Little brother wants me to show him how to jack off. What should I do?

[Blake24]

My 12 year old little brother asked me this morning to show him how to jack off. He told me his dick keeps getting hard constantly and he has been waking up with a tent in his boxers from morning wood. He's seen me in the morning with a boner in my boxers as I'm walking to the bathroom and now he wants advice on how to masturbate.

He says he can't stop thinking about girls and he knows I jack off and have a girlfriend too. I don't really think it's a good idea to actually show him. Should I just suggest he look up some porn and let himself get a boner from it and go from there or what? Seems kinda weird to actually show him though.

[Salad_Baby]

Yeah I think you should suggest for him to watch some porn, or look it up online. Might be a bit awkward to physically show him..

[Bull]

My brother learned from me by watching. We share a room and bathroom. not a fan of porn, so I would say let him watch you rather than porn. but if that would make you uncomfortable I guess some porn

[Blake24]

My brother learned from me by watching. We share a room and bathroom. not a fan of porn, so I would say let him watch you rather than porn. but if that would make you uncomfortable I guess some porn

We share a bathroom too. I mean it wouldn't make me uncomfortable or anything. He's seen me with a boner, plus with morning wood. He's also walked in on me jacking off to porn on the computer in my room before. I dont know, just seems like he should maybe figure it out for himself.

[MartyG]

Honestly I think he's doing a number on you. Surely at 12 he knows how to jack off or could easily figure it out on his own.

[fandom_king]

You could show him. It might bring you closer together. And remember to tell him that he can ask you any questions he has about puberty

[TheLotus]

You don't necessarily have to show him how to do it himself. You could always just explain the act to him or like you said, just tell him to look it up on his own

[Bluebyrd]

Point him towards the Internet ;)

[Hermes]

I don't think there would be any harm in you showing him but you should not feel like you need to do something you are uncomfortable with; he will figure out even if you don't show him. You could also demonstrate the motion on something other than a penis if you'd feel more comfortable doing that.

[ska8er]

I would show him if u feel comfortable with it. ur bros- its not like
someone u just met-maybe he wants to c u do it.

[Bull]

We share a bathroom too. I mean it wouldn't make me uncomfortable or anything. He's seen me with a boner, plus with morning wood. He's also walked in on me jacking off to porn on the computer in my room before. I dont know, just seems like he should maybe figure it out for himself.

Next time he walks in on you, just continue and let him watch. I think that is really what he wants, just doesn't want to come out and ask to watch.

[pconnor2001]

there are a couple good internet sites that give good advice. I don't know what I can say on this forum so I will leave at that. But these sites are NOT porn -just informative.

[Blake24]

I would show him if u feel comfortable with it. ur bros- its not like
someone u just met-maybe he wants to c u do it.

Your probably right. I mean I'm not uncomfortable jacking off in front of him. I mean when your hard and horny you gotta take care of yourself. Just wasn't sure if there are better ways to deal with this.

[Semi_IronMan]

I think it's something he should learn himself so I don't advice u show him. As for the porn part, I don't think you should encourage him to watch it, what if he gets addicted to it?

[Second Chance]

I would not recommend masturbating with your brother, but you can talk him through the process. I suppose if he is in the washroom doing it while you are on the other side of the door talking him through the process, then that would be all right. I guess if you and your brother are really close you can be in his bedroom or washroom with him telling him what to do while not actually touching him. The reason why I think it is best not to touch him is that he might try to jack off with you again even if you're not comfortable with it.

More than anything just reassure him that's he is normal and be honest about puberty. Just don't make fun of him or be a douche by making him feel bad about his development. At least he trusts you enough to ask you for help, and try to be a resource for him while not getting sexual with him so that he doesn't develop odd fetishes.

Let us know how things turn out.

[Catholic Guy]

Well he feels comfortable enough to ask, he's seen you do it before anyway just sit him down put on some porn and go to town on yourself

[Stuey1]

I see two sides to this, One; your brother actually knows how to 'Jack off' as you stated he's seen you before "He's also walked in on me jacking off" so in my opinion he already knows how to do it having seen you, instead he wishes to compare with you or maybe even Jack Off together.

The second thought I had was maybe he is actually curious of how to Jack Off, maybe learn a new technique or something - have you ever noticed him with a erection on a morning or any time of the day? Have you even seen him Jacking Off?

In my personal opinion, if you feel confident try it after all, he is your little brother but, don't do anything your not confident with.

[Just JT]

There's no real right or wrong answer here unfortunatly and there are a number of threads on similar topics all divided as well
End of day, he's ok with asking, your ok with showing, so there's really no harm there
Better to be educated by you, with quality input of appropriate information

In reality, it will bring you guys a lot closer together and a tighter bond, and this is actually a pretty normal activity amongst brothers, especially when sharing a room, and young friends anyways.

He has questions, be happy he's asking you....

[Maxime]

I think (but it's just my opinion) that masturbating in front of someone else is something sexual, and something sexual with a family member is, in my mind, inappropriate.

[SethfromMI]

My 12 year old little brother asked me this morning to show him how to jack off. He told me his dick keeps getting hard constantly and he has been waking up with a tent in his boxers from morning wood. He's seen me in the morning with a boner in my boxers as I'm walking to the bathroom and now he wants advice on how to masturbate.

He says he can't stop thinking about girls and he knows I jack off and have a girlfriend too. I don't really think it's a good idea to actually show him. Should I just suggest he look up some porn and let himself get a boner from it and go from there or what? Seems kinda weird to actually show him though.

I agree with you on not actually showing him man. you can tell him to watch some porn, you can even understand the basic mechanics of jacking off (lol which most guys figure on their own anyways), but showing him...some do, but it is not something I would do if I had a younger brother

[ska8er]

My 12 year old little brother asked me this morning to show him how to jack off. He told me his dick keeps getting hard constantly and he has been waking up with a tent in his boxers from morning wood. He's seen me in the morning with a boner in my boxers as I'm walking to the bathroom and now he wants advice on how to masturbate.

He says he can't stop thinking about girls and he knows I jack off and have a girlfriend too. I don't really think it's a good idea to actually show him. Should I just suggest he look up some porn and let himself get a boner from it and go from there or what? Seems kinda weird to actually show him though.

i think u two could do a lot of male bonding here. its ur bro man hes
looking up to u. ask him whats on his mind.



Lookinf For Friends

Your probably right. I mean I'm not uncomfortable jacking off in front of him. I mean when your hard and horny you gotta take care of yourself. Just wasn't sure if there are better ways to deal with this.

I think this could lead to a lot of male bonding-ask him
whats on his mind that's all.



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[Ajcowell]

I would talk to him about it and see how he would want you to teach him wether that be like you physically show him or just describe it to him. When I was about 11 or12 I asked him about it and he showed me.

[Hudor]

I think it's something most guys discover on their own. But if he's curious you could probably explain it to him without actually demonstrating or if he walks in on you jacking off, you could continue and let him watch.

[jelly3000]

I'm not totally sure - but I'd feel more comfortable talking about it with a brother, possibly show him how to do it (on my finger/not actual penis) - but not in real life. That should give him enough of an idea....

[hoglet]

Did you show him?

[sam99]

suggest porn and maybe explain how it works and what will "cum" out haha but no need to show him. my older brother explained it to me that way.

[football matt]

My older bro showed me. It's no big deal.

[Sean4U]

There's no real right or wrong answer here unfortunatly and there are a number of threads on similar topics all divided as well
End of day, he's ok with asking, your ok with showing, so there's really no harm there
Better to be educated by you, with quality input of appropriate information

In reality, it will bring you guys a lot closer together and a tighter bond, and this is actually a pretty normal activity amongst brothers, especially when sharing a room, and young friends anyways.

He has questions, be happy he's asking you....

I have one older brother and twins that are younger. We all have jacked off together. I remember when I first saw my older brother (I was already jacking off anyway) it was like "cool, he does it too." We shared a room so we just jacked off whenever we needed, most of the time together.

My younger twin brothers caught me when they were like 13. They asked to do it with me and I saw no harm in it. I really didn't teach them as they learned from each other long before they caught me.

As was mentioned above there is no right or wrong answer, but as long as each of you is comfortable with it, no harm done. Good luck because you and your brother are the only two that need to figure out what you want to do.

[Just JT]

I have one older brother and twins that are younger. We all have jacked off together. I remember when I first saw my older brother (I was already jacking off anyway) it was like "cool, he does it too." We shared a room so we just jacked off whenever we needed, most of the time together.

My younger twin brothers caught me when they were like 13. They asked to do it with me and I saw no harm in it. I really didn't teach them as they learned from each other long before they caught me.

As was mentioned above there is no right or wrong answer, but as long as each of you is comfortable with it, no harm done. Good luck because you and your brother are the only two that need to figure out what you want to do.

You obviously have a good family, never had any brothers, but I do have friends with brothers, and Id be lying if I were to say I've never heard of what you and I speak of, and made them and me a lot closer friends to, it's cool.

[Pulp501]

Okay it's not that complicated. Just grab something to simulate a penis or just say you grab your penis and motion with your hand. You don't actually have to masturbate. Tell him to go do that to his dick and he will catch on.

[will0c]

I don't really see any reason why showing him would be wrong. You guys are brothers and he probably just wants to know that what he is doing is normal. You've said he's caught you before, so it's not like he hasn't seen you do it. I think he just wants to know you're there if he has questions.

I like the idea of just keeping going if he catches you again. But if he asks to be shown, just say sure and the next time you both have tents in your boxers give him a lesson. You don't have to go all the way to cumming if that makes you uncomfortable (not that he can necessarily cum yet)

[Blake24]

I like the idea of just keeping going if he catches you again. But if he asks to be shown, just say sure and the next time you both have tents in your boxers give him a lesson. You don't have to go all the way to cumming if that makes you uncomfortable (not that he can necessarily cum yet)

Yeah. Good point there.

[JavierDolan]

I mean, the choice is yours. You could either just tell him to look that up online, or you could show him. Either way I think is fine, but that's just me.

[Blake24]

Did you show him?

Yeah I did. Last night. He saw me watching porn and my basketball shorts were tented out so I just took care of myself.

[the darkness]

Yeah I did. Last night. He saw me watching porn and my basketball shorts were tented out so I just took care of myself.

I would've shown him too if I was in your position.

[Just JT]

Yeah I did. Last night. He saw me watching porn and my basketball shorts were tented out so I just took care of myself.

What was his reaction to it?

[colesixteen]

I am glad to hear that you jacked in front of your brother. If he was asking about it, and you were cool with it, it was the right thing to do. It will probably end up making you close to your brother, and he will probably see u as a pretty cool older brother.

[pascaldesla]

Are you really serious? you want to be Wanking teacher?

[Just JT]

I am glad to hear that you jacked in front of your brother. If he was asking about it, and you were cool with it, it was the right thing to do. It will probably end up making you close to your brother, and he will probably see u as a pretty cool older brother.

Are you really serious? you want to be Wanking teacher?

Let's not be judgementL here ok? If it's something that works for both, nobody gets hurt, all parties are willing...it's more common than some people want to think about really...

[Blake24]

What was his reaction to it?

He was cool about it. I think he was starting to get hard from the porn I had on. He went in to the bathroom immediately afterward and was in there a while. He thanked me later on for showing him.

[Just JT]

Guess he figured it out huh?
Most kids our age pretty much do, but the difference between figuring it out, like he did, or being appropriately encouraged, and "taught" if you will is a big difference
Just satisfy his curiosity is all
Ok?

[KenBoy6]

I'd say it's cool to show him how

[Zachary G]

I wouldnt show him, but I would refer him to Youtube, there are actually videos on the subject, or you could just let him figure it out on his own. Like you said, hes caught you before, so Im sure he knows the basics.

[soccerismylife]

I wouldn't show him just tell him to watch porn and learn from there

[Pat the Bunny]

something something boner something somethign brother something something jacking off

If you don't want to show him, just say know. Jacking off isn't science, if he really wants to he'll find out how.

[NotQuiteANerd97]

You could give a visual demonstration, or mime it. Or you could just tell him to experiment with himself.

[KawaiiSamii]

you should suggest for him to watch some porn, or look it up online.

[mark_anders]

you can let him see you by "accident" that way you can show him but it wont be like you were in on it. i saw my dad doing it when i was his age and never told him about it thats how i figured out how to do it

[mark_anders]

Yeah I did. Last night. He saw me watching porn and my basketball shorts were tented out so I just took care of myself.

what did he say...i saw my dad when i was that age and never told him but it was good way to learn

[Bontigo Papi .]

If he wants to learn, he should learn. If you don't want to teach him, he'll have to learn himself. I'm not saying you should keep a 30 minute porno on and tell him to do what's natural.

[hairy balls]

I think he's doing a number on you. Surely at 12 he knows how to jack off or could easily figure it out on his own. tell him about this sight

[curryjacket]

I think you were right for showing him. :)

[Blake24]

Just one question, Did you ejaculate in front of him? Did he know what that was?

Yeah I did. He knew I think.

[SethfromMI]

Has he asked you about it again?
Have you done anything else with him since?

um it is not my brother so I have no clue what has happened since the OP made this post

[Blake24]

Has he asked you about it again?
Have you done anything else with him since?

No he hasn't asked me since. I know he's been jacking off a lot though. He's told me he does and I caught him yesterday watching porn with a boner and rubbing his dick.

[pjones]

I think he's doing a number on you. Surely at 12 he knows how to jack off or could easily figure it out on his own. tell him about this sight

i was so dumb about it at 12 my friend had to show me, but he was 12 too

[BigBrother]

I would ask you if someone showed you how to jack? If not, I would let him figure his body out. That's part of the fun

[Daniel2002]

No he hasn't asked me since. I know he's been jacking off a lot though. He's told me he does and I caught him yesterday watching porn with a boner and rubbing his dick.

Does he need it? Does he ejaculate? I remember I started after I had wet dreams.

[WAN98]

I showed my cousin when he was 12 and it wasn't that awkward once we started

[chiisaiaoiryu]

Sorry for responding a bit late since you probably already found a way to fix this problem. But if you haven't, then I'd suggest that you show him how to jack off through an example of a phallic object. You could just use a banana or a hot dog or some stiff straight object in your house and show him the basic movements.

However, I wouldn't suggest guiding him to watch porn. Being that he's twelve, his mind will be more open to what he sees and thus might not be able to fully comprehend what is normal sexual behavior and what is overly glorified sex scenes. Granted that his mind's now just sexually developing, so having him watch porn at his age to learn wouldn't be a good idea. Maybe when he's fifteen or sixteen, but not now. Just my two cents on the issue.

[nwtnguy]

Tell him to google it

[Blake24]

I think its good u showed him, itll help u bond and hell probly come to u for more advice later, my brothers are alot older so i had to find out on my own and got a late start, i wish i had a brother thatcoulda taught me or i coulda asked. Good job for showin him :)

Thanks man.

[AsTheTrombonePlays]

Blake, you stated that it doesn't make you uncomfortable. I don't think much more needs to be said.

How well do you get along with your little brother outside sexual issues? Are you guys best friends? Conflicting (like with my own little brother)? Hostile? Neutral and indifferent? Having a good relationship is a first.

That said, you can totally take or leave what I'm about to say.

For health and social reasons, I say this: if you and he get along, better he learns from watching you than through destructive behaviors. Granted, do what you're comfortable with always. However, keep in mind that if you tell him that it's "awkward" for you to teach him (when, again, according to you here, you're not uncomfortable with it), your attitude is influencing your brother; the outcome of that kind of message may not always be positive.

(It's bad enough that we live in "sex-negative" countries like the U. S. and Britain. On the other hand, such traditions of social attitudes can end with us.)

If anything, let him know that it's okay to have these boners and that masturbating is the best way to release it. As a bonus, since you guys share a common interest in girls in porn, maybe you can use it as a teaching device; again, if you feel comfortable doing so.

I maybe in the minority, and I'm guessing I might even get some scorn for it. However, my intentions is help the sexual well-being of younger curious brothers who may benefit from it. So, there you go.



edit - My bad. It looks like the OP Blake24 has resolved his inquiry already.
However, once again, my advice applies to others who may read in the same situation. ^^^

[Living For Love]

This seems to be resolved, and it's kind of inappropriate as well. :locked: