My coming out

[orin abdula]

I need help.

On Friday my I went to the gym with my friend and we worked out. He tied his crazy curly hairdo in one of those man buns and he had on a tank top and mesh pants. He looked very cute and sexy. So he was all sweaty and his boy stink turned me on.

On Saturday we went again to the gym this time he had a kickboxing sparring session and he was shirtless. OMG his body was so sexy and he had abs and his arms are so toned and defined but how can kid my age be so handsome and have an amazing body. Anyway I went to shower I was undressed already and he came and I saw him naked for the first time when he undressed. He had a huge dick and lost it I stared at him until he became irratated an walked over to me and he started kissing me and playing with my dick. He lifted me against the wall and screw right there in the shower room.

So today I realised I must be gay. I had to tell my parents somehow so I snuck him in my window while they were gone. We talked about what happened Saturday and he apologized for screwing and I lol and took his clothes off and we made out naked. So parents came home and we had cuddled together on top of my bed naked, parents came to look and he fell asleep on my bed with me cuddled in his arms naked and parents walked in and so us cuddled naked and everything is so stress free now for me but Mom is in tears and Dad hates me.

[Salad_Baby]

I'm not exactly sure what you're asking help with, but I can assume it's about your parents. Well, if you feel like you have the confidence, talk to them about how you're feeling - if they really love you, they ultimatley shouldn't care about who you are. It might have just been a quick reaction without real thought. I obviously don't know how 'strict' or 'religious' your family is, but hopefully they'll understand. Also are you 100% sure you're gay, and not just curious during puberty? Hope this helps.

[orin abdula]

I'm not exactly sure what you're asking help with, but I can assume it's about your parents. Well, if you feel like you have the confidence, talk to them about how you're feeling - if they really love you, they ultimatley shouldn't care about who you are. It might have just been a quick reaction without real thought. I obviously don't know how 'strict' or 'religious' your family is, but hopefully they'll understand. Also are you 100% sure you're gay, and not just curious during puberty? Hope this helps.

They refuse to speak right now and won't even look at me and its making me cry.

[Salad_Baby]

They refuse to speak right now and won't even look at me and its making me cry.

Do you actually know the reason why they aren't talking to you? Is it a religious thing or are your family just inherently against homosexuality. Either way, this preliminary anger hopefully won't last for much longer, and (if they are in any way decent parents) they will come to realise that they should love and respect you no matter what. Give them time to boil down, and ride the storm as it comes.

[orin abdula]

Do you actually know the reason why they aren't talking to you? Is it a religious thing or are your family just inherently against homosexuality. Either way, this preliminary anger hopefully won't last for much longer, and (if they are in any way decent parents) they will come to realise that they should love and respect you no matter what. Give them time to boil down, and ride the storm as it comes.

There against it. If you read my name you can read between the lines but my father yelled and said I was being a faggot for laying naked with another boy. I cried all night.

[Salad_Baby]

There against it. If you read my name you can read between the lines but my father yelled and said I was being a faggot for laying naked with another boy. I cried all night.

That really sucks man. I'm not sure what other advise I can give - leave it a while, see if things progress any further. Hopefully he'll come to realise what he's doing to you.

[Zachary G]

I would suggest letting things cool down and you lay low for a while until you parents have time to absorb all of this. It may take some time, but just dont go flaunting it or throwing it in their faces, it will only make matters worse. Give it some time, then sit them down and discuss it with them and see how they really feel then.

[Jinglebottom]

I'm so sorry :( Reminds me why I'm keeping my orientation a secret from my whole family except my closest (non-homophobic) relatives.

[orin abdula]

I would suggest letting things cool down and you lay low for a while until you parents have time to absorb all of this. It may take some time, but just dont go flaunting it or throwing it in their faces, it will only make matters worse. Give it some time, then sit them down and discuss it with them and see how they really feel then.


I told them sorry for letting them see me nude but it was to much

[ptz7649]

Oops. Not the way I would have done it if I were gay. But at least your out!

[orin abdula]

Oops. Not the way I would have done it if I were gay. But at least your out!

Which part

[Vermilion]

Do you have any older siblings that you can talk to or cousin ?

[orin abdula]

Do you have any older siblings that you can talk to or cousin ?

Maybe one of my girl cousins

[Vermilion]

Maybe one of my girl cousins

Talk to her

[Bull]

Orin, I am so sorry for you. At this point in time whether it is hormones or orientation doesn't really matter. What matters is your family perception of the event. You must talk with them and help them understand how you are feeling. They are probably in shock. As others have said give them time, but it is important that you have a cool, reasoned, discussion. If you are gay, you are gay. You and your family must accept that fact. Name calling is never a solution and is a detriment to building positive outcomes. I feel for you and hope that eventually some level of acceptance will happen and expressions of love in the family will prevail. Be positive, be loving, but above all be you.

[orin abdula]

Orin, I am so sorry for you. At this point in time whether it is hormones or orientation doesn't really matter. What matters is your family perception of the event. You must talk with them and help them understand how you are feeling. They are probably in shock. As others have said give them time, but it is important that you have a cool, reasoned, discussion. If you are gay, you are gay. You and your family must accept that fact. Name calling is never a solution and is a detriment to building positive outcomes. I feel for you and hope that eventually some level of acceptance will happen and expressions of love in the family will prevail. Be positive, be loving, but above all be you.

Thank you so much:)