Co-Ed Sleepover

[Falcons_11]

Today when I was having lunch at my school I overheard some 9th. graders taking about a boy and girl (co-ed, they called it) sleepover that happened over Halloween weekend. I never had heard of this happening before. I just thought it was just a story. I knew one of the dudes who said he knew about it and he told me that it really happened.

Has anyone ever knew or been to a co-ed sleepover? If you have, how did it go down? Did the boys sleep in one room and the girls in another?

[Elysium]

I had a male friend stay with me for a week a few months ago (I'm a girl). He slept in the other room. I didn't really see a need for the separation, but for the sake of placating my slightly more conservative father (who really was being pretty easygoing about letting him stay with us for a week in the first place), I didn't argue. It wasn't any different than having female friends over.

[eric2001]

I think you should find out about the next one and get invited. Then you'll know.

[Miserabilia]

It's unusual for one guy and one girl to sleep over if they aren't in a relationship but especialy if there are more than 2 it's completely normal, and otherwise it's still normal if they're just good friends.

[Taryn98]

My friends and I have done this during Homecoming and Prom and our parents didn't care. We all just slept in our basement wherever you could.
It worked out good because it allowed us to party and have fun after the dance and our parents didn't worry about us ending up at a hotel or someone drinking and doing something stupid. (and no we didn't drink at our house during this)

[SethfromMI]

yes I have bee. it really depends on the party. sometimes sexes sleep in different rooms, sometimes together. sometimes more sexual stuff may go on, other times everyone is just sleeping. some people sleep fully clothed, some partially, I sleep like normal in my underwear. there are so many different factors which can go into this, so it really just depends on the situation

[Just JT]

I agree with seth, it's all different, it all depends, but if your uncomfortable with it, then don't stay, if your like the idea, follow eric2001 advice and get invited :)

[BlackParadePixie]

Can't imagine any parents of kids that age actually allowing such a thing.
I think I only ever went to one co-ed sleep over...and that was when I was like 6.

[Uniquemind]

I've gone to a few and what goes down depends on the people there.

Wild or mundane it just all depends, and you've got some introverts and extroverts as always, if the host is smart there are games planned.

As a rule I don't think parents allow such sleepovers, because it usually happened when the parents went away on business trips.

As for sleep not too many people sleep at sleepovers, or if they do it's like at some ungodly hour like 3am.

Everyone just stays in the family or living room for the most part, whatever is closest to the kitchen.

It never gets too wild because people don't want to get a easy reputation, but light flirting does happen.

[AutumnWinds]

Today when I was having lunch at my school I overheard some 9th. graders taking about a boy and girl (co-ed, they called it) sleepover that happened over Halloween weekend. I never had heard of this happening before. I just thought it was just a story. I knew one of the dudes who said he knew about it and he told me that it really happened.

Has anyone ever knew or been to a co-ed sleepover? If you have, how did it go down? Did the boys sleep in one room and the girls in another?

i went to one once where after a certain time the hosts parents just separated everyone into rooms based on gender. there was the usual talk about no one entering the other's room and a couple times throughout the night we were checked on.

i have a friend who is a bit older than i who is male and who's best friend was female. she would sleep over on the floor of his bedroom.

[LITTLEANGEL19]

Its something I would not ever do. Although I do a lot of sleep overs, also I know none of my friends would do it either.

[Just JT]

Its something I would not ever do. Although I do a lot of sleep overs, also I know none of my friends would do it either.

Just curious, why?
Just because there are boys and girls doesn't mean there is going to be like an orgie or something

[LITTLEANGEL19]

Just curious, why?
Just because there are boys and girls doesn't mean there is going to be like an orgie or something

Main reason being my mum or my friends mums would not allow it.

[Just JT]

Main reason being my mum or my friends mums would not allow it.

Removing those factors....?

[LITTLEANGEL19]

Removing those factors....?

Just personal choice.

[playfull-qt]

My friends and I have done this during Homecoming and Prom and our parents didn't care. We all just slept in our basement wherever you could.
It worked out good because it allowed us to party and have fun after the dance and our parents didn't worry about us ending up at a hotel or someone drinking and doing something stupid. (and no we didn't drink at our house during this)

I've also been in the same situation as Taryn where after some type of event a group (8 - 10)of my friends and I would all get together at someone's house and spend the night in a "SAFE" place. Everyone pretty much just crashed together on the sofa, chairs, or the floor. It wasn't like there were girls and guys sharing a bed together.

[Uniquemind]

Looks like from responses everyone has different experiences and the host's rules for co-ed sleepovers are all different experiences.

TJreversed I thumbs up what he said, co-ed does not mean orgies happen, in truth most people are too self-conscious for that, and I suspect that most people want privacy when something that intimate goes down. Few want to risk their closest circle of friends walking-in on them with a potential boyfriend/girlfriend.

As a closing statement I will say this. After what happened in Paris today I will definitely be holding my friends and family a little tighter tonight, maybe a sleepover to provide emotional support for those I know affected by the tragedy.

[Just JT]

Where is the like button, maybe a heart button instead bro...

But on this topic, nothing wrong with coed sleeping together especially when it soothes people during difficult times in their lives like with this cowardly attack on a fery friendly loving country

Hold your loved ones and friends close and don't let go....

[Smc711]

while living at home i did not sleep over anyones house except one guy friend. and its silly to think that only girls and guys will have sex. these days two guys sleeping over could be having sex. tbh if i had come out in senior year, and i slept over that friends house then we might have fooled around. seperating based on gender is silly. while at college i have slept in the same beds as females, nothing sexual happened and i didnt want anything sexual to happen. granted they were lesbians... hahh
the point is, life is to short to worry about who sleeps where because whats between there legs. just becareful but make sure you still have fun. (fun doesnt mean sex)

[Kelsey1031]

my dad allows me and my brother to have sleepovers with our friends at the same time... we all sleep in the basement and we all hang out together and play games & stuff.

[nicole97]

It's not uncommon if it's a group (4+ people) thing in my experience, especially after an event like some others have said. However when talking about just a couple or even 3 people it's pretty rare, when it does happen it's usually out of necessity and most often involves separate rooms.

[Harrier]

It's not uncommon if it's a group (4+ people) thing in my experience, especially after an event like some others have said. However when talking about just a couple or even 3 people it's pretty rare, when it does happen it's usually out of necessity and most often involves separate rooms.

Agree. Group size and event is critical info. At least one person here described essentially. an unsupervised party which I don't onsider a coed sleepover. And IMO it would be real awkward to invite any girl to a solo sleepover with me and even more awkward to ask my mom permission for it (which I know she'd deny). I can almost imagine asking her for like 5 boys and 5 girls sleeping over but still no lol. Actually something weird took place my freshman year that at the time I or nobody else took notice of but now that I think about it, it's fucking weird haha. So my frosh cross country coach was in college and living at home and invited every frosh boy and girl to his parents house for a coed sleepover. It wasn't weird at all and was a ton of fun. His mom was really nice and grandmotherly bringing cookies downstairs. We played board games. All innocent. Then we slept in sleeping bags by each other. I had a gigantic raging hard on all night fantasizing what I wanted to do lol.

[GryffindorGirl]

my dad allows me and my brother to have sleepovers with our friends at the same time... we all sleep in the basement and we all hang out together and play games & stuff.

That sounds pretty awesome, wish I had a brother lol

[Akko2002]

I still have my friend who is a girl sleep over and a sleep at hers, don't see any thing wrong with it as long as both parents are ok with it

[Jaffe]

I am not sure I understand why there is even a question or an issue. It's a sleepover, not an orgie! Geez, people!

People just throw blankets or sleeping bags on the parlour floor, strip to their underwear, put on nightclothes if they wish, and get in bed. Then talk all night, of course. But what is the issue? It's just a bunch of kids on a sleepover.

[Cadanance00]

I've been to one Nothing sexual happened. *snaps fingers* Oh, darn.

[lacey02]

my parents would never allow mixed company. they struggle just to allow friends overe

[Jordan99]

I've had and been to co-ed sleepovers and nothing happened I wouldn't do in front of my parents. First of all, when we have co-ed sleepovers at my house, my older brother is there (as I my little brother who often crawls up next to me to sleep). Now, there have been times when I slept over at my BFF's house when her parents were out of town and we each invited our BF's over and things got interesting :)