Girl version of a guy

[Melkor]

Ummm, I know this is weird, but i like a guy and his behaviours and how we are so similar to each other and we always have things to talk about but the problem is he is straight and well i also mostly prefer women but his qualities are not in women i have met so far, do you think it is possible to date women with more masculine qualities? Are they rare or are they rare among certain ethnic groups or smth ?

[AutumnWinds]

i think it;s certainly possible to find a girl like that...however, in my opinion, it's never a good idea to try and date someone just because they remind you of someone you cannot have.

[Miserabilia]

They exist but I do not think it would fulfil what you want.

[Babs]

Some guys act feminine. It's not a big deal. He's not a "girl version of a guy" per se, he just acts feminine. I know more guys who are macho and shit, but feminine guys are out there. It's not a big deal, it's just how they are.

[ashdyn]

If you prefer women mostly then it's not the masculinity you're really looking for lol I get where you're coming from though. It's a lot easier to connect with other guys cause guys tend to be more low maintenance and you obviously are gunna have a few more things in common. I think you're just not into the girly type girl which is fine. And I promise there are a bunch of girls out there that aren't lesbian that also aren't interested in become prom queen any time soon lol

[Typhlosion]

Instead of looking for specific behaviors from a potential partner, why not be open to the endless variety of people you'll ever meet? You'll be very surprised!

[Melkor]

Thanks guys for the replies.
Instead of looking for specific behaviors from a potential partner, why not be open to the endless variety of people you'll ever meet? You'll be very surprised!

I tried to be open to everyone but there has been some cases recently that made me realize that I cannot get along with most girls around me so, kinda limited myself.

i think it;s certainly possible to find a girl like that...however, in my opinion, it's never a good idea to try and date someone just because they remind you of someone you cannot have.

I mean if I want to deal with reality, I prefer having someone that reminds me of someone else atleast I can smile without thinking that the other person is not present anymore.

[SillyShyGuy]

It seems as though your avatar is Sauron. He is insignificant to the power of the Force. I think there are a fair amount of women who possess masculine qualities. It is difficult to find them because some of them are the ones that play sports, some of them play video games, and the rest are lesbians. Albeit women look for men with feminine qualities as well. Just observe the girls you like and see if they seem to be the same as your guy friend.

[AutumnWinds]

Thanks guys for the replies.


I tried to be open to everyone but there has been some cases recently that made me realize that I cannot get along with most girls around me so, kinda limited myself.



I mean if I want to deal with reality, I prefer having someone that reminds me of someone else atleast I can smile without thinking that the other person is not present anymore.

you know yourself better than i do, but i thing inevitably the person either finds out they're a placeholder and leaves, or you end up resenting the for not being enough like the person you wish you had.

[lacey02]

i think it;s certainly possible to find a girl like that...however, in my opinion, it's never a good idea to try and date someone just because they remind you of someone you cannot have.

good advice

[Melkor]

It seems as though your avatar is Sauron. He is insignificant to the power of the Force. I think there are a fair amount of women who possess masculine qualities. It is difficult to find them because some of them are the ones that play sports, some of them play video games, and the rest are lesbians. Albeit women look for men with feminine qualities as well. Just observe the girls you like and see if they seem to be the same as your guy friend.
I think due to my astronomically high standards I am not able to look away from people that I used to like because it is hard to find anyone like them. Thanks for the advice though.

you know yourself better than i do, but i thing inevitably the person either finds out they're a placeholder and leaves, or you end up resenting the for not being enough like the person you wish you had.
You are absolutely right, do you know anyway that I can possibly get out of this phase, I have been in this phase before and it led me well... to not very pleasant situation?

[AutumnWinds]

I think due to my astronomically high standards I am not able to look away from people that I used to like because it is hard to find anyone like them. Thanks for the advice though.


You are absolutely right, do you know anyway that I can possibly get out of this phase, I have been in this phase before and it led me well... to not very pleasant situation?

this is going to sound really silly, bit a friend of mine got this suggesting once when he was in a sort of similar situation, and it helped him.

you need to challenge your thoughts on this girl. when you find yourself missing her, you need to remind yourself that you can't be with her. i know it sounds stupid and kind of mean, but it helps you train your mind to stop being so hung up on the situation and accept the reality of it, which helps you move forward, you know?

[Melkor]

this is going to sound really silly, bit a friend of mine got this suggesting once when he was in a sort of similar situation, and it helped him.

you need to challenge your thoughts on this girl. when you find yourself missing her, you need to remind yourself that you can't be with her. i know it sounds stupid and kind of mean, but it helps you train your mind to stop being so hung up on the situation and accept the reality of it, which helps you move forward, you know?
Idk if you believe me, but i tried this and it is torture. I know the world is about the things you can have and not the things you can't but yesterday, I was just challenging my thoughts and my friend kinda realized that I was having a bad time he patted on my back saying it is okay, I really didn't get what he was referring to but I am just saying it is very painful.