I feel like I'm caring more

[Melodic]

I've started to notice that most of my real life friendships have ended up to be bad. I don't know why, but I feel like all of my friends in real life don't usually put as much effort into our friendship like me. I rarely get invited to any of their parties, any events, any hang outs with the rest of my friends. The last text I got from any of my friends was over a month ago. I've been sitting by myself at rehearsals lately instead of talking to my friends or getting to know new people because I hate feeling like a total reject. It's just getting me really upset that I've been loyal to all these people and nobody ever does it to me in return.

I don't really want to confront the situation because I have either done it in the past or I currently work with these friends in theatre and I'd rather not create backstage tension and/or give myself a bad rep.

So my question is, how can I prevent having these kind of friendships in the future? What are some early signs of knowing you'll be in a bad friendship?

[Andyyy95]

I wish I could help you Melodic, I really do... But I'm having the exact same thing here...

[KidWithTheHeadband]

Not alone either. Most I've done about it lately is to be the instigator of events. Want to chill out with some friends? Try to get them to come over to your place or you to theirs. But you're not going to get involved in much if you don't really put yourself out there.

As for preventing these kind of relationships / noticing them. All I can really say is that it's really hard to notice anything at first. But once you get further aquainted with them, it becomes more obvious.

And preventing them is pretty much impossible (At least in my opinion.) unless you already know them.

I hope this doesn't sound really negative because that's not what i'm trying to go for at all.
But does this help at all? D:

[Just JT]

Melodic
One thing I would take a look at is how you and your friends came together and by what means do you consider them friends.

So you work in a theatre, and im pretty sure it's a pretty close tight nit group, right?

So are you maybe confusing that work relationship with a friendship?
Don't really know, but, if you've been trying, and they are not receptive to you, and don't even try to include you, then I don't think they deserve your friendship

Easier said than done, but I'd start looking around for some new friends to chil with

[Melodic]

Not alone either. Most I've done about it lately is to be the instigator of events. Want to chill out with some friends? Try to get them to come over to your place or you to theirs. But you're not going to get involved in much if you don't really put yourself out there.

As for preventing these kind of relationships / noticing them. All I can really say is that it's really hard to notice anything at first. But once you get further aquainted with them, it becomes more obvious.

And preventing them is pretty much impossible (At least in my opinion.) unless you already know them.

I hope this doesn't sound really negative because that's not what i'm trying to go for at all.
But does this help at all? D:

That's actually really helpful! Thank you!


Melodic
One thing I would take a look at is how you and your friends came together and by what means do you consider them friends.

So you work in a theatre, and im pretty sure it's a pretty close tight nit group, right?

So are you maybe confusing that work relationship with a friendship?
Don't really know, but, if you've been trying, and they are not receptive to you, and don't even try to include you, then I don't think they deserve your friendship

Easier said than done, but I'd start looking around for some new friends to chil with

I'm pretty well known on who I just have a work relationship with. When I say theatre friends, I mean the ones who actually say "You're one of my friends!"

You're probably right on making new friends. I wish it was as easy as it looked lol.

[Unstoppable]

I never get invited into parties lol, just do what you wanna do; there will always be friends that like you deep inside your soul.