Well sex is never going to happen for me

[dreamofdante]

Oh well. What's it like normal people?

[Elysium]

Teen Sexuality :arrow: Questions for Both

[sqishy]

'Normal' is a hard thing to define. Assuming I am a normal person by your standards, then, like a big fraction of 18-year-olds, sex is a thing yet to be experienced and in the future.
The future is open and anything can happen.
I can wait.

[dreamofdante]

'Normal' is a hard thing to define. Assuming I am a normal person by your standards, then, like a big fraction of 18-year-olds, sex is a thing yet to be experienced and in the future.
The future is open and anything can happen.
I can wait.

Well I see a ton of 13 year olds on here who get on.

[sqishy]

Well I see a ton of 13 year olds on here who get on.

That is their choice. I prefer to wait for someone who I love and want to have a relationship with, than not even be halfway through puberty and rush through everything quickly, not in as much control and in the know as I am now.

I don't regret now having sex at all, I know it will happen and I want it more than ever, but I am looking for love first. And that will come.

I don't want to be in a race where I see who I can have sex with first and how many people I beat to it.

[dreamofdante]

That is their choice. I prefer to wait for someone who I love and want to have a relationship with, than not even be halfway through puberty and rush through everything quickly, not in as much control and in the know as I am now.

I don't regret now having sex at all, I know it will happen and I want it more than ever, but I am looking for love first. And that will come.

I don't want to be in a race where I see who I can have sex with first and how many people I beat to it.

I want it whether that be from my issues or not. But I've wanted it since I was about that age. I'm 18 now. Good job, huh?

[sqishy]

I want it whether that be from my issues or not. But I've wanted it since I was about that age. I'm 18 now. Good job, huh?

Well I had my urges from 12, and almost all of us feel it from 12 or 13. The wait is long but the end of the wait is life-changing.

[dreamofdante]

Well I had my urges from 12, and almost all of us feel it from 12 or 13. The wait is long but the end of the wait is life-changing.

I almost had sex when I was 6. Pretty sad I had more chances of getting laid when I was 6 than 18...What an interesting life I've led.

[sqishy]

I almost had sex when I was 6. Pretty sad I had more chances of getting laid when I was 6 than 18...What an interesting life I've led.

If it's the energy that sex offers, masturbation can do well at that. I don't let the concept of having to find someone to be the recieving end of my urges and vice versa, get me down.

[dreamofdante]

If it's the energy that sex offers, masturbation can do well at that. I don't let the concept of having to find someone to be the recieving end of my urges and vice versa, get me down.

I masturbate frequently but I feel empty inside afterwards like "Congrats. This is the best you're gonna get." I'm so fucked up in the head that I don't even question my urges anymore.

[sqishy]

I masturbate frequently but I feel empty inside afterwards like "Congrats. This is the best you're gonna get." I'm so fucked up in the head that I don't even question my urges anymore.

Well if you don't question your urges anymore, then why do you question why there is nobody yet to release your urges with?

[dreamofdante]

Well if you don't question your urges anymore, then why do you question why there is nobody yet to release your urges with?

Good question.

[Tenoka]

#1 Rule. Don't base your life off sex.

Also there are plenty of 18 year olds who haven't had sex but will. ;p

[dreamofdante]

#1 Rule. Don't base your life off sex.

Also there are plenty of 18 year olds who haven't had sex but will. ;p

I won't. But yeah there are a few. Personally, I don't know any.

[StoppingTime]

Okay dude I'm not really entirely sure what you're trying to achieve with all these threads so I'll just give my two cents on what I think you're saying.

You've made multiple threads on here regarding how you plan on both committing suicide and the woes of your sexual/love life, and none of them seemed to be helping you. What I think you need to do is to, simply, calm down about all of this. Dude, you're literally only 18 and have a lifetime ahead of you to worry about a partner, sex, love, and all of that. If you haven't already noticed, a lot of teenagers who "love" each other end up breaking up within a year, or are only in relationships for sex. While I'm not going to say those relationships are wrong or immoral, they prove a point: You don't have to rush having relationships and sex because there's a good chance it won't end in anything, anyway. Just try and move on from all of this, and if you can, believe that it'll happen in the future, because it will.

[dreamofdante]

Okay dude I'm not really entirely sure what you're trying to achieve with all these threads so I'll just give my two cents on what I think you're saying.

You've made multiple threads on here regarding how you plan on both committing suicide and the woes of your sexual/love life, and none of them seemed to be helping you. What I think you need to do is to, simply, calm down about all of this. Dude, you're literally only 18 and have a lifetime ahead of you to worry about a partner, sex, love, and all of that. If you haven't already noticed, a lot of teenagers who "love" each other end up breaking up within a year, or are only in relationships for sex. While I'm not going to say those relationships are wrong or immoral, they probe a point: You don't have to rush having relationships and sex because there's a good chance it won't end in anything, anyway. Just try and move on from all of this, and if you can, believe that it'll happen in the future, because it will.

Well for one thing I'm not right in the head anymore. And yeah most people my age don't last long in relationships but I wanted to sleep around until my mid-twenties until I settle down and get married. Well neither will happen despite being so young and not knowing the future. It's basically a realistic guess that I've been correct about so far.

[StoppingTime]

Well for one thing I'm not right in the head anymore. And yeah most people my age don't last long in relationships but I wanted to sleep around until my mid-twenties until I settle down and get married. Well neither will happen despite being so young and not knowing the future. It's basically a realistic guess that I've been correct about so far.

So you didn't sleep around. So what. I don't think that really needs to be an ultimate goal of your teen life - sure if it happened I mean that wouldn't be bad (I guess?) but it didn't, so you may as well move on and replan things.

[dreamofdante]

So you didn't sleep around. So what. I don't think that really needs to be an ultimate goal of your teen life - sure if it happened I mean that wouldn't be bad (I guess?) but it didn't, so you may as well move on and replan things.

Yeah that's a problem. I don't know what to do.

[StoppingTime]

Yeah that's a problem. I don't know what to do.

Maybe you don't need to. I mean I certainly don't have a "plan" for the future yet; I'm just kind of going along with things until I find something that works. There's no reason to stress out about every year of your life and what you want to accomplish in it because honestly, those plans rarely work for people.

[dreamofdante]

Maybe you don't need to. I mean I certainly don't have a "plan" for the future yet; I'm just kind of going along with things until I find something that works. There's no reason to stress out about every year of your life and what you want to accomplish in it because honestly, those plans rarely work for people.

I'll be graduating in a few months and I have no idea what to do with my life. And I'm a mess. Things aren't looking very good for me...

[Romaana]

I just turned 17 today and dont plan on loosing my v card anytime soon. :) hope that makes u feel better xD

[dreamofdante]

I just turned 17 today and dont plan on loosing my v card anytime soon. :) hope that makes u feel better xD

Happy birthday. That's noble of you I suppose.

[Romaana]

Happy birthday. That's noble of you I suppose.

Thank u. :) its been a pretty shit day but we can all brighten our lifes with a little chronic :')

[dreamofdante]

Thank u. :) its been a pretty shit day but we can all brighten our lifes with a little chronic :')

You're welcome. It's definitely been that. But sorry to hear your birthday is shit.

[Romaana]

You're welcome. It's definitely been that. But sorry to hear your birthday is shit.

Meh. I didnt expect anything so its all good

[sqishy]

#1 Rule. Don't base your life off sex.

Also there are plenty of 18 year olds who haven't had sex but will. ;p

Yes, indeed ^ .

[dreamofdante]

Meh. I didnt expect anything so its all good

But come on it's your birthday. You deserve better. Then again, I spent my 16th birthday puking from alcohol consumption.

[MartyG]

Hi Jack...

Do you want to tell me what actually is going on? There's something that you're dying to tell somebody; something that is lurking behind all of what you are saying.
There is something that you are NOT saying,
What is it?
If you don't want to say it publicly here...feel free to PM me. I will honor your confidentiality (I Promise!) and I think I'm a very good listener.
I will not judge you; no matter what you tell me.
I probably won;t have any magical solutions...but sometimes just talking to another human who cares can make a difference?

Talk to us (or me) ....OK?

Marty

[dreamofdante]

Hi Jack...

Do you want to tell me what actually is going on? There's something that you're dying to tell somebody; something that is lurking behind all of what you are saying.
There is something that you are NOT saying,
What is it?
If you don't want to say it publicly here...feel free to PM me. I will honor your confidentiality (I Promise!) and I think I'm a very good listener.
I will not judge you; no matter what you tell me.
I probably won;t have any magical solutions...but sometimes just talking to another human who cares can make a difference?

Talk to us (or me) ....OK?

Marty

Thanks for PMing.

[Badger]

That is their choice. I prefer to wait for someone who I love and want to have a relationship with, than not even be halfway through puberty and rush through everything quickly, not in as much control and in the know as I am now.

I don't regret now having sex at all, I know it will happen and I want it more than ever, but I am looking for love first. And that will come.

I don't want to be in a race where I see who I can have sex with first and how many people I beat to it.

If it was possible to give you all the thumbs up, I'd do it. I'm right there with you man!

[dreamofdante]

If it was possible to give you all the thumbs up, I'd do it. I'm right there with you man!

I just...don't think it's that simple.

[dreamofdante]

Wow I can't believe that I posted two threads almost similar. I'm really messed up...

[DarkHorse4eva]

everybody is different, so there is no "normal"

[dreamofdante]

everybody is different, so there is no "normal"

Yeah I know but even still.

[DarkHorse4eva]

there might be some things about it, where a lot of boys feels the same, but its not so big a chance

[dreamofdante]

there might be some things about it, where a lot of boys feels the same, but its not so big a chance

What do you mean?