exceptable limits between siblings

[ilove747s]

So there have been a few posts on here about siblings and experamentation between them. My question is what is the exceptable limit of stuff between them before the line gets fuzzy?

[Just JT]

I don't think there is a truly defined line actually. It's going to carry on a number of levels
In my opinion, opposite genders is is probably the most taboo due to the possibility of children.
I don't have any siblings, but many of my friends do. From knowing them, and very well Id say, it's going to depend on their comfort level. If one is uncomfortable with something, then it's wrong. if both are ok with it, and nobody is hurt, safe, etc, it can really bring them closer together. Ither siblings are just....no....bad...

So, it's really a fine line, that's defined by the siblings involved. It can also be really confusing to, as you know the relationship will more than likely never be a long term thing

Don't know if that makes sense or not...

[Jinglebottom]

I would never experiment with my sister. Even WATCHING each other masturbate is too much for me. Gross.

[SillyShyGuy]

I think my sister and I had a mutual understanding of privacy. We would also agree to at least wear undies when walking around the house. As for my brother, we can talk about puberty but he does not bring up anything other than dating. I never talked to them about the birds and the bees, although they do know that I had an adult sleepover last year.

[ashleigh7]

Idk. To me I think if you both want to and you use some kinda protection, if you go that far, I think it's ok...I guess. Sisters and brothers that are close, it can be very safe place to try things and ask questions. I think experimenting is fine. But like a relationship like boyfriend and girlfriend....well I think that might be to much. But that all just my little opinion. : )

[KellyNC]

On a personal level I really couldn't imagine getting into touching or otherwise actively making one another have an orgasm. Masturbating together, being in the same room and watching can be fun, but touching is just too much for me. For other siblings or otherwise close relatives, I'm not going to raise any major issues outside of pregnancy or the risk of pregnancy. If two people can consent to one another they should be allowed to do whatever they wish, but bringing a child into that situation is not simply okay, especially given the greater risk of birth defects.

[Zachary G]

I don't think there is a truly defined line actually. It's going to carry on a number of levels
In my opinion, opposite genders is is probably the most taboo due to the possibility of children.
I don't have any siblings, but many of my friends do. From knowing them, and very well Id say, it's going to depend on their comfort level. If one is uncomfortable with something, then it's wrong. if both are ok with it, and nobody is hurt, safe, etc, it can really bring them closer together. Ither siblings are just....no....bad...

So, it's really a fine line, that's defined by the siblings involved. It can also be really confusing to, as you know the relationship will more than likely never be a long term thing

Don't know if that makes sense or not...

I dont have any siblings either, but I would have to agree with TJreversed, he makes some very valid points.

[Salad_Baby]

I personally think the line is quite defined - don't do it. You will almost certainly regret it in later life, and will have to live with the memory of what you did for the rest of your life - it's not like with a friend or a partner who may/will fade out of your life at some point, but it's a sibling who you will practically keep in contact with all of your life.

[ilove747s]

I find it intereating how societies view point sways on the topic. To some, everything is ok; but to others nothing is ok. I tend to think like TJreverse in that its up to the siblings involved. That being said though, why is it so taboo if society is so back and forth on it? Watching, touching, or full foreplay are all very different levels of intimacy. Agreed however, is the fact that as long as no one gets hurt, and both agree, its all good?

[SethfromMI]

I personally think the line is quite defined - don't do it. You will almost certainly regret it in later life, and will have to live with the memory of what you did for the rest of your life - it's not like with a friend or a partner who may/will fade out of your life at some point, but it's a sibling who you will practically keep in contact with all of your life.

I agree, I don't think it should be done at all, period. I don't care if it is same sex or not

[Abhorrence]

There's obviously not a specific answer to this question because the opinions on the matter are relative to individuals. I personally do not believe that siblings should be in any form of romantic or sexual relationship, even if this is just "experimenting". In most first world countries, I'd say that my opinion is a popular one but there are people that disagree and that's fine. I won't ever agree with it and I believe that incestuous reproduction is detrimental to society and to the child that is brought into the world. Even same sex incest is wrong to me, also. It just seems like most people have it implanted in their minds not to do this, I guess in other parts of the world it could be different.

[Cadanance00]

I am very close with my sister who is 2 1/2 yrs younger. Mom said you're not supposed to have sex with your sister and don't try to get her to do anything she doesn't want to do.

I love her but I wouldn't want to kiss her, like romantically.

We have a game we play: She can ask me anything and I have to answer her if I can ask her anything and she has to answer. It's hilarious.

[Ratman1234]

I think my sister and I had a mutual understanding of privacy. We would also agree to at least wear undies when walking around the house. As for my brother, we can talk about puberty but he does not bring up anything other than dating. I never talked to them about the birds and the bees, although they do know that I had an adult sleepover last year.

What do you mean by adult sleepover..?

[SillyShyGuy]

I mean a sleepover between two consenting adults so engage in kinky activities. When two people like each other, sometimes they show it by having an adult sleepover

[Hannah98]

I'm an only child but I couldn't imagine doing anything with a sibling. My BFF has brothers and I see how she and her brothers interact. It would be weird to see hem doing anything together.

[fandom_king]

Experiment as much as you want, just don't lead to any dating type relationship

[Cadanance00]

I'm an only child but I couldn't imagine doing anything with a sibling. My BFF has brothers and I see how she and her brothers interact. It would be weird to see hem doing anything together.

I'm real lucky in that respect. We don't do the back-and-forth that I see my friends doing with their siblings. First of all mom wouldn't put up with it, and second I like being close with her (and I get to meet her friends). Sometimes I'd rather hang with her than do something with guy friends.:)

[pjones]

everyone has their own definition of acceptable and i think most would say no contact.
i do masturbate with my brother in the spirit of honesty, and we don't feel it's wrong. i'll respect anyone that disagrees.

[ClaraWho]

I am very close with my sister who is 2 1/2 yrs younger. Mom said you're not supposed to have sex with your sister and don't try to get her to do anything she doesn't want to do.

I love her but I wouldn't want to kiss her, like romantically.

We have a game we play: She can ask me anything and I have to answer her if I can ask her anything and she has to answer. It's hilarious.

Wait hold up, your mum directly told you not to have sex with your sister?! o.O

~ Clara

[ilove747s]

I mean a sleepover between two consenting adults so engage in kinky activities. When two people like each other, sometimes they show it by having an adult sleepover

W.T.F.? Isnt that simply called FWB? Adult sleepover my ass..., is that some sorta twisted code for pedaphile stuff... I call bullshit, and throw the flag on that. Sorry, but thats way off topic here...

mods help me out, thoughts? Or am I the one off base...if so, I appologize, but really?

[Just JT]

W.T.F.? Isnt that simply called FWB? Adult sleepover my ass..., is that some sorta twisted code for pedaphile stuff... I call bullshit, and throw the flag on that. Sorry, but thats way off topic here...

mods help me out, thoughts? Or am I the one off base...if so, I appologize, but really?

You know, I read that earlier myself, and it seemed really weird that the poster would write that post that way, and it kinda left an unseting feeling in me, and I just didn't know what to do about that.
Thanks, I hope they read this, just seems wrong man...

[JavierDolan]

I don't think there is such thing as "the" line. I think that different people have different lines and people shouldn't what different people's lines are, and just let them go about their business. Who's to say that one person can't stop another person from doing something that's between two consenting adults.

[Sean4U]

A bit confused about some of the references to "pedophile" and "consenting adult" in the posts. When I read the post by the OP, I assumed he meant teen siblings. I have 3 brothers, one older and twins younger than me. We have all masturbated together at some point in our lives together. As long as neither sibling is forcing the other and they both consent to the activity, I do not think that there are any lines to be crossed.

As far as later life consequences that have been mentioned, my older brother and I have been "together" in many situations (we are both gay, btw) and only have found it to bring us closer together. It is different between brothers than between brother/sister I imagine dur to possible other consequences, but again, I think it is a choice between the individuals involved.

[Cadanance00]

Wait hold up, your mum directly told you not to have sex with your sister?! o.O

~ Clara

Yep. wouldn't you tell your kids that?

[AutumnWinds]

W.T.F.? Isnt that simply called FWB? Adult sleepover my ass..., is that some sorta twisted code for pedaphile stuff... I call bullshit, and throw the flag on that. Sorry, but thats way off topic here...

mods help me out, thoughts? Or am I the one off base...if so, I appologize, but really?

i honestly don't see why that euphemism is worse than any other.

[Just JT]

A bit confused about some of the references to "pedophile" and "consenting adult" in the posts. When I read the post by the OP, I assumed he meant teen siblings. I have 3 brothers, one older and twins younger than me. We have all masturbated together at some point in our lives together. As long as neither sibling is forcing the other and they both consent to the activity, I do not think that there are any lines to be crossed.

As far as later life consequences that have been mentioned, my older brother and I have been "together" in many situations (we are both gay, btw) and only have found it to bring us closer together. It is different between brothers than between brother/sister I imagine dur to possible other consequences, but again, I think it is a choice between the individuals involved.


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[SweetieGirl]

Different people have different lines. I think its okay as long as everyone is willing to and nobody is hurt.

[Falcons_11]

I think this is a tough question setting acceptable limits on things that siblings can do between each other. Most have very strict rules about what you can do or say and what you can't. While others families allow limited or no restrictions on what siblings can do between each other. I would say it comes down to how you and your siblings interact with each other and what rules your parents enforce. Personally I don't see a problem with siblings in any family decided to do stuff together as long as there isn't any force or intimidation.

[Hermes]

For me the only thing that should be 100% off-limits for everyone is a brother getting his sister pregnant. Remember this is where the whole taboo of incest came from - the possibility of birth defects from inbreeding. Then bear in mind that the only way to be sure to avoid pregnancy is not to have sex.

Beyond that I think most people would want to avoid being so close to a sibling romantically they no longer look for a partner outside the family.

Everything else, I think, is a case of what the people concerned are comfortable with. I know a family where a brother and sister were used to seeing each other naked from when they were little kids and that didn't really change with puberty. I don't know if they have done anything together, I haven't asked, but you can imagine they would be more comfortable with some things than a pair of siblings who were always admonished to cover up.

[RJH98]

I don't have any siblings that are close to my age (13,13,14) so I would never get sexually involved with any of them. but say I have a brother my age or like 15 to 18 I would be open for experimenting. Anal is where I draw the line (for anyone)

[Coolasheck]

Doing anything sexual or even remotely sexual (like talking about sex) is really weird. I couldn't imagine doing anything. It's creepy, and will ruin your relationship

[AutumnWinds]

So there have been a few posts on here about siblings and experamentation between them. My question is what is the exceptable limit of stuff between them before the line gets fuzzy?

i honestly don't think there is a set answer to this. i think the acceptable limit is the one that you and your sibling set, and that you should respect the limits someone else may have with their siblings. life is too short to worry about controlling other people.

[Jameson9]

i honestly don't think there is a set answer to this. i think the acceptable limit is the one that you and your sibling set, and that you should respect the limits someone else may have with their siblings. life is too short to worry about controlling other people.

I agree with what Autumn said. You have to set the boundaries

[iamsilkspectre]

I've showered with my sister who is two years younger and we get touchy sometimes, specially if there are friends present, but it's only play, we know.

[JavierDolan]

I've showered with my sister who is two years younger and we get touchy sometimes, specially if there are friends present, but it's only play, we know.

I think you really hit the nail on the head there. I think there's a difference between knowing what you're doing is only messing around and knowing that something is completely serious. In your case I think it's obvious that what you're doing is only a curiosity thing, where as if you were someone else you might think that it's completely serious and then take it to the next level.

[AutumnWinds]

I've showered with my sister who is two years younger and we get touchy sometimes, specially if there are friends present, but it's only play, we know.

how old is your sis? are you talking about male of female friends, or does it matter?

[ashdyn]

Having actually experimented with my brother when we were younger, I know this is going to sound so hypocritical, but I don't really think it's right to mess around with your siblings/relatives. For me and my brother it kind of just happened...we enjoyed it while it lasted and we both turned out okay so it really won't kill you.

As far as limits go...it's going to depend on how close siblings are both in their relationship and in age. Obviously experimenting is going to be more common among same sex siblings. I couldn't ever imagine hooking up with a sister but I guess people do do it. Even though I don't encourage it, I know I came out of it fine and know plenty of others that have too, so if it happens and you're both comfortable in it don't beat yourself up about it or anything.

[nicole97]

I just couldn't really imagine ever doing that on a personal level. Even the idea of my siblings or I watching one another just feels sort of icky to me. My sister and I can be open about sex and have discussed it, but honestly never in a way that's super detailed like I would with some of my friends. Part of that might be the fact that her and my brother are a good bit older (6 and 8 years older than me), but that' just something I've never really thought about in that way.

For other people though, they're free to do what they wish honestly. People are attracted to and turned on by different things and while your own siblings might be taboo, it's certainly not harmful either.

[LanaPole]

i think as long as nobody is hurt then it's fine

[Vanilla Cupcake]

I don't think it's appropriate to do anything sexual or touching privates, especially once you are at an age where you know better.
My sister an I use to bath together, but once my older sister started to get pubes and boobs it ended. She was to embarrased and didn't want me to see her naked.

[Pittsburgh]

I let it go too far, its better now but it was bad for awhile

[AutumnWinds]

I let it go too far, its better now but it was bad for awhile

how far did it go? when you say it was bad, do you mean like awkward, or did something bad happen?

[Pittsburgh]

All the way, it was my stepsister, we actually had feelings for eachother then I moved in

[bfldworker]

Society says that anything that happens between siblings is taboo. That being said, I don't care. Who am I to judge if brothers are sucking each other off, sisters doing what they want to do or brothers and sisters are doing what they want. I personally would not have any sex with my sibs. I have jacked off with my brothers because we share a bedroom and it is difficult to rub one off without the other one knowing. We have a mutual understanding that we don't Jack each other, blow each other or have sex.

[Maria16 Here]

I think it is between the siblings to set their limits as long as both old enough and strong enough to understand.

[ClaraWho]

I think it is between the siblings to set their limits as long as both old enough and strong enough to understand.

The old enough and consensual being the only real arguments in this debate!

~ Clara

[sabbi]

The very thought of being intimate with my siblings makes me want to puke.

[Exotic Babe]

The very thought of being intimate with my siblings makes me want to puke.

Gotta agree.

[ashleigh7]

Just my 2¢....I think it's ok to experiment. Just as long as you both agree and don't hurt one another.

[Uniquemind]

I draw the line at blood relations being a no-no.

But I read about a situation once where a boyfriend and girlfriend whose parents were either widowed or divorced, the boy's dad married the girl's mom, and despite the fact the boyfriend and girlfriend were a couple before their parents were, caused awkwardness in the status that legally they were now also step-siblings and a couple.

Awkward to them understandably, but I fail to see a long term problem from a factual standpoint given they couldn't control the actions of their parents. Before they were just like any other couple so why change that?

[AlexSmith087]

My sister and I don't mind seeing each other naked around the house. Nothing super intense, but going to and from the shower, etc. (Im a guy) We shared a room until I was around 11 and she was around 9. I think thats probably partly why. We have experimented, but we didn't really masturbate or anything. It was more just sharing parts I guess. I think as long as its experimentation only its ok. I wouldn't do anything more.

[Jaime2015]

My sister and i have experimented and watched each other thats it tho nuthin else

[Jaime2015]

We are in a nudists family so my sister and i see each other alot lil odd at first now its nice at times ....

[Joren]

don't experiment with siblings ... will cause trouble later on in your life.

[pconnor]

The correct grammar is acceptable. And the answer is nothing between siblings is acceptable.

[ilc.69]

In my opinion, it depends on the relationship the siblings have. Probably having sex (penetration) would be kinda far, but it depends on the people.

[Atlantis]

The correct grammar is acceptable. And the answer is nothing between siblings is acceptable.

Please don't bump old threads. :locked: