I've got a big problem

[Foka]

So basically, I have a big problem in my life. About 11 months ago, my girlfriend (she just moved to another country, but we chose to keep it going) died in a car accident. She was with our mutual friend, and our friend was behind the wheel. She started blaming herself, which was not true and necessary, and at one point she stopped talking to me at all. I understood her completely, but I also thought that she was overreacting a bit. The guy responsible was put behind bars, and her family got a lot of money in the court. A month ago, her father called me to tell me that she killed herself. It hit ne really hard, but that's life I guess. Now I'm in a stable and beautiful relationship, but I am afraid this will affect me due to the sudden close of my last one. I'm not saying I don't love my current gf, but I just don't know if it has been too long for me to feel like crap from time to time?
Thank you all in advance for your advice!

[SethfromMI]

well, in the end, only you can determine for yourself if enough time has passed or not. I would recommend getting some type of grief counseling, I think it could do a lot of good about helping you process the information. many times you can even find a support group, so others who are going through the same/similar things can help each other

[Just JT]

I agree with Seth, we all grieve in different ways. That's a huge loss whether or not you were together or not at the time. You guys spent time together and that's history, if it's bothering you somehow, you made the right/good first step, but you may need more...

[Uniquemind]

There's a time and place for everything.

Mourn, but also acknowledge that there is a rational limit of responsibility one should take for the consequences in life.

Each person is responsible for his or her own actions, no more and no less. Bite off more than you can chew and the world's burdens will crush your soul and make you feel responsible for those burdens existing, when in reality lots of those burdens are created in the first place by more than one person, meaning they should share some blame too.

Life, love, enjoy a nice meal, and move on.