Confused

[City Kid]

I'm just super confused and really fucking annoyed with myself at the moment.

So I like this guy I know from school. He's also friends with a couple of my friends, which resulted in us spending quite a lot of time together on a three-day school trip about a month ago. We also saw each other when a few of our mutual friends met up to hang out and drink.

Every time we're together, I feel like he's flirting with me. For example, on the school trip he somehow got a double bed, and when he told us about it he jokingly invited me to sleep in his bed. Also, at one point the lights in the room we were in just went out and he was sitting right next to me so he touched my knee and when the lights went back on, acted like he wasn't the one who did it (though he obviously knew that I knew it was him). Then at the time our friends met up, at one point, he just grinned at me and when I asked him why, he told me that there was no reason.

Things like that just kept happening and I don't know if I'm reading too much into things because I just really want him to like me. I know he doesn't dislike me, but, ugh, I'm just so insecure, which is really unusual for me because I'm normally really confident and everything.

Last week I casually asked him via WhatsApp if he wanted to meet up, but he was visiting his grandparents that day so he couldn't. And he sent me a picture later on so I know he wasn't lying.

But what do I do now?!?

[SillyShyGuy]

Well you are reading the signs and it is obvious that he does like you. Perhaps you can spend more time with him to see if you can catch him trying to touch you are smile at you. Ask him to hang out with you if you must, but spend more time with him. You might have to be the one to do the flirting to tell him that you like him as well. Good luck buddy

[SethfromMI]

well do you like him? if so, consider taking things to the next level with him if he is interested in you (and it certainly sounds like he is)

[Tesserax]

90% chance he likes you. Guys tend to be more obvious; staring, touching when they can, smiling at you a lot, etc. In case you got the unlucky 10%, send some signals back. Bite your lip, act really flirtatious and stuff and watch his crotch, like don't be afraid to stare. Watch how he reacts, if he starts looking away and brushing his hair (like I do) he's embarrassed, and is probably trying to conceal an oncoming boner by ignoring you so it doesn't get worse. If he sends messages back, watch his hands, he might be going to touch his crotch unconsciously, or perhaps he tries to act cool or something, so watch VERY carefully to his reactions to your flirting, hope this helps!

[City Kid]

well do you like him? if so, consider taking things to the next level with him if he is interested in you (and it certainly sounds like he is)
Yes, I'm actually really into him. Which makes the whole thing a lot more difficult!
So how should I "take things to the next level"?

We're meeting up on Sunday, btw. Just the two of us. But I guess neither of us knows if it's a date or not.

I'd really appreciate some advice on first dates, though.

[SethfromMI]

Yes, I'm actually really into him. Which makes the whole thing a lot more difficult!
So how should I "take things to the next level"?

We're meeting up on Sunday, btw. Just the two of us. But I guess neither of us knows if it's a date or not.

I'd really appreciate some advice on first dates, though.

well being alone will give you the chance to talk privately and be honest about your feelings

[qede]

if he is really interested in you - it is time for the next level.

[City Kid]

well being alone will give you the chance to talk privately and be honest about your feelings
Do you really think I should tell him? I don't wanna, you know, put pressure on him or anything. And I haven't had the best of experiences when it comes to telling someone I like them... They usually ended up using me.
Gosh, I'm just really insecure because I feel like he could really like me back and I'm so scared of ruining everything...

if he is really interested in you - it is time for the next level.
But what is the next level??

[SethfromMI]

Do you really think I should tell him? I don't wanna, you know, put pressure on him or anything. And I haven't had the best of experiences when it comes to telling someone I like them... They usually ended up using me.
Gosh, I'm just really insecure because I feel like he could really like me back and I'm so scared of ruining everything...


But what is the next level??

well you shouldn't do it if you don't want to, but unless he makes a move, you may never know unless you eventually bring it up

[wolf g]

i can't help you here because you really not will like my answer
really hope find who can help you

[City Kid]

well you shouldn't do it if you don't want to, but unless he makes a move, you may never know unless you eventually bring it up
You're probably right... Ugh, I'm just gonna try. Thanks.

i can't help you here because you really not will like my answer
really hope find who can help you
I can't decide whether or not I like your answer if you don't say it!

[wolf g]

You're probably right... Ugh, I'm just gonna try. Thanks.


I can't decide whether or not I like your answer if you don't say it!

thank you

[City Kid]

thank you
What? :confused:

[wolf g]

What? :confused:

about what are you saying

[City Kid]

about what are you saying
I really don't get what you're talking about right now.
I just meant that I wanted to hear what you had to say in order to decide whether I like it or not.

[SethfromMI]

You're probably right... Ugh, I'm just gonna try. Thanks.


I can't decide whether or not I like your answer if you don't say it!

like I said though, do it when you're ready. You know you the better than anyone else here

[wolf g]

Yes, I'm actually really into him. Which makes the whole thing a lot more difficult!
So how should I "take things to the next level"?

We're meeting up on Sunday, btw. Just the two of us. But I guess neither of us knows if it's a date or not.

I'd really appreciate some advice on first dates, though.

look i don't care about that things just to know for these i told you that i can't help you

[City Kid]

So I wanted to fill you in on what happened last Sunday.

Basically, my crush bailed on me. About two hours before we were planning on meeting up, he texted me that he was sorry but his mother had invited friends over and wanted him to stay home.

I really don't know what to think now. After all it's the second time I asked him out and he canceled our plans in the last minute.

What do you think I should do know? It did seem like he was truly sorry that it didn't work out. But if he is, then why doesn't he suggest another time we could meet?

I don't wanna seem needy either. And asking him out basically three times in a row is gonna seem really needy, isn't it?

[ashdyn]

Hate to be the downer here but maybe he's just a nice guy but not into taking things to another level. I'm considered by most of my friends to be "naturally flirty" and it has led to some people thinking I was hinting at something that I wasn't. Getting him away from the group setting would help a lot but he's bailed twice...I wouldn't read too much into it cause his excuses sound pretty legit so far. Just keep trying.