I NEVER do this!

[mialan]

So Friday I went to a football game with some friends but half way through they wanted to go drink in a parking lot. I was opposed to the idea but went along anyways just to make sure everyone was okay. By the end of the night it was just me and this guy that I had never really talked to before. We were laying down just looking at the stars and it was really sweet and comfortable. But one thing led to another and we ended up making out. (Keep in mind that before that night I had never even made out with someone). Anyways, after that he wanted me to do more and I wasn't against the idea at all. Although after we were done he was in a rush to leave because his ride was there. I have been contemplating talking to him but so far two people have told me he was a bad guy. Should I feel bad for what I did? Should I talk to him? I really don't know what to do about this. I haven't been able to get him out of my head all weekend but I don't want to be some clingy girl after one night. Am I just being ridiculous and crazy?

[AutumnWinds]

what do your friends say makes him a bad guy?

i think you should try and talk to him, but also realize that some people just wanna mess around, and if you;re not about that, be weary in case he tries to push you into that again.

do you mind saying how far it ended up going? if you do, of course, it's completely understandable.

how are you feeling about all this? are you holding up okay?

[SethfromMI]

I would not feel bad in your situation. you can talk to him more, maybe investigate what the people said on why he is a bad guy. go with your guy and don't put yourself in a dangerous situation.

[ashdyn]

Don't feel bad or regret what you did. You were having fun and just went with it. If nothing else comes from it at least you have and awesome experience to add to what's hopefully a full collection of HS experiences.

About hearing from people that he's a bad guy...find out for yourself. When I was in HS I had a pretty shitty reputation for some reason. People thought I was a stoner (I smoked OCCASIONALLY if that) and a lot of people thought I was like a man whore. When I first started hanging out with my GF before we started dating a bunch of people were telling her all this shit about me that just wasn't true. I never actively denied anything before then just I didn't feel like I needed to waste my time with rumors. Long story short, she got to know me for herself and we're still dating. So get to know him and follow your instincts. He's your first hookup so you're gunna feel REALLY attached just be prepared to find out that to him it might have just been a hookup. For your sake I hope he turns out to be a great guy (:

[lliam]

Should I feel bad for what I did? Should I talk to him? I really don't know what to do about this. I haven't been able to get him out of my head all weekend but I don't want to be some clingy girl after one night. Am I just being ridiculous and crazy?


Talk to him. But whether he reacts or not, if you had fun with him, keep it as a good memory or such.

But forget him if he does not reply or shows no interest.

Then only the moment remains and an experience more, however you rate this. And under no circumstances let this pull you down.

[SillyShyGuy]

It is only natural that you want to see him again. By more, what do you mean you did with him? If it was only meant to be a one time thing, then it might be best to not speak to him again. Especially if people say he is not a good guy. However, if you are interested in getting to know him better and maybe date him then by all means pursue him.