A girl has a crush on my but I'm gay

[davdev17]

At my work this girls has a crush on me. I feel really bad about it because I am gay and can't tell her. What should I do?

[drhalsey1]

Well crushes aren't always the biggest thing, so you might not need to concern yourself with it too much, but I understand it, I've been in that position at school before, I would just ignore it, or maybe just say you don't like her in that way, it doesn't necessarily mean you're gay

[Legoboy]

Are you out? I'm guessing she doesn't know so if you are ok to do it just tell her you are gay. But otherwise there are plenty of other reasons you might not be attracted and you could use eg
"not looking for any sort of relationship right now"
"you aren't my type" (but could have other questions to answer haha)
"I don't see you that way / feel that kind of connection " (I got that off google (http://lifehacker.com/how-to-turn-down-a-date-gracefully-1708236305))
"There's someone else I have my eye on" (huffpost (http://www.huffingtonpost.co.uk/the-guyliner/kind-way-to-turn-down-a-date_b_3675987.html)) I kind of like this one because you could just say you don't want to say who because its embarrassing.

Hope that helps.

[Cadanance00]

A friend of my brother's is gay and has a girlfriend. I asked him about it like you're gay, man and he said being gay doesn't mean you can't date a girl, it just means you're not going to fall in love with her. He said some girls like dating gay guys. Strange world.

So I say if you like her, date her but let her know up front you're gay.

[northy]

A friend of my brother's is gay and has a girlfriend. I asked him about it like you're gay, man and he said being gay doesn't mean you can't date a girl, it just means you're not going to fall in love with her. He said some girls like dating gay guys. Strange world.

So I say if you like her, date her but let her know up front you're gay.


I think this idea is likely to end badly.



Best just tell her that she's not your type. Less likely to cause an unwanted public outing. Also, they don't get disappointed that way.

[Dalcourt]

So if you are not out and don't want to out yourself just tell her you are not into her. She might be hurt but in the long run this causes less drama. Other option tell her you are gay... that's what I usually do.

[Hideous]

Why can't you tell her? It's better to let her know or else she's going to waste her time trying to get your attention. Because it's a person from work, I'm hoping she'll keep it professional even if you did tell her.

[NotQuiteANerd97]

Just be honest and tell her. She'll probably understand and move on. But if she keeps obsessing over you then you might want to ask her to keep her distance.