Not ready to date

[ZzeWatermelon]

My best friend asked my crush if he liked me, and then apparently my crush said: "She has a great personality, but I wouldn't feel ready to date her".

What's the meaning? My best friend said that it's positive, and I should still expect something great to happen.
Thanks.

[Uniquemind]

It is positive it's just he recognizes he's immature about how to handle himself on a date and that scares him.

So he's just not doing anything at all, he's at an inertia. Therefore so are you.

I imagine this to be that male-female maturity gap with us females being ready to dabble in flirting and mild dating before guys are.

I'd drop the line in his ear directly and bluntly "you know if you like me, we should spend some time together, I'm new at this too and there's no pressure of what's right or wrong here"

But also don't wait around for him forever explore other options, and be prepared to move on.

The waiting game can suck.

[ZzeWatermelon]

Oh okay... so it doesn't mean that it's no forever.

[Uniquemind]

No but it may be in your best interest to move on.

And let's be clear "Move On" for the genuine sake of moving on not to make him jealous.

Guys who are ready to date girls get over fears about approaching them pretty fast.

If he's not ready he's prob telling the truth.

Also in my opinion you're not ready either, because you're too nervous and you haven't had the courage yet to go up to him directly to ask him out.

You had to do it through help with a friend.

[ZzeWatermelon]

Yes I see, so that means that he isn't interested? If I understand it correctly.

[Miserabilia]

If I'd say that I'd mean what I say, just that I don't know you well enough. Or there's a context like maybe he just broke up, your post doens't have a lot of information.
Just generaly speaking guys say what they mean so you probably should look at it literaly.

[ZzeWatermelon]

Ok, and no he didn't have any bad relationship recently.
Well last year he got rejected by a girl at the end of the school year, and that girl is one of my close friends.
And also he's crushing on this hot girl in my class that everyone likes, and maybe that's the reason he doesn't wanna date? Just to make sure he has his chances until the end?
When I asked my best friend for more infos he was like: "no what he said is that he doesn't wanna be in a relationship for the moment/right now, not even with that hot girl".
So what could be the reason?
Is there any possible way that if I get closer to him (and I still am getting closer to him, I'm more than halfway through) that he flips on that "no relationship switch" and we go out?
It's just a "no" for dating for now right? And not just for me?

[Uniquemind]

The only way to know for sure is to ask him directly.

I can't understand why you haven't yet if it's causing you that much stress.

[SillyShyGuy]

I think it is a positive thing because it means he either wants to get to know you better, is not very experienced in dating, or both. Just spend more time with him because I believe your best friend. Your best friend thinks your crush is interested, he just needs time.

[ZzeWatermelon]

That's awesome! :)
Uniquemind- I am not going to ask, not cause I'm shy to do it, but just cause that's the best part of crushes, when you're like uncertain about everything. :P And asking would end this :D

[Uniquemind]

That's awesome! :)
Uniquemind- I am not going to ask, not cause I'm shy to do it, but just cause that's the best part of crushes, when you're like uncertain about everything. :P And asking would end this :D

So it's fear then that holding you back?

I'm starting to wonder if you like that fantasy about the idea of being "in love or a relationship" more than the potential reality of it.

Also we personally differ there, I loathed uncertainty, and I appreciate smooth, soft, stable and silky emotional tones in my relationships. To me that's the best part, so maybe I can't relate to you then.

[ZzeWatermelon]

No, it's no fear. I love adrenaline :) But still as from what we both see the solution is to spending more time with him, so I can get closer to him.

[Babs]

a. he's not ready to date.
b. he wants to let you down easy.

There's not always a hidden meaning to everything

[ZzeWatermelon]

Well since he talked to my best friend this wasn't letting "me" down in a way.

[ZzeWatermelon]

The more I think about it, the more I notice that in fact it meant: "No I don't wanna date her, she has a great personality, but nothing more in my opinion". He meant that without being harsh.

[Uniquemind]

Aww sorry.

Now I'm left with the question of why keeps glancing at you then.

Or do you think that was all bias from your perspective?

[ZzeWatermelon]

No he does glance, but maybe it doesn't mean anything.
And on Facebook (He sent me a friend request recently) I did this quiz on what will my love situation be like in the future XD And the thing said: Oh you'll be dating someone...
And I shared it.
And he liked the post.
Like WHAT.