justindw199
October 29th, 2015, 09:15 PM
Hey guys, I just need to talk a bit, and maybe get some advice.
To be completely honest, I have never had a girlfriend. I have asked several girls out, and it has just been rejection after rejection. I came very close once (we both said we liked each other), but less than a week later she stopped talking to me altogether. Now, it's just gotten to the point that it feels like I will be alone forever.
I'm not going to lie, I am certainly overweight, I weigh 205lbs and I'm 5'10". Granted, I am very built, it is almost all fat. No matter how hard I try, I can't seem to lose weight (or gain weight, for that matter). So is this maybe the reason no girl will go out with me?
I do have one girl that I have a crush on, but I'm just too afraid of being rejected again, except this girl is different. I have never met another girl like her. She is THE most kind and caring person I have ever met. She would never hurt a fly (and I mean that quite literally), she is always there whenever she is needed, she even will go out of her way to find someone who is sitting alone at lunch and go sit with them. She's by far my closest friend, and the only friend I feel I can truly trust with anything. She's changed my life.
At the end of the last school year, my best friends had abandoned me, they were my only friends at the time, and I was not doing to well, I'm just going to say it, I was suicidal. But when no one else cared about what I was going through, she was there, she was the one person who was there for me. I had another thing go on over the summer, and I couldn't talk to her in person, as she had to be with her family in Texas for the summer. I was in a miserable state, so I asked her to call me (we hate texting) and that is was important. She was on the phone with me within ten minutes and spent the next two hours talking to me, making me feel a lot better. I have never met a girl that was willing to do that for me.
Now, almost everyone tells me that we should go out, that we would be the absolute best couple. But she is such an important and close friend to me, I don't know if I should ask her out or not. It really feels too risky, that I might lose her altogether if she says no.
She's told me that she isn't looking to date anyone until she is out of school altogether, and she's told me that high school isn't the place to be looking for a girlfriend, after I talk to her about my failed relationship attempts. So I'm not sure what to think.
I know it is a lot to digest, but what are your thoughts or opinions? Any advice? I'd appreciate anything someone could contribute.
To be completely honest, I have never had a girlfriend. I have asked several girls out, and it has just been rejection after rejection. I came very close once (we both said we liked each other), but less than a week later she stopped talking to me altogether. Now, it's just gotten to the point that it feels like I will be alone forever.
I'm not going to lie, I am certainly overweight, I weigh 205lbs and I'm 5'10". Granted, I am very built, it is almost all fat. No matter how hard I try, I can't seem to lose weight (or gain weight, for that matter). So is this maybe the reason no girl will go out with me?
I do have one girl that I have a crush on, but I'm just too afraid of being rejected again, except this girl is different. I have never met another girl like her. She is THE most kind and caring person I have ever met. She would never hurt a fly (and I mean that quite literally), she is always there whenever she is needed, she even will go out of her way to find someone who is sitting alone at lunch and go sit with them. She's by far my closest friend, and the only friend I feel I can truly trust with anything. She's changed my life.
At the end of the last school year, my best friends had abandoned me, they were my only friends at the time, and I was not doing to well, I'm just going to say it, I was suicidal. But when no one else cared about what I was going through, she was there, she was the one person who was there for me. I had another thing go on over the summer, and I couldn't talk to her in person, as she had to be with her family in Texas for the summer. I was in a miserable state, so I asked her to call me (we hate texting) and that is was important. She was on the phone with me within ten minutes and spent the next two hours talking to me, making me feel a lot better. I have never met a girl that was willing to do that for me.
Now, almost everyone tells me that we should go out, that we would be the absolute best couple. But she is such an important and close friend to me, I don't know if I should ask her out or not. It really feels too risky, that I might lose her altogether if she says no.
She's told me that she isn't looking to date anyone until she is out of school altogether, and she's told me that high school isn't the place to be looking for a girlfriend, after I talk to her about my failed relationship attempts. So I'm not sure what to think.
I know it is a lot to digest, but what are your thoughts or opinions? Any advice? I'd appreciate anything someone could contribute.