Feel weird about it

[Rydar8]

Well so about 3 weeks ago, I got a girlfriend, and I haven't jacked off since. The problem is, I only ever jacked off to pics of guys etc. (Not porn tho, never have). And well now i'm reaching that point where I feel like I need to masturbate but I feel weird jacking off to guy stuff with a girlfriend. like so is it weird, or should I not care and jack off anyway?

[shybi15]

Thats not weird. I would probably do the same thing. Jerk off to whatever you want! :)

[SillyShyGuy]

I would not worry about it. I would jerk off anyway. Do not wait to wank because your body may just release it naturally in a wet dream if you have not jerked off in a while. It is not a bad thing to wank to a guy if you have a gf.

[Second Chance]

Well so about 3 weeks ago, I got a girlfriend, and I haven't jacked off since. The problem is, I only ever jacked off to pics of guys etc. (Not porn tho, never have). And well now i'm reaching that point where I feel like I need to masturbate but I feel weird jacking off to guy stuff with a girlfriend. like so is it weird, or should I not care and jack off anyway?

If you and your girlfriend do stuff together such as kissing or going beyond that, then it is not unusual that masturbating does not give you a lot of fun especially if your girlfriend provides you a lot of physical stimulation.

As for jacking off to pictures of guys, have you done that before, or have you only started doing that when you began dating the girl?

[Bluebyrd]

You can do it to anything even if you do have a girlfriend

[Hermes]

I can see your logic here:

1. If I have a girlfriend I must be straight.
2. If I am straight I am not allowed to be turned on by guys.
3. Therefore I should not jack off thinking about guys.

Remember:

1. Gay/Straight is not a dichotomy, it's a spectrum.
2. Labels are descriptive, not prescriptive.

Also jacking and sex are different. Sure, they both result in cumming and give you a refractory period from being horny but beyond that masturbation is about enjoying your body and sex is about sharing ultimate intimacy with another person.

[Andre 99]

Don't worry about it.
If it is what you like doing, then do it.

[Rydar8]

As for jacking off to pictures of guys, have you done that before, or have you only started doing that when you began dating the girl?

just to answer that question, it began long before I ever started dating the girl

[lliam]

just to answer that question, it began long before I ever started dating the girl

Shame on me. My first question was: Is he gay and has just a girlfriend because he really didn't want to be gay?

But then I thought: who cares?

eg: when I'm masturbating I usually neither think of girl, women ... whomever. I even don't watch porns or look at other pics. I'm just more concentrate on "the game".

So it is probably irrelevant what you think or what you look at whilst wanking. At least as long as it doesn't affect your relationship with your girlfriend.

[Second Chance]

just to answer that question, it began long before I ever started dating the girl

I get you, and since you have been jacking off to guys for a while my thinking is that you are bi-sexual. I would not necessarily say it is weird that you have a girlfriend and that you still jack off to guys. My only suggestion is to be realistic with yourself and make sure that you are truly into your girlfriend both physically and emotionally. If you honestly cannot get turned on by the female body and can only jack off to guys, then chances are you are gay which is fine. If you like both girls and guys, then that's fine, too, and you can jack off to guys while still being attracted to your girlfriend. If you and your girlfriend become really serious, then be honest with her about how you feel especially since you seem to have strong feelings towards guys.

[Zachary G]

What you jack off to is nobodys business but your own, so dont go punishing yourself because you have a girlfriend and you like jo to pics of guys. She will never find out unless you tell her, or anyone esle for that matter, so just do you and make yourself feel good.

[Legoboy]

I don't think its a problem right now, the only thing I'd say is if you have guilt about it just be honest with your GF about your sexuality so that it doesn't become a big old secret and surprise later on.

[fast8]

Go ahead and do it use whatever will help you nothing to feel weird abou

[kokik]

It doesnt matter. Jerk off to whatever you want,gay porn, straight porn, guy pics etc. What's important is the pleasure

[Hermes]

Shame on me. My first question was: Is he gay and has just a girlfriend because he really didn't want to be gay?

But then I thought: who cares?

Other people subsequently alluded to the same thing, i.e. is it a case of being disingenuous in the relationship with the girl. If that is the case then the answer to "Who cares?" will be "she does".

But, as I said in my first reply there is no dichotomy of gay/straight. The idea that it is more of a continuum, embedded in such as the Kinsey scale, is not new. To carry on a genuine and successful relationship with someone of a particular sex one does not have to be exclusively attracted to that sex but the attraction needs to be enough, obviously, that one isn't wishing he was instead with someone of the other sex.

I also wonder if we should see the various shades on the scale not necessarily in terms of numbers of people attracted to but in the scope of the attraction. For example for someone who scores a 1 on the Kinsey scale would we expect him to find one guy in ten attractive and nine out of ten women? Or could that be expressed as being prepared to wank with other guys while wanting the whole shooting match with girls (e.g. various kinds of sex and a relationship)?

It doesn't matter if we struggle to find a label for someone's sexuality - that doesn't change that it is their sexuality and there is no point in trying to bend it to fit.

eg: when I'm masturbating I usually neither think of girl, women ... whomever. I even don't watch porns or look at other pics. I'm just more concentrate on "the game".

So this is my second point. I think most people do use the brain in some way and not just take in the physical feelings, whether that means fantasising, looking at porn, reading stories etc. People do fantasise about things they would not actually want to do in the same way people sometimes have wet dreams about things they would not actually want to do. Bear in mind that in heterosexual porn there are two people involved and there is a clear expectation that the watcher will fancy the girl and identify with the guy, i.e. effectively pretend he is that guy, getting to do those things to that girl. So is the guys some weakling with a tiny cock? No, because the watcher would not want to identify with that.

So it would be possible for a guy to look at other guys who he believes have a good body (or a big cock) in which the fantasy is that he is that guy even if that guy is not at that moment having sex with a girl or even doing something sexual. When fantasies stray to being with the guy (rather than being him) and maybe doing things with him then this could be an indication of not being completely straight.

[ChaosEarthquake]

You can jerk off to whatever you feel like. :)

[lliam]

It doesn't matter if we struggle to find a label for someone's sexuality - that doesn't change that it is their sexuality and there is no point in trying to bend it to fit.


During our sex ed lessons our teacher told us, that people's sexuality can't be divided into clearly demarcated categories because not the labeled sexual orientation of someone determines his/hers sexuality, but the expression of his/hers sexual inclinations is determinative.

Sexuality is such unique, so varied and different that I think it would be a quantum leap of spiritual evolotion if we don't categorize the Indiividual sexuallity of other people anymore.

[KawaiiSamii]

Just do you I would recommend trying out something new and see if you like it.

[Laffytaffu321]

It is okay. Do not worry.

[awesomeness14]

You can masturbate how ever way you want.

[soccerismylife]

That's normal. Just jerk off don't matter what you watch or use

[RJH98]

What you watch does not define how you feel about your girlfriend. I am straight bet get off on gay porn aswell

[ashdyn]

Yolo just do what you need to do to get off lol I have a GF but I still jerk off to guys