She's confusing me!

[Solvez18]

Alright, so I posted another thread a few months ago about a girl I met online. I ended up telling her how I felt and it's worked out well. Turned out she really liked me and I really liked her. We knew each other for about 6 months before I said anything. Recently she started telling me she loved me, and with my feelings towards her I told her the same. This is a long distance relationship and we haven't physically met yet.

About a week ago she started PMSing and didn't like it when I told her I 'loved' her. So I stopped and just went with whatever for the week. She's moved onto her period now and she's confusing the fuck out of me. She told me today she loved me again. But I made a suggestion to her jokingly and she snapped saying to me "You're not my boyfriend, you can't tell me what to do!". At this point I'm sitting here in disbelief. She then asks me later on that day when I can finally come meet her and if we can spend time together.

Can someone please help me out here? I realise this is confusing as shit. I'm going to speak with her about it when I can bring up the subject. But what do you guys think of all this? How could you tell someone you "love" them then reject them as someone close to you? I don't understand this at all, we've been really comfortable and happy with talking each other about our feelings towards each other for about 2 months now. Yet she's telling me this bullshit? I just don't understand this at all. So an opinion would be great. Personally I would love to suggest it's the result of her having a bad really couple of weeks. She always acts like a whole new person when she ends up PMSing and during her period she's usually quite stable. But I'll assume the stress built up while she was PMSing just didn't help her emotions when she started her period. Any ideas?

[Salad_Baby]

I think you've already given the answer as to why she's acting so strangely - her period. Girls can act completely bipolar whilst on their period, meaning what they say may not actually be what they truly believe. Seeing as how long you guys have been 'in love', and for her to suddenly deny/reject you ever loving her/her ever loving her strongly suggests it's just a phase. I wouldn't press her too much about it - just let her get off her period, and see if her attitude has changed by then. You wouldn't to 'start' something genuine.

[Babs]

Lord. Are people still doing the whole "lol she's on her period" thing? That's stupid advice brah. And is it really the only explanation you can think of when a female acts differently than you want them to? Try harder, man.

[SillyShyGuy]

Haha do not worry. If she is on her cycle then it will pass in a few more days. When you see her bring chocolate or cupcakes. If she does like you then being on her cycle is making her say things she probably does not mean. If it continues for longer than a week then it is a bad sign. On the other hand, my lady friends tell me that during the cycle is the time when a girl most likely wants to fool around. Maybe see is asking you to spend time with you so she can jump on you and make out with you. Haha

[Solvez18]

Thanks for the replies guys, I'll consider the advice. She's a real nice girl but she's like a whole new person whenever she's about to have that time of the month. I'm not neccesarily blaming it all on her period. I'm just stating the fact that she's had a real rough two weeks and it's been stressing her out alot. I'm assuming the hormonal/emotional imbalance isn't helping her and she's been very sensitive as a result of her period.

[Uniquemind]

Thanks for the replies guys, I'll consider the advice. She's a real nice girl but she's like a whole new person whenever she's about to have that time of the month. I'm not neccesarily blaming it all on her period. I'm just stating the fact that she's had a real rough two weeks and it's been stressing her out alot. I'm assuming the hormonal/emotional imbalance isn't helping her and she's been very sensitive as a result of her period.

If I were you I'd remain friends, but I'd dial it down a whole lot more.

Sure it could be PMS, but it could be she's got other issues, like immaturity.

You've only communicated online, and there has been no real personalized one-on-one hang out time to get a real read on personality and how they behave in public.

Real-time observation of your partner and how they function in the real world is a giant reason why online-exclusive history with a person DOES NOT equal being in a relationship for that amount of time.

If you have a relationship in real life, and then distance separates then you can continue the relationship via online means, but I don't think you can do the reverse of that.

When you see emotional outbursts like that just from online interaction, to me that's a red flag.

I don't drop lines on my partner like that when I have a bad day.