Guy I like may or may not be straight

[Just a Guy]

***i know this probably doesn't belong in this at short but I don't know where it goes so move it if necessary**

Okay so I posted something earlier about me liking/Having a bromance with another guy, and I'm starting to think it's an actual crush but he is straight and has a girlfriend. I don't want to interfere with his relationship but I think he might be gay or at least bi, so if he breaks up with his girlfriend how should I make it known to him my feelings for him and also see if he's interested?

[Abhorrence]

Puberty For Boys :arrow: Relationships & Dating.

[Musichead2428]

Well if he's bi or gay then you shouldn't pressure him to break up his relationship just to get with you because that may cause a lot of arguments but whatever show yourself like how you would usually do and then keep on acting normal don't stress it to the point you look stupid but show him here and there that you are interested in him and maybe he will express his feelings and be honest with him to

[Legoboy]

Hi again :)

He's straight and at the you *think* he's gay or bi.


Now if he's legit identifying as straight, but you have good reason to think he might be bi or in the closet then you are going to take a risk on upsetting him by trying to pull him out of his closet.

You are also going to have to take the risk of confessing your own feelings and attractions.


The second one shouldn't be a big deal since you guys are close like you said in your other post.

The first one is the real issue. I think if you make it clear your are available and interested in him then if he is actually bi and not happy in his current relationship (big if) or if he's gay and she's like camo however you spell it *THEN* he might see that he could make a move towards something with you.

So what I'm trying to say is you can't haul him out of the closet, make him break up with his gf, tell him you have feelings and then do a 'no homo' when he reacts badly. You're going to have to take risks but be smart about it.

[lliam]

... so if he breaks up with his girlfriend how should I make it known to him my feelings for him and also see if he's interested?


That's obvious, isn't it? Try even to get closer with him.

[NZPerson]

Dont sabotage his current relationship it would ruin all your changes when he releases also if he is bi or so you think gay guys often date girls because they want to prove there straight and theyre embarrassed about being gay so as a result he likely wont go out until he has come out of the closet again don't force him to come out though.

Best of luck

[SillyShyGuy]

Only confess your feelings if he does end things with his girlfriend because then people will tease either you, him, or both of you. It is not fair that some people are not open to these types of relationships. If he does have feelings for you then go for it and tell him

[ChaosEarthquake]

This is a personal opinion, from what happened TODAY to me..

Do not confess your feelings to him, until he breaks up with his girlfriend.. AND.. you are 100% SURE he is Gay/Bi.

I confessed my feelings to a guy I have had a crush on for 3 months, and I was met with a fist to the jaw and extreme teasing just two hours ago.

Just be careful, and be yourself! :)

[Nightfall_]

Don't pressure him into anything. That's how arguments start and, although they can be funny, there probably not the best way to go. As for if he ever is single, don't jump in too quickly. If you tell/show him your feelings to quickly he might get scared of or think your desperate as your going in for it as soon as he ends his relationship. Try and keep everything relaxed.

As for getting him to know, just throw in a few discrete hints that say "i like you" without getting in the way of anything or making it to obvious. Maybe try a smile in his direction? See if he's comfortable with body contact such as hand shaking/bro hugging (is that a thing?), etc.

Well, i hope this helped :D . Sorry it's a bit long.

[NotQuiteANerd97]

You could ask him if he's gay or bi, and if he says yes, ask him out.