FWB Problem

[jft96]

Hi everyone,first of all I apologise for my bad English..
I am 15 years old
I have one problem.In my country high school starts when you are about 15 years old.In September I went in school and I met nice girl from my class.We started to talk,I started to like her..We went out couple weeks ago together and we kissed.I always had feeling she likes someone else,and I still had that feeling.We made out couple and I want to ask her what does she feels.My best friend and her best friend are in relationship and they said to me that she wants just fwb.They also said me that she maybe wants relationship but not now.I dont wanna wait,I never had this feeling before.I think I am in love but I dont have a clue what she feels.

[SethfromMI]

have you tried, I don't know, asking her?

[jft96]

I want that but our friends said me :"NO,dont ask her"but I have feeling that she likes me.

[SethfromMI]

I want that but our friends said me :"NO,dont ask her"but I have feeling that she likes me.

why did your friend tell you that? I think it is important to people establish where they are in the relationship? if it is just a friends with benefits thing, have sex and make out with no strings attached. if you don't want that and want a relationship, maybe she does too. you will never know unless the conversation is had

[jft96]

Yeah,you are right but I dont want to spoil fwb,if I ask her and she said no I am sure that she will(I dont know how to tell that...cease,maybe)our fwb,but fwb is only thing what makes me close to her.

[SethfromMI]

Yeah,you are right but I dont want to spoil fwb,if I ask her and she said no I am sure that she will(I dont know how to tell that...cease,maybe)our fwb,but fwb is only thing what makes me close to her.

if that is what you want to do, but I guess at that point you will have to live with fwb and you will never know unless you or she decides to talk about it. I got to go, but I will try to respond more later if you need more help. at the end of the day, you got to decide though are you content with what you have or do you want something else

[jft96]

Thank you very much for advices,Ill try to start that conversation with her

[Hudor]

Talk to her about it. If you're already dating I think it's only right to have a clear idea of what you both have in mind about the relationship.

[jft96]

Talk to her about it. If you're already dating I think it's only right to have a clear idea of what you both have in mind about the relationship.
In November is her birthday,I think I will start that conversation then...Maybe you are right,she always wants to talk with me and she is telling me big secrets and things like that
Thanks Hudor :)

[AutumnWinds]

tell her how you feel, ask her how she does, and do from there. :D good luck!

Hi everyone,first of all I apologise for my bad English..
I am 15 years old
I have one problem.In my country high school starts when you are about 15 years old.In September I went in school and I met nice girl from my class.We started to talk,I started to like her..We went out couple weeks ago together and we kissed.I always had feeling she likes someone else,and I still had that feeling.We made out couple and I want to ask her what does she feels.My best friend and her best friend are in relationship and they said to me that she wants just fwb.They also said me that she maybe wants relationship but not now.I dont wanna wait,I never had this feeling before.I think I am in love but I dont have a clue what she feels.

[SethfromMI]

In November is her birthday,I think I will start that conversation then...Maybe you are right,she always wants to talk with me and she is telling me big secrets and things like that
Thanks Hudor :)

if she is telling you big secrets that is another positive sign. Like I said though, you will never know for sure until she tells you how she feels about you

[jft96]

Guys,thanks a lot,you gave me great advices...

[jft96]

And one more question...we are close,and she is telling me how she wants to I dunno how to tell that...make out with other boys and stuff like that
And we know eachother for 2 months,is it early to begin relationship..because i dont want to wait,for first time in my life Im in love

[ashdyn]

Bruhhhh you can't go into a FWB situation if you've already caught the feels. It just won't end well. Either go into it with no feelings or let her know out front how you feel.

[jft96]

Yeah,I think she already know everything,I decided Ill tell her everything on her birthday..

[SethfromMI]

Yeah,I think she already know everything,I decided Ill tell her everything on her birthday..

you know that might not be the best day to do it, particularly if it ends up upsetting her

[ashdyn]

you know that might not be the best day to do it, particularly if it ends up upsetting her

Yeahhhh might end up awkward af

[jft96]

I know,but I wont tell her what i feel,I will just ask does she wanna something else or just stay fwb,if she says that she wanna relationship I will ask,if she says not I will shut up :/

[jft96]

Although I am not sure what to do now..Today in school she said to me that she would make out with few boys on her birthday,I dont know what that means

[jft96]

you know that might not be the best day to do it, particularly if it ends up upsetting her

I am very sorry,but i need help again
Tomorrow she celebrates her birthday and i told her everything today in school.She said she likes me but she dont want relationship,in fact she said that she wants to be fwb with other guys too.I dont get it,she likes me but she want other boys.I said that i wont have anything with her if she do something with other guy.She thought about it and decided that she will stay fwb with me,he wont do it with other guys.I like her so,so much,in fact i think i felt in love for first time in my life.What to do now,stay in fwb,leave her or trying to get relationship although she said she dont want any kind of commitment except fwb.
Sorry for my awful english...and for disturbing too :/

[Uniquemind]

I am very sorry,but i need help again
Tomorrow she celebrates her birthday and i told her everything today in school.She said she likes me but she dont want relationship,in fact she said that she wants to be fwb with other guys too.I dont get it,she likes me but she want other boys.I said that i wont have anything with her if she do something with other guy.She thought about it and decided that she will stay fwb with me,he wont do it with other guys.I like her so,so much,in fact i think i felt in love for first time in my life.What to do now,stay in fwb,leave her or trying to get relationship although she said she dont want any kind of commitment except fwb.
Sorry for my awful english...and for disturbing too :/

1. Flaw:

You are trying to use your actions (what you will or won't do) to manipulate what she wants to do with her body.

The only acceptable answer is you will allow her the freedom to choose what she wants to do with her sexuality, and you choose what you want to do with yours.

My parents always told me that dating is like bidding war, the goods are up for sale, you out down what you are willing to offer, and the seller either agrees or not. There is no or should be no manipulation of the buyer upon the seller in this example.

You want monogamy, that's your offer, she flat out stated she doesn't, and your desire for her is polluting your mind.


If you change your mind and decide having her at least a sexual non-exclusive relationship, with her is something you'd like to experience sure go ahead, just don't manipulate her. In this case the grade school motto prevails: "sharing is caring".

Although you can tell her to watch out for STI/STD's, and those spread often in open relationships, those suck.

[SethfromMI]

I am very sorry,but i need help again
Tomorrow she celebrates her birthday and i told her everything today in school.She said she likes me but she dont want relationship,in fact she said that she wants to be fwb with other guys too.I dont get it,she likes me but she want other boys.I said that i wont have anything with her if she do something with other guy.She thought about it and decided that she will stay fwb with me,he wont do it with other guys.I like her so,so much,in fact i think i felt in love for first time in my life.What to do now,stay in fwb,leave her or trying to get relationship although she said she dont want any kind of commitment except fwb.
Sorry for my awful english...and for disturbing too :/

You're not disturbing anyone man. OK something you ay have to realize and accept is she just may not want to be in a committed relationship with you. She likes you and probably thinks you're a nice guy, but that does not always equate to wanting to be in a relationship with the person. you can try to see if she wants too, but she may find it as a turn off you keep asking her about it. also, the fwb relationship usually applies she does not have to be committed to one guy. so either she is lying, or the fact she agreed to it may indicate she would actually consider a relationship. unfortunately, there are so many possibilities I cannot know for sure. it is something you will have to continue to work out with her

[jft96]

Thank you both.I will wait for few days or weeks than and i will think about everything.

[AutumnWinds]

I am very sorry,but i need help again
Tomorrow she celebrates her birthday and i told her everything today in school.She said she likes me but she dont want relationship,in fact she said that she wants to be fwb with other guys too.I dont get it,she likes me but she want other boys.I said that i wont have anything with her if she do something with other guy.She thought about it and decided that she will stay fwb with me,he wont do it with other guys.I like her so,so much,in fact i think i felt in love for first time in my life.What to do now,stay in fwb,leave her or trying to get relationship although she said she dont want any kind of commitment except fwb.
Sorry for my awful english...and for disturbing too :/

i'm sorry to hear all this, it looks like she wants her freedom, which really sucks. hopefully she changes her mind. do you guys do anything more than make out? if not, do you know if she does with anyone else? i'm just trying ot get a feel for her behavior...

[jft96]

i'm sorry to hear all this, it looks like she wants her freedom, which really sucks. hopefully she changes her mind. do you guys do anything more than make out? if not, do you know if she does with anyone else? i'm just trying ot get a feel for her behavior...

We just make out,we are 15.Its not a big deal,but yesterday on her birthday we drunk little bit and she jerked off me and i satisfacted her too,and that hour was the best in my life and we agreed that we will do it again.We were so horny lol.But still,she wont relationship,and she is not making out with other guys,just me

[SethfromMI]

We just make out,we are 15.Its not a big deal,but yesterday on her birthday we drunk little bit and she jerked off me and i satisfacted her too,and that hour was the best in my life and we agreed that we will do it again.We were so horny lol.But still,she wont relationship,and she is not making out with other guys,just me

haha well good for you man I guess wait to see how things work out

[AutumnWinds]

We just make out,we are 15.Its not a big deal,but yesterday on her birthday we drunk little bit and she jerked off me and i satisfacted her too,and that hour was the best in my life and we agreed that we will do it again.We were so horny lol.But still,she wont relationship,and she is not making out with other guys,just me

glad you got to have a little fun ;) i wonder why she is basically in a relationship with you (being faithful, being kinda flirty and romantic, messing around) but won't just call it a relationship.

[Uniquemind]

glad you got to have a little fun ;) i wonder why she is basically in a relationship with you (being faithful, being kinda flirty and romantic, messing around) but won't just call it a relationship.

Couple answers: she's a horny teen too. He's available, perhaps other guys she's interested is just and entertaining thought, but she doesn't want to be dishonest and close herself off from options.

Tbh it sounds like an open relationship, but maybe she doesn't wanna even call it that due to presence or lack of emotional bonding feelings or chemistry. That's my best insight into her mind here.




We just make out,we are 15.Its not a big deal,but yesterday on her birthday we drunk little bit and she jerked off me and i satisfacted her too,and that hour was the best in my life and we agreed that we will do it again.We were so horny lol.But still,she wont relationship,and she is not making out with other guys,just me

Remember don't push for it, she's heard your opinion.

This is gonna sound crude, and it is ultimately ineffective if your personalities clash, but if you make the sexual experience very good, it may cause her to rethink wanting other guys. So to be mentally positive about all this rather than be depressed about what you can't have, enjoy what you can, and learn.

[jft96]

Yeah,i would call it relationship too,but i think she is afraid.I hope we will end together :D

[jft96]

Couple answers: she's a horny teen too. He's available, perhaps other guys she's interested is just and entertaining thought, but she doesn't want to be dishonest and close herself off from options.

Tbh it sounds like an open relationship, but maybe she doesn't wanna even call it that due to presence or lack of emotional bonding feelings or chemistry. That's my best insight into her mind here.






Remember don't push for it, she's heard your opinion.

This is gonna sound crude, and it is ultimately ineffective if your personalities clash, but if you make the sexual experience very good, it may cause her to rethink wanting other guys. So to be mentally positive about all this rather than be depressed about what you can't have, enjoy what you can, and learn.

Actually,i wasnt good,she hasnt had orgasm,i didnt have it too,we were awful togehter :D

[jft96]

And she said me great thing today.Few weeks ago she said that she will have sex with person she loves and trust.Today she said that probably we will have sex next year on her birthday.I asked her why me?She answered,because i trust you haha,i got big dose of self-confidence

[AutumnWinds]

And she said me great thing today.Few weeks ago she said that she will have sex with person she loves and trust.Today she said that probably we will have sex next year on her birthday.I asked her why me?She answered,because i trust you haha,i got big dose of self-confidence

way to go! she's thinking about you still being close to her a year from now! that sounds promising. :D

[jft96]

way to go! she's thinking about you still being close to her a year from now! that sounds promising. :D

Yeah,i am so happy right now and i have to share one thing with all of u.When she was a liiiitle bit of drunk(i wasnt then) she hugged me and she was saying that she loves me so much,i knew it was alcohol talking but anyway when i hugged her and i put my head on the top of her(she is smaller than me) that was the most beautiful feeling ive ever had,it was better than making out,jerking off and things like that :D

[Uniquemind]

Yeah,i am so happy right now and i have to share one thing with all of u.When she was a liiiitle bit of drunk(i wasnt then) she hugged me and she was saying that she loves me so much,i knew it was alcohol talking but anyway when i hugged her and i put my head on the top of her(she is smaller than me) that was the most beautiful feeling ive ever had,it was better than making out,jerking off and things like that :D

Cuddling is very important to a relationship, it's highly underrated.

I can't give you sexual advice except for this one: take things slow and do not rush anything or someone could literally get hurt emotionally and or physically and communicate communicate communicate.

[jft96]

Yeah,cuddling is for me better than making out and stuff like that.We communicate a lot so we are on a good way,i guess :D

[AutumnWinds]

Yeah,cuddling is for me better than making out and stuff like that.We communicate a lot so we are on a good way,i guess :D

it sounds like things are going well. i'm really happy for you.

[jft96]

I told her that maybe I love her and she say the same :D
I dont know what to do,i am so haaaappy
Her message was:I really love you,i havent told you yet,because i thought you already known it :D

[jft96]

it sounds like things are going well. i'm really happy for you.

Thank you a lot

[jft96]

You're not disturbing anyone man. OK something you ay have to realize and accept is she just may not want to be in a committed relationship with you. She likes you and probably thinks you're a nice guy, but that does not always equate to wanting to be in a relationship with the person. you can try to see if she wants too, but she may find it as a turn off you keep asking her about it. also, the fwb relationship usually applies she does not have to be committed to one guy. so either she is lying, or the fact she agreed to it may indicate she would actually consider a relationship. unfortunately, there are so many possibilities I cannot know for sure. it is something you will have to continue to work out with her

I am boring,but again i really need your help!!
She said she loves me,but just wanna stay fwb.And its co complicated.We had a talk yesterday,watch this now lol:I love her,she loves me.I want relationship,she doesnt.Her "theory" is(i dont know if you will understand me)she have to make out with other boys(we are just 15,so make up)because i would bored to her(got it? lol)
Anyway..if i want relationship,i have to allow her to do it with other boys,so we can be together later,in long relationship...
I said it awful,idk if u can understand me,but i want your opinion..what would you do on my place..

[SethfromMI]

I am boring,but again i really need your help!!
She said she loves me,but just wanna stay fwb.And its co complicated.We had a talk yesterday,watch this now lol:I love her,she loves me.I want relationship,she doesnt.Her "theory" is(i dont know if you will understand me)she have to make out with other boys(we are just 15,so make up)because i would bored to her(got it? lol)
Anyway..if i want relationship,i have to allow her to do it with other boys,so we can be together later,in long relationship...
I said it awful,idk if u can understand me,but i want your opinion..what would you do on my place..


well, she just wants you to be one of the many people she makes out/does whatever else with. that really does not sound like she loves you to me. I love my gf and she is the only person I do that type of stuff with. I guess to decide. if she is worth it, then you may have to allow her to do what she wants to do. you might also decide if she is not going to value the same way you value her, you may need to move on from her

[lacey02]

Hi everyone,first of all I apologise for my bad English..
I am 15 years old
I have one problem.In my country high school starts when you are about 15 years old.In September I went in school and I met nice girl from my class.We started to talk,I started to like her..We went out couple weeks ago together and we kissed.I always had feeling she likes someone else,and I still had that feeling.We made out couple and I want to ask her what does she feels.My best friend and her best friend are in relationship and they said to me that she wants just fwb.They also said me that she maybe wants relationship but not now.I dont wanna wait,I never had this feeling before.I think I am in love but I dont have a clue what she feels.

Sounds familiar. :lol:, Mostly I wanted to compliment you on your English and courage to try a new and different language. It will all work out as supposed to with this girl. Talking to her will make it easy to see if she likes you or not.

[jft96]

I really dont know what to do now.She is the only person i would do that things,but she always wants to be near me,talking with me..and she said me 100 times that she loves me,she cried because of me...I am so confused now,we decided to stay fwb..but i said her that if she do something with someone i will forget her..she realised shes bi,and i am the second person who knows that,so i think,deep inside,she loves me

[jft96]

Sounds familiar. :lol:, Mostly I wanted to compliment you on your English and courage to try a new and different language. It will all work out as supposed to with this girl. Talking to her will make it easy to see if she likes you or not.

We talked about it a lot,but i am so confused and i dont know what to do

[lacey02]

We talked about it a lot,but i am so confused and i dont know what to do

time is on your side. Maybe being her friend no matter what will give her time to show you how she really feels.:D

[jft96]

time is on your side. Maybe being her friend no matter what will give her time to show you how she really feels.:D

I hope so :)...actually i think its beacause of friends...my best friend and her best friend are one year older than us and they got same problem,he want relationship,she doesnt...she have same theory like my girl,she is bi,my girl is bi..its weird,it sounds like im in love with two persons,if you got me lol

[jft96]

I have problem again.She said to me that she loves me,i said the same.she doesnt want any type of commitment except fwb..she want to go out with other boys,too.what to do?how to forget her...because she said that we will never be together

[Hudor]

Try to avoid her. Don't talk much, don't see her much. Since she's quite clear she isn't interested in you maintain some distance. And as you've already realised you should move on too.

[Uniquemind]

well, she just wants you to be one of the many people she makes out/does whatever else with. that really does not sound like she loves you to me. I love my gf and she is the only person I do that type of stuff with. I guess to decide. if she is worth it, then you may have to allow her to do what she wants to do. you might also decide if she is not going to value the same way you value her, you may need to move on from her

It might be some attraction there, but it sounds to me like she don't know or recognize the definition on her own emotions, and she wants to explore other boys and girls to see what emotions are triggered in her, so she can respond in-kind.

Usually that's what drives the mental motivation I think for both genders to do the "slut phase".

I have problem again.She said to me that she loves me,i said the same.she doesnt want any type of commitment except fwb..she want to go out with other boys,too.what to do?how to forget her...because she said that we will never be together


Honestly it's the 21st century, odds are you will not find a girl you like whose sexually only known you, or hasn't dated someone else. I only know of 2 couples who made it from childhood to marriage and one of them ended in divorce anyway.


She also keeps repeating that line of dialogue because she's confused, maybe guilty and is looking to you for validation, she wants you as a safety net for emotional support and possibly sexual support if her ventures with other romances don't work. I would not consent to that, I wouldn't ridicule her, but say no that's unfair to you as a person, relationship is what you want that won't change.

This may mean that she still won't choose you, but the sexual acts will stop allowing you a fresh start with someone new. A clean fresh break from drama.

[jft96]

Try to avoid her. Don't talk much, don't see her much. Since she's quite clear she isn't interested in you maintain some distance. And as you've already realised you should move on too.

It is impossible,we are all day long together,we are even sitting together in school
We had an argument today,and we are good now...i said her everything,i said that she has freedom,she can try other boys,she is happy now i think.she asked me am i good with that,i was pretending that i am good ,but deep inside me i was crying and i was so sad.for first time in idk 10 months i cried,it sounds silly and weird but i cried like little baby
We wont be at same party for the new year,i cant even imagine her with someone :(

[jft96]

It might be some attraction there, but it sounds to me like she don't know or recognize the definition on her own emotions, and she wants to explore other boys and girls to see what emotions are triggered in her, so she can respond in-kind.

Usually that's what drives the mental motivation I think for both genders to do the "slut phase".




Honestly it's the 21st century, odds are you will not find a girl you like whose sexually only known you, or hasn't dated someone else. I only know of 2 couples who made it from childhood to marriage and one of them ended in divorce anyway.


She also keeps repeating that line of dialogue because she's confused, maybe guilty and is looking to you for validation, she wants you as a safety net for emotional support and possibly sexual support if her ventures with other romances don't work. I would not consent to that, I wouldn't ridicule her, but say no that's unfair to you as a person, relationship is what you want that won't change.

This may mean that she still won't choose you, but the sexual acts will stop allowing you a fresh start with someone new. A clean fresh break from drama.

Yeah,you told me things that i already now...thank you very much anyway
I said two minutes ago what have i done,i hope it will end good,i am still hoping...:(

[AutumnWinds]

It is impossible,we are all day long together,we are even sitting together in school
We had an argument today,and we are good now...i said her everything,i said that she has freedom,she can try other boys,she is happy now i think.she asked me am i good with that,i was pretending that i am good ,but deep inside me i was crying and i was so sad.for first time in idk 10 months i cried,it sounds silly and weird but i cried like little baby
We wont be at same party for the new year,i cant even imagine her with someone :(

i'm sorry this is working out this way for you. i hope you heal quickly.

[Uniquemind]

Yeah,you told me things that i already now...thank you very much anyway
I said two minutes ago what have i done,i hope it will end good,i am still hoping...:(

Okay. The path you've chosen though is not one I would walk; about lying about your feelings and allowing yourself to be in a submissive situation where your partner has other options and you are single or don't see anybody else. I think that's self-destructive.

I would've rather chosen no sex life, no love life, and let my ex do what they want. When they're ready to give a closed monogamous relationship (as per what you want), then talks can resume.

[LanaPole]

i think it's obvious that she wants her freedom. Perhaps she might accept an open relationship with you? i think that might be what she wants. you might not want it. dont push her too much. stay as fwb for now and move on slowly

[jft96]

i think it's obvious that she wants her freedom. Perhaps she might accept an open relationship with you? i think that might be what she wants. you might not want it. dont push her too much. stay as fwb for now and move on slowly

She told me openly,no relationship,she is young and wants to try things...

[jft96]

i'm sorry this is working out this way for you. i hope you heal quickly.

Thanks a lot,but i think its over now,we havent talked at all today and i think its over...if she loves me like she said,she wont let me go,i think..but i am trying to forget her now...No woman,no cry :(

[jft96]

Okay. The path you've chosen though is not one I would walk; about lying about your feelings and allowing yourself to be in a submissive situation where your partner has other options and you are single or don't see anybody else. I think that's self-destructive.

I would've rather chosen no sex life, no love life, and let my ex do what they want. When they're ready to give a closed monogamous relationship (as per what you want), then talks can resume.

I did that today,i told her everything you said to me,i have same opinion like you,by fits and starts we will see what is going to happen

[Uniquemind]

I did that today,i told her everything you said to me,i have same opinion like you,by fits and starts we will see what is going to happen

There you go. If she finds that you're right for her she'll return. Now it's your own solo issue to come to realize girls have experience and have had their bodies touched by multiple guys within their lifetime. I sense that might be an issue of pride and possession associated with your level of love-loyalty and trust you need to work on as an individual.

If she returns that issue might come up for you to deal with, if she doesn't then oh well move on.

[jft96]

There you go. If she finds that you're right for her she'll return. Now it's your own solo issue to come to realize girls have experience and have had their bodies touched by multiple guys within their lifetime. I sense that might be an issue of pride and possession associated with your level of love-loyalty and trust you need to work on as an individual.

If she returns that issue might come up for you to deal with, if she doesn't then oh well move on.

Yeah,you are right,thank you a lot for advices

[AutumnWinds]

Thanks a lot,but i think its over now,we havent talked at all today and i think its over...if she loves me like she said,she wont let me go,i think..but i am trying to forget her now...No woman,no cry :(

it's better this way. when you find s girl who returns your feelings and actions you'll be happier in the long run. i know it doesn't seem that way, but it will be.

[LanaPole]

She told me openly,no relationship,she is young and wants to try things...

so no relationship even if you allow her to screw other boys? if a open relationship doesnt work out , then youll just have to accept that shes not ready for any relationships at the moment. you could continue to be a fwb and wait patiently for the future.

[jft96]

so no relationship even if you allow her to screw other boys? if a open relationship doesnt work out , then youll just have to accept that shes not ready for any relationships at the moment. you could continue to be a fwb and wait patiently for the future.

No,she doesnt want relationship,but she ruined my weekend.I told her its all over but she doesnt want to lose me and she was almost crying when i left her...after a while i went to her...first i told her that i cant leave her then i hugged her,told her that i love her very,very,very much and i kissed her in the face and left,she was soo happy.She doesnt want to talk with me right now,actually she went to sleepover to some girls which smoke weed,and i hate those things,i dont even know where she is right now :(

[jft96]

it's better this way. when you find s girl who returns your feelings and actions you'll be happier in the long run. i know it doesn't seem that way, but it will be.

I tried to discontinue all but i cant hour without her...

[AutumnWinds]

i think you can. i know it's hard, and i'm sure it's not something you want to do, but i think you're strong enough to do what's right for yourself, and i think in the long run you'll be happy you saved yourself the pain.

[Uniquemind]

Problem is she feels and knows she has all the power now.

The relationships over and I suspect she's gonna walk all over you now since your caught in her temptation web.

[LanaPole]

No,she doesnt want relationship,but she ruined my weekend.I told her its all over but she doesnt want to lose me and she was almost crying when i left her...after a while i went to her...first i told her that i cant leave her then i hugged her,told her that i love her very,very,very much and i kissed her in the face and left,she was soo happy.She doesnt want to talk with me right now,actually she went to sleepover to some girls which smoke weed,and i hate those things,i dont even know where she is right now :(

i think she considers you a good friend, or a good friend with benefits. this doesnt have to end, but shes not ready for a relationship.

[jft96]

i think you can. i know it's hard, and i'm sure it's not something you want to do, but i think you're strong enough to do what's right for yourself, and i think in the long run you'll be happy you saved yourself the pain.

its so hard,but if i see her with someone else,i dunno what i would do...i tried to left her,i tried to ignore her but simply,i cant

[AutumnWinds]

its so hard,but if i see her with someone else,i dunno what i would do...i tried to left her,i tried to ignore her but simply,i cant

you can. it's just a matter of proper willpower and motivation.

what worries me if that i think you'll see a lot more of her with someone unless you put a lot of distance between the two of you. you know what i mean?

[jft96]

you can. it's just a matter of proper willpower and motivation.

what worries me if that i think you'll see a lot more of her with someone unless you put a lot of distance between the two of you. you know what i mean?

yeah,i know,but i cant imagine a day without her,and distance is impossibe because we are all day together in school...im trying and trying but im every 10 minutes on my phone and checking if she is online(mostly because she just seen my message)...and i havent told that before,but her best friend is my ex which i cheated on and we got separated(she saw me kissing another girl)and my ex is her source of bad informations about me

[AutumnWinds]

yeah,i know,but i cant imagine a day without her,and distance is impossibe because we are all day together in school...im trying and trying but im every 10 minutes on my phone and checking if she is online(mostly because she just seen my message)...and i havent told that before,but her best friend is my ex which i cheated on and we got separated(she saw me kissing another girl)and my ex is her source of bad informations about me


she makes the decision on what to believe and what to do,though, not your ex.

if you can't be with he, your best bet is to be as separate as possible. take her off social media, don't talk to her, live your own life and find someone who wants the same things you do.

[jft96]

she makes the decision on what to believe and what to do,though, not your ex.

if you can't be with he, your best bet is to be as separate as possible. take her off social media, don't talk to her, live your own life and find someone who wants the same things you do.

i dont agree with you now,when she came in my school,i said her:watch out,here is so many drugs and stuff like that,she said me that she has her own attitude and she wont experiment,now because of my ex and her company she is smoking weed and ignoring me
yeah,i got you,but i cant explain you what i really feel,i think she doesnt love me,too and i think that im her good fwb or something,actually i think shes just horny

[AutumnWinds]

i dont agree with you now,when she came in my school,i said her:watch out,here is so many drugs and stuff like that,she said me that she has her own attitude and she wont experiment,now because of my ex and her company she is smoking weed and ignoring me
yeah,i got you,but i cant explain you what i really feel,i think she doesnt love me,too and i think that im her good fwb or something,actually i think shes just horny

i'm sorry, i didn't fully understand your response. little help?

[jft96]

i'm sorry, i didn't fully understand your response. little help?

sure,my bad english,sorry :D
my ex girlfriends company is smoking weed,and i told her watch out,here is a lot of drugs and weed..she told me that she wont try anything...a month later i saw her smoking weed with my ex(and i hate drugs and weed)

when am not seeing her its good(during the weekend) im not thinking about her either...and when im in school i cant stop thinking about her and im missing her so much...we havent talk for a while and its better,but on the new years party ill maybe lose my virginity with her,she said that she would have sex with me and maybe she still love me :/

[AutumnWinds]

thank you for clarifying. i cant speak any other languages, so you're still a huge step up on me :)

i think it's important to realize that this girl chose to emulate your girlfriend in smoking weed and doing other things. no one forced it on her.

i think your new years plans are a mistake. she's keeping you just close enough not to lose you with promises of love and sex, but if she truly cared for you, she would either give you what you wanted or tell you it was never going to happen. this limbo she is keeping you in is just cruel.

[jft96]

thank you for clarifying. i cant speak any other languages, so you're still a huge step up on me :)

i think it's important to realize that this girl chose to emulate your girlfriend in smoking weed and doing other things. no one forced it on her.

i think your new years plans are a mistake. she's keeping you just close enough not to lose you with promises of love and sex, but if she truly cared for you, she would either give you what you wanted or tell you it was never going to happen. this limbo she is keeping you in is just cruel.

I know,everyone is saying that i should left her and we got a big fight yesterday but we are good now...its not the same thing like two months before...she is leaving me and my friends and moving to bad company
Its so hard now,what to do?how to move on?should i still hoping?

[AutumnWinds]

this is a really difficult thing to go though. i'm really sorry you've gotta deal with it. i truly think the best thing is to try and forget her and move on. she's made her choice clear. there isn't much you can do but get dragged down as well, unless you cut ties and move on.

[Uniquemind]

Sometimes you have no choice but to let people destroy themselves.

That's a cold hard truth.

[jft96]

Thanks you all,very much