kinda thought SHE liked me and based on what you guys said you did too :/

Again, regardless of whatever she's doing, stay the course, and ask whomever you want to ask out.

A lot of this drama stuff tends to be a test (reverse psychology possibly) point is don't get sucked into it, and do what you want, ask who you want out.

Be a genuine person, but be playful when you can to keep things lighthearted.

She's either shy and likes you or/and she's playing games with you. (I'm referring to the girl who said "maybe" in response to a serious question of you asking if she was serious or not).

Guys wouldn't necessarily see this, but girl politics might also be shaping the situation here, but that's out of your control if that variable is in this situation. Let it play out is the best advice I can offer here.

[prepkid813]

I think she does

[red.astrix]

Again, regardless of whatever she's doing, stay the course, and ask whomever you want to ask out.

A lot of this drama stuff tends to be a test (reverse psychology possibly) point is don't get sucked into it, and do what you want, ask who you want out.

Be a genuine person, but be playful when you can to keep things lighthearted.

She's either shy and likes you or/and she's playing games with you. (I'm referring to the girl who said "maybe" in response to a serious question of you asking if she was serious or not).

Guys wouldn't necessarily see this, but girl politics might also be shaping the situation here, but that's out of your control if that variable is in this situation. Let it play out is the best advice I can offer here.
Don't think its girl politics the two dont really talk or anything. Im curious to know if shes olaying me or not thought she might when she said maybe. Again I dont really wanna ask her out yet cuz Im still the new kid xD