Question for Straight Boys and Girls

[Sean4U]

I have a question for straight boys and for girls.

Are you comfortable with guys that are gay? I find a lot of my female friends are more accepting of boys that are gay than my male friends. Is this because gay boys are NOT a threat to girls? Is this because straight boys still think that guys they know or perceive of as gay will try to get "into their pants?"

As a gay guy having been out since I was 14 have seen things change over the past 5 years -- that being both males/females are more accepting of gay guys and comfortable around them not fearing the "sexual" fears.

Thank you for your responses.

[Jinglebottom]

I don't know about everyone else, but the guys at school would be absolutely downright frightened of me if I came out. They'd think I want to get in their pants, like you said. But they're all so unattractive and have their heads up their ass if they think that.

I only know a few girls who are LGBT-friendly and one guy, in my whole 14 years of existence.

[Salad_Baby]

Yeah I'm comfortable around guys that are gay because, as you would completely expect, gay people act practically the same as everyone else - nothing special. I kind of agree with your first thought that girls get on with gay guys for the reason you raised - most teenage boys are desperate for sex and girls, so I guess gay guys don't pose that same 'desire'.

[Canadian Dream]

I'm ok with hanging out with gay guys, sexual orientation doesn't make a person different or handicaped compared to straight guys. I think girls are more likely to be accepting towards gay guys because first of all from what I've seen gay guys socialize a lot more with girls than straight guys do, but that's just my perception at my school mostly. I think it's also because straight guys generally don't naturally accept a difference in sexual orientation because so much of the interactions between straight guys are directed towards girls, and having a gay guy there makes it more awkward.

[mychalo]

There are a couple of gay boys in one of my classes. They're great guys and I like them.

[Abhorrence]

Well I've come out as bisexual to most people and no-one has had an issue with it. I am technically gay but I'd rather be identified as bisexual so that I don't cut off the possibility of a relationship with a girl. But anyways, I've even told one of my straight friends that I have a crush on him and he was fine with it - and this dude is Russian and a Muslim brought up by extremely homophobic parents. It's just a different society these days, Britain is quite an accepting place.

Also, I'm moving this topic because it isn't really puberty related.
Puberty For All :arrow: Teen Sexuality & Gender.

[drhalsey1]

Well I'm gay, but I'll respond anyways. I'm not out, but I still have more friends that are boys than girls, though I'm generally shy and don't talk much to anyone. From my experience, in my area at least, a certain gender doesn't accept it more. I also know that most of my friends and family of both genders would be fine with it if I told them

[ptz7649]

I have a question for straight boys and for girls.

Are you comfortable with guys that are gay? I find a lot of my female friends are more accepting of boys that are gay than my male friends. Is this because gay boys are NOT a threat to girls? Is this because straight boys still think that guys they know or perceive of as gay will try to get "into their pants?"

As a gay guy having been out since I was 14 have seen things change over the past 5 years -- that being both males/females are more accepting of gay guys and comfortable around them not fearing the "sexual" fears.

Thank you for your responses.

I think that you have it exactly. I would love to have a gay friend because then there would be no confusion about if they re flirting and there would be no akwardness

[RJH98]

I am absolutely comfortable with people being gay. I have gay family members and couldn't care less if they were with a man or a women

[Tightjeans]

Frankly I am not comfortable at all around feminine acting men. I mean makeup, nail polish etc.

[Hudor]

Well based on my experience after coming out to a few friends, I've found girls more accepting and comfortable with gay friends. One of them, in fact, mentioned she always wanted a gay friend (for cool fashion advice and stuff).
On the other side, though most of my guy friends I'm close to, were quite comfortable around me post coming out as gay but some downright denied believing it/thought I was pulling off a joke/distanced themselves.
I guess it might be because of the reason you mentioned or plainly because homosexuality still isn't quite acceptable here for some people.

[Just a Guy]

I think guys are really insecure about sexuality and get uncomfortable around other gay guys cause they are afraid they are going to make a move on them I guess. But personally I view them as any other person (who's not gonna make a move on every single guy) just because they are gay doesn't mean they are more horny or foreword than straight people

[Abhorrence]

One of them, in fact, mentioned she always wanted a gay friend (for cool fashion advice and stuff).
I've just gotta say that I absolutely despise people that think that being gay immediately means you are a flamboyant, fashion-loving girl-wannabe. I fucking HATE that stereotype with a burning passion.

[Hudor]

I've just gotta say that I absolutely despise people that think that being gay immediately means you are a flamboyant, fashion-loving girl-wannabe. I fucking HATE that stereotype with a burning passion.

I can relate. I hate it too, especially since most of the portrayal of gay guys sticks to just that and it's wrong. In fact, the stereotype is what i believed until i actually met and saw gay guys. But then it's a stereotype, it's bound to be stupid. i just told her that I'm not exactly the most fashion forward kind of person and well yeah i am, kind of, an exception to this specific stereotype so i guess she understand stereotypes aren't always true.

[Typhlosion]

Sure I am, I even have a gay friend who had a crush on me, and I found it adorable (and kinda felt bad I couldn't reciprocate) :P

[Cadanance00]

I'm perfectly fine being around gay guys as long as they don't come on to me. I don't like being hit on.

[xcherriesncreamx]

I've just gotta say that I absolutely despise people that think that being gay immediately means you are a flamboyant, fashion-loving girl-wannabe. I fucking HATE that stereotype with a burning passion.

I can see your point there but, i also see the other side aswell, the "flamboyant, fashion-loving girl-wanabe" in the guys and the "butch male dike bitches" as i have heard some people call the girls. I kind of have to agree a little, that society would be more accepting to lez and gays if they were not as flamboyant and just normal acting. I do know and have friends that are lez or gay and you wouldnt know it.

[Harrier]

I have gay friends (had a bunch more living in a huge liberal metropolitan city compared to now living in a conservative somewhat small rural town lol). Never had a close friend gay as most of my best friends play sports (and either they aren't gay or are closeted). I do admit it's weird to shower and change with a few gays friends who I run cross country with. I find it's better when they explained that they don't find every guy hot lol. I still wonder at times. I understand, but I don't, I equate it to me showering with girls (my dream lol). I mean I know he's not going to attack me or any guy but still he must enjoy all the eye candy just a little.

[Abhorrence]

I can see your point there but, i also see the other side aswell, the "flamboyant, fashion-loving girl-wanabe" in the guys and the "butch male dike bitches" as i have heard some people call the girls. I kind of have to agree a little, that society would be more accepting to lez and gays if they were not as flamboyant and just normal acting. I do know and have friends that are lez or gay and you wouldnt know it.

I agree completely. I don't see why gays have to act differently to everyone else, I as a gay person honestly do not understand the appeal of acting idiotically feminine. Some of their appearances and actions are genuinely laughable and I think it does tarnish homosexuality because the stereotype is burned into the sexuality because of them.

[everlong]

Yeah gay guys are cool