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Fried13
October 18th, 2015, 07:23 AM
First of all, I'm going to [attempt] to explain my sexuality to you.
I am 85% unsure about my sexuality. I am AFAB, and there's a chance I could just be a 'tom boyish' girl.
However, at the moment, I identify as Feminine Neutrois. I'm not really sure if anyone'll know what that is; everyone could know, or no one could, so I'm just gonna explain it as best I can.

Essentially, a Neutrois is very similar to Agender, and could be considered to be genderless; the exact definition is entirely up to who is using it --- I consider it to mean genderless or not identifying as either male or female.
I consider myself to be a Feminine Neutrois.
I'm not entirely sure whether I am, or if I even have the definition right, but to me it means that I am, as it says, a feminine genderless person. So I was born a girl (hence not trans-feminine neutrois), and I have those parts; but to me they do not signify my femininity. I see them to be parts that I happen to have, rather than parts that mean I am a girl. Most days I will consider myself to be entirely genderless and others I will identify as a girl; but for the most part I don't even think of myself gender wise, I just consider myself a human, rather than female or male or anything else.
Simply put, I feel most comfortable living in a kind of agender way, however in some occasions and some aspects I feel feminine; most would consider me to be in an 'agender to female' spectrum, probably erring on the side of female.

I know this is a very bad description and I'm sorry it doesn't make any sense, I've simply not really bothered identify with (or without) a gender for most of my life --- mostly because that I was brought up in a very supportive yet sheltered environment where I was neither pressured into anything nor really given the chance or prompted to explore or consider anything --- so I find it difficult to put into words what I feel I am (or put a name to it)
This should make it easier (or rather help explain how hard it is) to define my sexuality.




So I definitely like guys. Like... yeah, no question there, in a romantic way at least, I like guys (I should say, I've never actually done the deed, and I've been kissed once in my life (please don't laugh, I know its sad; but I was given ugly genes and I'm proud!). But I also believe I might like girls. Andd I don't consider gender (except under a social aspect due to the generally unsupportive environment that high school is) when I look at people; like the parts themselves don't at all come into equation --- I don't like them, but having one or the other won't phase me. So I essentially consider myself to be Pansexual. The only thing I'm unsure about is in regards to whether I'd fall under a slight greysexual umbrella due to the lack of physical/sexual attraction and more emotional one. I mean I always considered myself to be allosexual, but I just learnt of greysexual and am unsure as to whether I might be very minorly that.


So yeah... any help with sexuality and/or gender woes would be greatly appreciated bros xD

ptz7649
October 19th, 2015, 03:37 PM
Wow. We are so similar.

I'm pretty sure I'm straight (attracted to males), but it's been really confusing lately...

and I'm gender questioning. It's so hard and confusing to actually understand it, and I feel really over whelmed by it all. I think I'm agender or generqueer, but (I know it sounds stupid), I just hate that name cuz it makes me sound like I'm "strange" or weird (queer)

northy
October 19th, 2015, 04:55 PM
Wow. We are so similar.

I'm pretty sure I'm straight (attracted to males), but it's been really confusing lately...

and I'm gender questioning. It's so hard and confusing to actually understand it, and I feel really over whelmed by it all. I think I'm agender or generqueer, but (I know it sounds stupid), I just hate that name cuz it makes me sound like I'm "strange" or weird (queer)



You don't have to label yourself you know. If you don't like 'genderqueer', don't call yourself it! A label is just a word.

ptz7649
October 22nd, 2015, 11:37 AM
You don't have to label yourself you know. If you don't like 'genderqueer', don't call yourself it! A label is just a word.

I know, but I don't know how to tell people about it when I don't know what to say...

northy
October 23rd, 2015, 04:05 AM
I know, but I don't know how to tell people about it when I don't know what to say...



Then say that!

Just JT
October 23rd, 2015, 04:59 AM
Then say that!


You don't need to say anything really, it's a personal thing, and really none of their business actually. But if you feel the need to explain, then just explain as you did here, you did an excellent honest job of explaining how you feel

Good job...