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Equinox1
October 21st, 2015, 06:34 AM
Okay so basically from 12-14, there was this kid at my old school who had a crush on me. Back then, I had a fear of males because of something that happened to me when I was little and I had (and still do have) bad social anxiety, I was also diagnosed with anxiety when I was around eight. This guy though was extremely extroverted and I think had ADHD, he was very hyperactive and tried to get people's (mainly my) attention a lot so our personalities were quite different. Anyway, I felt a bit scared by him because he was so outgoing. I tried not to be rude, if he complimented me I thanked him or smiled if I got too nervous to talk. That's basically the only time we talked (if he gave me compliments) except about school stuff (helping with assignments, etc.). Then, I ended up getting a crush on him but that wasn't until I was fourteen. So what I'm trying to say is, I feel super guilty because I think I might of hurt his feelings/broke his heart because maybe I came off as rude because I was so shy? He didn't really seem as interested when I was fourteen (this was the last year I was at the old school) and I feel like I was sounding like I wasn't interested. I wanted to talk to him but I was just nervous to be around people. Then I moved schools (I was being bullied) and I just feel super bad. I tell myself that that's just something I'll have to live with but maybe I shouldn't beat myself up about it. Also, I didn't tell anyone at my old school that I was leaving and haven't talked to them since. Should I actually feel bad? :(

SethfromMI
October 21st, 2015, 06:47 AM
don't feel bad, you have social anxiety, that is something which is beyond your control. if you want, try to get into contact with him through social media or whatever and explain to him. social media may be best for you because you have time to think about what you want to say and then do it without having to do it in person

Hudor
October 21st, 2015, 07:12 AM
I think it's more about you moving away without telling anyone and you not being able to express your feelings for him now that makes you feel bad. It might be that because you've moved now you feel worse about things, hence generating guilt while the other person may not have felt that bad about it even.
And if you feel like putting it off your chest or being friends with him again or something like that, you could probably text him or visit him sometime.

SillyShyGuy
October 21st, 2015, 11:15 AM
You should not feel bad. You were just shy and did not feel like talking as much as he did. You were nice to say thank you when he paid you compliments. It is was it is, there is nothing you can do about it now.