Ignore her

[SillyShyGuy]

I had a crush on a girl named Alyssa. I mentioned her in one of my other threads before. Well she is cute and very kind. But I know now that she is one to cave into peer pressure and flirts with a few guys. One of my friends thinks she already has a boyfriend. Whether or not Alyssa is single, I want to keep my distance from her.

Whenever we do have a funny conversation, another guy just coincidentally strolls by and interrupts and makes her laugh. Then I feel awkward because I have to wait for him to leave. I hate that feeling. Plus she pretends to be into the movies and stuff I like, but never wants to spend time with me outside of work.

So just yesterday I decided to stop talking to her, at least not more than a few words. I would wave Hi not to be rude and she is always first to say Hi. She is noticing my change in attitude and asks why I am being weird- still smiling as always. I fear she does not share my feelings. Is it bad to start ignoring her? Should I keep trying to get her to hang out with me? Most important, should I confess my feelings if we are alone together? I am stuck and need help.

[drhalsey1]

Well you can tell her what's bugging you, that you don't like waiting because of interruptions, her pretending to like what you like, and not spending time with you. You can tell her your feelings if you think it would help at all, and it's not necessarily bad to ignore her, but if you want any relationship, friend or otherwise ignoring her isn't the best step to take