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dauntless
November 1st, 2015, 07:08 AM
Okay so here's the deal:

I'm gay and I haven't come out about it to anyone although I fit into a lot of gay stereotypes so some might suspect it. I've known this guy for about two years and we've been close friends ever since, but about two/three months ago, I've started having feelings for him. Is it a crush?Is it love?Who knows? All I know is that I really like him and I've never felt like this before. We hang out at school most days and out of school sometimes with other people and we text regularily. I've been in his life for nearly two years, and that's pretty rare for me, I never get long term involvements with people. He's really nice with me and seems to relatively care. His sexual identity is unknown to me all though he has never dated anyone and rejected the 9 girls who've asked him out. We played truth or dare once and someone asked him if he liked anyone at the school and he blushed and said he wouldn't answer that. Last night, we both spent the night at a friend's house with two other people but there was only one bed and two couches for us 4, so me and him took a couch together, being the closest friends. I didn't sleep very well because I was terrified of waking him up and tried not to move at all. Once he fell asleep (I think) he started moving and we ended up in really close positions. He got really close to me, sometimes with his hand on my chest, sometimes, his leg pressed on mine. At first I thought it was just luck but it really felt like cuddling at the end. So when they all woke up after I had a sleepless night, someone asked me how I slept and I said that I was okay but that he moved a lot in his sleep. He denied it veciferously. Do you think he did it on purpose? Do I have a shot?

SillyShyGuy
November 1st, 2015, 10:29 AM
I think you have a shot. If he rejected that many girls it can mean several things. It could mean he is gay and does like you. It could means that he is not ready for a relationship. Or perhaps he is trying to find out his own identity. I think spending time with him is a great way to know how he feels about you, especially since you have known him for so long. I think it is cute how he did not tell you who he likes, I think he likes you. Try asking him more deep personal questions and see if he trusts you enough to open up to you.

dauntless
November 1st, 2015, 11:50 AM
I think you have a shot. If he rejected that many girls it can mean several things. It could mean he is gay and does like you. It could means that he is not ready for a relationship. Or perhaps he is trying to find out his own identity. I think spending time with him is a great way to know how he feels about you, especially since you have known him for so long. I think it is cute how he did not tell you who he likes, I think he likes you. Try asking him more deep personal questions and see if he trusts you enough to open up to you.
Thank you for replying:) I don't know if I'm gonna tell him soon but I'm planning on someday coming out to him first, because it can either trigger him telling me, and if it doesn't, it can just be under the pretext that were very good friends

Salad_Baby
November 1st, 2015, 03:03 PM
I think it would be best for you to first come out to him - if you're good friends it shouldn't harm your relationship, and if he's gay as well then you might be in with a shot, going on what you've told us! I would warn however to be careful - do be 100% sure that he is feeling the same things that you're feeling, as it would be terrible to ask him, only to find out he isn't into you in that way, and then having your strong relationship become awkward and not very pleasurable to be in. Hope this helps!

dauntless
November 1st, 2015, 06:56 PM
I think it would be best for you to first come out to him - if you're good friends it shouldn't harm your relationship, and if he's gay as well then you might be in with a shot, going on what you've told us! I would warn however to be careful - do be 100% sure that he is feeling the same things that you're feeling, as it would be terrible to ask him, only to find out he isn't into you in that way, and then having your strong relationship become awkward and not very pleasurable to be in. Hope this helps!
Oh, you know, I'm very confused in lige so anything helps! :) thank you, it's probably what I'm gonna do umless I get proven that he doesn't like me, but I'm not totally ready and I wanna do it face to face which needs some time, but thatnks for the advice, I'll surely use it :D

dauntless
November 2nd, 2015, 05:41 AM
So do you guys think he did the sleeping thing on purpose?