I'm 13 and I might be a daddy!

[XxhellifiknowxX]

Me and my girlfriend had sex on our three months and I came inside her. Long story short my parents found out about it... the weird thing is I don't feel regretful for my actions. But I may not see her ever again and she might be pregnant according to her mom! Help!?!?

[TheLivingLie]

Well did u use a condom??? Obviously not, but that's what they are for.. As far as your girlfriend is concerned, she might/will need an abortion as i do beloved it isn't really safe for her to go into labour.

[XxhellifiknowxX]

Ok.. Its just the situation itself that's making me stress. She's 15 btw

[The Trendy Wolf]

Me and my girlfriend had sex on our three months and I came inside her. Long story short my parents found out about it... the weird thing is I don't feel regretful for my actions. But I may not see her ever again and she might be pregnant according to her mom! Help!?!?

If you have no regrets, then why should you be ashamed? Because your love is being frowned upon by others?

It was not necessarily a wise choice to have unprotected sex at such a young age, but your actions show your love for her, and you therefore should at least be able to see her and share what you have together.

[Living For Love]

Even though you had full intercourse with her, it doesn't necessarily mean she's pregnant. If she isn't, then be more careful next time, you don't want to take any risks. If she is pregnant, the you might want to explore all the options available with her, her family and your parents (abortion, adoption, raising the child...)

[XxhellifiknowxX]

Thank you. And my parents aren't mad either. Its her parents the are pissed off. I feel as if I did nothing wrong and she feels the same so why would parents make such a big deal out of it

also antiabortion

[Romaana]

Call me old fashioned but i dont think you should have an intimate relationship at 13 but thats just me. Like the saying goes your actions have consequences. You might not feel regretful but i highly doubt if you would be able to go through fatherhood at such a young age. My thoughts are completley with the child if there is one.

[phoenixboy]

Ok, Step one relax I know people who were in your situation who are dads now at age 15 I also know a girl that is currently in this situation and your parents will get over it sooner then you think, Step two confirm she is pregnant, step three consider your options (I am anti abortion) but adoption is good or you could always keep the child(whatever you decide to do make sure your there at the birth) I assume you love ur girlfriend I might bring you closer and also your parents and hers will get over it as soon as the baby is born.

P.S. your parents are only acting mad believe it or not her parents are the mad ones

[Pulp501]

Someone your age really shouldn't be having sex at all, obviously you aren't educated enough to even think to use a condom. If she is pregnant, you really don't have much of a say. If her parents make her give it up, or keep it, you have to go with it. Try to support her in any decisions she makes. If she wants to keep it and have you help her, you need to I guess learn some parenting skills because you'll need it. Don't let the baby come between you and your girlfriend. Most teen fathers end up being dicks.

[Seemyheart]

Someone your age really shouldn't be having sex at all, obviously you aren't educated enough to even think to use a condom. If she is pregnant, you really don't have much of a say. If her parents make her give it up, or keep it, you have to go with it. Try to support her in any decisions she makes. If she wants to keep it and have you help her, you need to I guess learn some parenting skills because you'll need it. Don't let the baby come between you and your girlfriend. Most teen fathers end up being dicks.

That's their decision to have sex, even if it may be a bit early...Just because he didn't use a condom, doesn't make him uneducated, that was also a choice. If she is pregnant, you do have a say, it's not just her or her parents say, it's also yours too. It takes two to make a baby, so it takes two to decide how to deal with the pregnancy
I wish you and your gf the best of luck

[Pulp501]

That's their decision to have sex, even if it may be a bit early...Just because he didn't use a condom, doesn't make him uneducated, that was also a choice. If she is pregnant, you do have a say, it's not just her or her parents say, it's also yours too. It takes two to make a baby, so it takes two to decide how to deal with the pregnancy
I wish you and your gf the best of luck

A dumb choice....and in today's world, the father especially a teenage father has very little say. He has no say when it comes to an abortion, you could battle in court over custody. His girlfriend could go against her parents, but she most likely won't, since she won't go against her parents to see him.

[Seemyheart]

A dumb choice....and in today's world, the father especially a teenage father has very little say. He has no say when it comes to an abortion, you could battle in court over custody. His girlfriend could go against her parents, but she most likely won't, since she won't go against her parents to see him.

I'm not saying whether or not I agree with THEIR choice, because it's their lives.
I'm just saying, he should have a say, I know he probably won't have a lot of say, but he should be able to

[ksdnfkfr]

At your age its really a matter of the parents sorting it out.
At least yours are on your side more or less.
But until you know for sure she is pregnant there really isn't much I have to say about it.

[Badger]

First off: Love shouldn't be wasted on someone that you don't truly love- love is precious mate, treat it that way.

2: Not using a condom is silly- you should have been smarter, and besides that, you're too young/immature to be having unprotected sex.

3: She'll have to get an abortion, at her age it would be more harmful to have the child than to have the abortion.

[NotShortButFunsized]

Call me old fashioned but i dont think you should have an intimate relationship at 13 but thats just me. Like the saying goes your actions have consequences. You might not feel regretful but i highly doubt if you would be able to go through fatherhood at such a young age. My thoughts are completley with the child if there is one.

exactly, at that age nobody is even capable of dealing with the consequences...it's so irresponsible because it literally risks destroying the future lives of everyone involved...the consequences are enormous

[Lord Of Curiosity]

I say nice catch with someone 2 years older! Just a shame she is pregnent now. you should make a wise decision and give the child a better live with adoption. It will be hard but it has to be done

[isaiah]

Me and my girlfriend had sex on our three months and I came inside her. Long story short my parents found out about it... the weird thing is I don't feel regretful for my actions. But I may not see her ever again and she might be pregnant according to her mom! Help!?!?

Well i say get to know and like her parents and make sure she does the same with your parents do more chores around the house and get your allowance until you can get a child but don't abortion keep the baby you will regret it and just let your parents help u until you are old enough to take care of the baby but pray she is not pregnant

[Tyler97]

good luck, why were you having sex at 13? I just turned 17 and haven't had sex yet, I've done oral sex and a lot of making out, but actual intercourse is for the person you're going to marry. I hope everything works out for you.

[John566]

Bud, that's really young to be having sex. Anyway, good luck and use a condom next time.

[Steven1]

Call me old fashioned but i dont think you should have an intimate relationship at 13 but thats just me. Like the saying goes your actions have consequences. You might not feel regretful but i highly doubt if you would be able to go through fatherhood at such a young age. My thoughts are completley with the child if there is one.

Someone your age really shouldn't be having sex at all, obviously you aren't educated enough to even think to use a condom. If she is pregnant, you really don't have much of a say. If her parents make her give it up, or keep it, you have to go with it.


Exactly my thoughts.

[nick_1999]

If you didn't use protection, that's your own fault. You need to be a man and face the consequences...

[JonBarleyCorn]

I think you need more help than this forum can give. You needed to act responsible and wear a condom at the time. You came in her. For real man, that can have life long consequences. Good luck.

[Daz 2000]

Try not to worry too much about the situation until you know for sure she's pregnant. I hope things turn out the way you want them to. Good luck ;-)

[deregisterme]

Thank you. And my parents aren't mad either. Its her parents the are pissed off. I feel as if I did nothing wrong and she feels the same so why would parents make such a big deal out of it

also antiabortion

For all the comments about what you should and shouldn't have done, is irrelevant now, and you're not the first person to be in this position. The situation is usually tougher for the girl as guys can "disappear". By the sounds of it you (with your parents) won't run away from this. The first thing to establish and confirm or not if she is pregnant. If she's not, you may just have to accept that her parents may keep you apart. If she is pregnant, then you should all be involved in the decision in the child's future. I'm anti abortion myself (unless there is a major medical risk). If you both feel you're not ready for the responsibility, adoption is always available. Life is strange in the fact that some couples try for years and can't get pregnant, and in others (like here) in a moment of passion create a life. I do wish both you and her the best of luck

[AlexOnToast]

What can I say except that I wish you luck.... Im afraid that considering your age, it's really a parent-call on this one :(