Am I gay or is this a bromance??

[Just a Guy]

*okay I know this isn't really boys puberty but idk where else to put it, and most people look here soo move it if it fits somewhere else*

Okay, so I'm friends with this other guy and we're both straight but I've recently started to notice a strong attraction I have towards him but idk if it's sexual or romantic or just platonic like I want to be his friend...

So whenever he talks to me I get really excited and he is pretty touchy with me like he'll touch my chest and lightly punch me in the chest and stuff and also we say I love you to each other quite a bit.

I do find him attractive but I don't think I want to like do anything sexual or stuff. But if I'm completely honest, when he talks to me and gets really close or when we hug I kinda get a boner.

Is this me being gay or is this like a bromance kind of thing?

[drhalsey1]

It could be either, like, is he the only guy you've found attractive

[Just a Guy]

Not really, I've found other guys attractive (but guys can find each other attractive without being gay) but this guy is the only one I've felt this strongly about

[hesaidhesaid]

Possibly...but I'd call it a bromance for now. See where it develops.

[drhalsey1]

Yeah, I agree with hansofandersen, just call it a bromance for now, until you find out for sure what you'd consider it, plus labels aren't important, so you shouldn't worry about finding any labels of sexuality right now anyways

[Bluebyrd]

Well you said you're attracted to him so you might be gay.

[Abhorrence]

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[Catholic Guy]

The boner would hint more towards gay but it could be a bromance, nobody can tell you it's something you have to work out for yourself. You could try spending lots of time with him and having 'sleepovers' and see how you feel when you're with him a lot

[Legoboy]

Well here's how I figured out I am gay a year ago. Some boys gave me erections and made me want to like do stuff (in my head it was only cuddling, being their best friend and stuff to start with) and as I found out more about puberty and understood about sex feelings I realised that I wanted sex with those boys. No girls made me feel like that (and everything I've seen in porn since then just turns me off girls more).

So I think if you like some one a lot and feel like you want to kiss them or do sex stuff with them *because* you like them then maybe you just should see what happens. You might hate the sex side but if you trust and like the person and talk about it honestly then you can experiment and learn more about yourselves.

[Just a Guy]

Legoboy, so are you suggesting I should try experimenting with him?

[Legoboy]

Legoboy, so are you suggesting I should try experimenting with him?

Well I don't know your whole situation and how peope where you live are about gay stuff but if you guys are real open then you could bring it up to see if he thought it would be worth a go. But if there's a chance it could make things wierd I'd leave it alone.

I mean strong warm feelings to a person of the same sex don't make you gay, you can love a dad a son or a brother. Attraction and like getting turned on well thats different.

I think maybe its like when I'm hungry, if I think I fancy a particular sandwich then thing ok so would I still want x or y instead and the answers "no" then I know I'm not actually hungry. So if you haven't already thought about it think about exactly what you guys would do together, what actual stuff he might want to do and would you be willing to try it? And if you think "ew" to stuff you'll know if its a romantic / platonic thing of if you've got real sexual interest there.

[Bull]

*okay I know this isn't really boys puberty but idk where else to put it, and most people look here soo move it if it fits somewhere else*

Okay, so I'm friends with this other guy and we're both straight but I've recently started to notice a strong attraction I have towards him but idk if it's sexual or romantic or just platonic like I want to be his friend...

So whenever he talks to me I get really excited and he is pretty touchy with me like he'll touch my chest and lightly punch me in the chest and stuff and also we say I love you to each other quite a bit.

I do find him attractive but I don't think I want to like do anything sexual or stuff. But if I'm completely honest, when he talks to me and gets really close or when we hug I kinda get a boner.

Is this me being gay or is this like a bromance kind of thing?

ok, so he is pretty touchy with you, and you say "I love you" to each other, and you hug. Sounds pretty nice things are happening between you guys. It doesn't have to get sexual, but it could. If the touching/hugging is happening only when you guys are alone that would suggest you are both a little afraid of your true feelings. If your behavior is public I would suggest a strong friendship exists. And, sometimes a strong friendship turns into a strong relationship. Relax and enjoy the time together and be open to where it may go. Stop short or allow further involvement. It is up to you and your desire. Good luck!

[Just a Guy]

Thank you guys all for your feedback. There's one thing I forgot to mention though. He has a girlfriend... So i don't know if he's straight or bi or gay in the closet.

Also, the touching we do is in front of other people we aren't usually alone often

[Legoboy]

Thank you guys all for your feedback. There's one thing I forgot to mention though. He has a girlfriend... So i don't know if he's straight or bi or gay in the closet.

Also, the touching we do is in front of other people we aren't usually alone often

Well you shouldn't encourage him to cheat but if you wanted you can let him know you might be open to stuff if he ever breaks up with her.

[Just a Guy]

Well you shouldn't encourage him to cheat but if you wanted you can let him know you might be open to stuff if he ever breaks up with her.

Oh no I wouldn't encourage him to cheat, but do you think he would be interested in anything like that if he wasn't in a relationship?

[Legoboy]

Oh no I wouldn't encourage him to cheat, but do you think he would be interested in anything like that if he wasn't in a relationship?

I don't think anyone can say apart from him honestly. You'll have to take a risk but if you are close then its not a big risk. The only thing would be bad is if you were really pushy about trying stuff and he's not interested, so just you know let him know you'd thought about it.

[NotQuiteANerd97]

It could be both. It depends on if you can see yourself dating him or having sex with him. If you can, it's probably more than a friendship. But some friends do joke about it without actually doing it.

[Sanchez16620]

Maybe you're just really good friends and are comfortable around each other

[lliam]

I do find him attractive but I don't think I want to like do anything sexual or stuff. But if I'm completely honest, when he talks to me and gets really close or when we hug I kinda get a boner.

At least if you had both sex, you know it.

But if you are sure that there is no sexual attraction, then it's just bromance Although I always thought if Bromance should classified as gay. Cause to me romance always seems somewhat of a sexual attraction, even if it never comes to having sex together or such.


But who cares?

[LiamC]

Probably a bromance, my straight best friend is like it even though I'm gay and he knows I find him attractive, but it's cool. We got tagged by another friend on this thing on Facebook "it's not a true friendship without a rumour you're gay for each other", and I guess that's true. What's a close friendship if you don't act a little gay for him haha.

[Living For Love]

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