Friends are sleeping with each other

[Pulp501]

I have these two friends, Aimee and Alex and the three of us hang out all the time now. Aimee and Alex both told me that they wanted to have sex with the other, but not date. At first I thought that would be fun and whatever and I pushed them to do it, but now I'm feeling a little jealous. I'm jealous that she chose Alex because he's a lot better looking than me and has sex a lot while I never do anything with girls but I'm just jealous that they are sharing something special that I don't get to be included in. I mean, Aimee spends time with just me and Alex spends a lot more time with me than Aimee but like they're gonna be having sex when their together, I feel like the third wheel. Btw they haven't actually done it yet just making out and oral but they're planning it. Also they usually do it in their car outside my house which bothers me.

[Dan1234]

You could ask them to refrain them doing it outside your house? Do you have any other friends you could spend time with?

I can understand why you'd be a bit jealous, but after pushing them to do it there's not really too much you can do. The best thing to do would be to either talk to/meet other girls or if it bothers you that they're having sex that much perhaps have a quiet chat to one of them about it

[AutumnWinds]

it's a difficult situation to be in, but aside from asking them not to do it in your house there isn't much you can do. i'm sorry this worked out differently than you had hoped feelings wise.

[SethfromMI]

if they want to have sex with each other that is their choice. they can both be your friends. I understand how you feel, but there is not much you can do. be happy for them

[Uniquemind]

You know what's worse than this situation though, being caught in the middle of two friends who are in a sexual relationship, only to be witness to fallout because someone gave the other an STD/STI.

Now that's awkward, and I've been in that situation.

#nolongerfriends #thirdwheel #awkwardbecausenorealanswers

[Cadanance00]

Can't help it. You are a third wheel in that relationship. Tough place to be in.

[Jordan99]

They like each other as more than friends. It's tough to have friends of the opposite sex if you are straight...sex ALWAYS gets in the way.

[phuckphace]

I can deal with mutual friends doing each other but getting down to business in the driveway is weird as hell and if it were me I'd tell them to knock it off and get a room. I mean can it not wait a couple hours?

[Bontigo Papi .]

they like each other as more than friends. It's tough to have friends of the opposite sex if you are straight...sex always gets in the way.

always!

[Uniquemind]

They like each other as more than friends. It's tough to have friends of the opposite sex if you are straight...sex ALWAYS gets in the way.

Really? I've always found that it comes in stages. Like once their a couple you won't see them for a couple months because they're always seeking out private time to satisfy the lust, but after a year or so it mellows out a bit.

But as a 3rd wheel you just find solo activities to do.
In my case I just studied harder and aced my exams.


That's my advice to the OP btw, play the waiting game, and find other stuff to do.

[Magenta]

They like each other as more than friends. It's tough to have friends of the opposite sex if you are straight...sex ALWAYS gets in the way.

For a moment I missed the "if you are straight" bit and was gonna be like "how do you think I feel as a lesbian with entirely female friends". But anyway, I digress.

You can't control their sex lives. It's a bit awkward but whatever, you did encourage them, not like you can take that back.

The driveway thing? Yeah, that's gotta go. I can get feeling a bit like a third wheel but at that point, it's just weird. They can have their sex life but if I were you I'd tell them to go lose it in one of their own driveways.

[Uniquemind]

For a moment I missed the "if you are straight" bit and was gonna be like "how do you think I feel as a lesbian with entirely female friends". But anyway, I digress.

You can't control their sex lives. It's a bit awkward but whatever, you did encourage them, not like you can take that back.

The driveway thing? Yeah, that's gotta go. I can get feeling a bit like a third wheel but at that point, it's just weird. They can have their sex life but if I were you I'd tell them to go lose it in one of their own driveways.

If I were the OP I would've totally joked with them and said, that I know they've discovered they have an exhibitionist streak, but to please relocate.

Hygiene is also another reason, especially if it was happening in my car.

[Pulp501]

Really? I've always found that it comes in stages. Like once their a couple you won't see them for a couple months because they're always seeking out private time to satisfy the lust, but after a year or so it mellows out a bit.

But as a 3rd wheel you just find solo activities to do.
In my case I just studied harder and aced my exams.


That's my advice to the OP btw, play the waiting game, and find other stuff to do.

Thanks for the advice, that just wouldn't work for me, I need my friends. Luckily they aren't going to date.

[Uniquemind]

Thanks for the advice, that just wouldn't work for me, I need my friends. Luckily they aren't going to date.

Dropping a line like that would push your friends away from you?

Also what do you mean by "they aren't going to date"?

[Bubbawhack]

Honestly the best thing to do is just to tell them that it makes you uncomfortable.
Just know that their relationship will be changed once they get romantically involved, and depending on how it goes they may no longer be "friends." Sex makes things more complicated.

[SethfromMI]

Dropping a line like that would push your friends away from you?

Also what do you mean by "they aren't going to date"?

I totally agree. OP, what if they do end up wanting to date? or at least continue what they're doing? This could cause a very negative reaction from both against you. I know you probably would not say that to them specifically, but got to be careful

[Pulp501]

I totally agree. OP, what if they do end up wanting to date? or at least continue what they're doing? This could cause a very negative reaction from both against you. I know you probably would not say that to them specifically, but got to be careful
I'm not sure how to quote both of you here but I'm not sure I understand what you're talking about. They arent going to date, Aimee has moved on and me and her are barely talking Alex right now, so I'm worried about them being mad at me right now.

[SethfromMI]

I'm not sure how to quote both of you here but I'm not sure I understand what you're talking about. They arent going to date, Aimee has moved on and me and her are barely talking Alex right now, so I'm worried about them being mad at me right now.

well did you do something to force them away from each other?

[angelina]

Btw they haven't actually done it yet just making out and oral but they're planning it. Also they usually do it in their car outside my house which bothers me.

Avoid them if you feel humiliated.You can not be a mere onlooker to see them making out..Why do you bother if they do it out side your house?

[Pulp501]

well did you do something to force them away from each other?

No he just didn't want to anymore so she moved on, that was mostly their drama not mine.

[SethfromMI]

No he just didn't want to anymore so she moved on, that was mostly their drama not mine.

sadly those types of relationships are able to ruin friendships. hopefully, everyone will be able to make some type of peace with each other

[lacey02]

I dont think it will work out where the three of you remain friends like you are now if they end up doing it. Maybe I am just a pessimist, but please update how it goes in a year.

[Uniquemind]

sadly those types of relationships are able to ruin friendships. hopefully, everyone will be able to make some type of peace with each other

The birth and death of all this drama over the span of just a couple months; sad.

Me thinks someone got feelings involved.

OP is stuck in the ripple effects.

[Pulp501]

The birth and death of all this drama over the span of just a couple months; sad.

Me thinks someone got feelings involved.

OP is stuck in the ripple effects.

Well to update right now everyone is good with each other except I'm kind of mad at Alex and not sure about our friendship but the reasons are too unrelated for this thread.