Best way to get the attention of a guy online?

[Noody]

Hey guys,

Basically I saw this guy on Facebook about a year ago, he instantly caught my eye and so I sent him a friend request. He has around 40 mutual friends which is nice, some close friends of mine too. I've been following his rough activity over the last year, but he hasn't responded to any of the friend requests which is fair enough.

I had the pleasure of meeting him for the first time in my life yesterday whilst I was down in town. I was fairly drunk and introduced myself, but there were a few of his friends with him so I didn't want to put either of us in an awkward situation so I decided not to hint that I was attracted to him in case his friends didn't know/weren't supportive of him being gay. I spent about 45 minutes tagging along with his group and talking to him before I decided I'd had enough to drink and went home.
When I got home I asked two of my friends to send him a message telling him my name and that I'd met him in town and if he could add me so we could talk a bit more. As of yet nothing has come through and one of my friends has "stuff" to tell me, but I'm not sure what it is yet.

If it turns out that he doesn't want to talk to me or something similar, can you guys advise me on any other ways to contact him or help grab his attention towards me? I'm happy to spend months chipping away and this barrier of not knowing each other, as I have done for the last year.
I genuinely think that I/we could make something of this.

Any help would be more than appreciated,

Thanks a lot,

[AutumnWinds]

Hey guys,

Basically I saw this guy on Facebook about a year ago, he instantly caught my eye and so I sent him a friend request. He has around 40 mutual friends which is nice, some close friends of mine too. I've been following his rough activity over the last year, but he hasn't responded to any of the friend requests which is fair enough.

I had the pleasure of meeting him for the first time in my life yesterday whilst I was down in town. I was fairly drunk and introduced myself, but there were a few of his friends with him so I didn't want to put either of us in an awkward situation so I decided not to hint that I was attracted to him in case his friends didn't know/weren't supportive of him being gay. I spent about 45 minutes tagging along with his group and talking to him before I decided I'd had enough to drink and went home.
When I got home I asked two of my friends to send him a message telling him my name and that I'd met him in town and if he could add me so we could talk a bit more. As of yet nothing has come through and one of my friends has "stuff" to tell me, but I'm not sure what it is yet.

If it turns out that he doesn't want to talk to me or something similar, can you guys advise me on any other ways to contact him or help grab his attention towards me? I'm happy to spend months chipping away and this barrier of not knowing each other, as I have done for the last year.
I genuinely think that I/we could make something of this.

Any help would be more than appreciated,

Thanks a lot,

are you sure he is into guys? also does just not want to talk to you, or does he actually like want to not talk to you? (does that last part make any sense?)

[SethfromMI]

if he doesn't want to talk to you, he doesn't. I would try dropping it, at least for now for sure. continuing to bother him when he doesn't want to (for whatever the reason) at the moment is only going to make things worse

[Hudor]

For now I think you've done everything you could. If he responds, well and good but if he doesn't, I think it's best you move on. I can understand it feels like the person is the right guy but if he doesn't want to talk, he doesn't and there isn't much you can do about that, I'm sorry

[Noody]

are you sure he is into guys? also does just not want to talk to you, or does he actually like want to not talk to you? (does that last part make any sense?)

Hey, thanks for the response - I know that he is gay. I think I kinda hinted at what I was getting at the other night when I asked him if he had a boyfriend. Most people would go crazy if you asked that but he said something like "not yet".

if he doesn't want to talk to you, he doesn't. I would try dropping it, at least for now for sure. continuing to bother him when he doesn't want to (for whatever the reason) at the moment is only going to make things worse

Thanks for your response Seth, Noones directly told me he doesn't want to talk to me, but I haven't heard anything from him - It could possibly be that he just doesn't use social media much..?!
As far as making things worse, there's only one stage worse than at the moment, and that's him hating me/thinking I'm stalking him, I think it would take a lot to get to that stage. I know what you mean though, and for anyone else I would definitely drop it - But not this guy

For now I think you've done everything you could. If he responds, well and good but if he doesn't, I think it's best you move on. I can understand it feels like the person is the right guy but if he doesn't want to talk, he doesn't and there isn't much you can do about that, I'm sorry

Thanks for your reply too, it's worth reading my response to Seth above as it covers most of the stuff you've talked about too.
I know what you mean about moving on, but surely it's worth giving it all I've got - There's still a possibility that there's just one thing stopping him from talking to me.. If I can find that out and sort it out if it's within my control then why not?
If anything though, I really, really don't want to be the stereotypical "clingy girlfriend" sort of character, but at the same time I just want to find out why he won't talk to me at the least :((

[SethfromMI]

Hey, thanks for the response - I know that he is gay. I think I kinda hinted at what I was getting at the other night when I asked him if he had a boyfriend. Most people would go crazy if you asked that but he said something like "not yet".



Thanks for your response Seth, Noones directly told me he doesn't want to talk to me, but I haven't heard anything from him - It could possibly be that he just doesn't use social media much..?!
As far as making things worse, there's only one stage worse than at the moment, and that's him hating me/thinking I'm stalking him, I think it would take a lot to get to that stage. I know what you mean though, and for anyone else I would definitely drop it - But not this guy



Thanks for your reply too, it's worth reading my response to Seth above as it covers most of the stuff you've talked about too.
I know what you mean about moving on, but surely it's worth giving it all I've got - There's still a possibility that there's just one thing stopping him from talking to me.. If I can find that out and sort it out if it's within my control then why not?
If anything though, I really, really don't want to be the stereotypical "clingy girlfriend" sort of character, but at the same time I just want to find out why he won't talk to me at the least :((


Well if you're going to talk to him, gently try to say you were just hoping to possibly be friends. he seems neat or whatever you want to say and was just trying to connect with him. you can even do it in person if you get the chance. if he still is not interested though, at some point you're going to have to back off. good luck to you though

[SillyShyGuy]

It is unfortunate but the only ways to get a guy's attention would be to either send him winky faces, post a photo of you in a bikini or short shorts, or be interested in a lot of things that he likes. I do not think that girls should post those kinds of photos, but most guys are idiots and only respond to that.

[SethfromMI]

It is unfortunate but the only ways to get a guy's attention would be to either send him winky faces, post a photo of you in a bikini or short shorts, or be interested in a lot of things that he likes. I do not think that girls should post those kinds of photos, but most guys are idiots and only respond to that.

well he is a guy so bikini photos may not work for him haha