Bisexual or curious or...?

[NordicGuy]

Having always assumed I was straight, I was surprised to find that I was into both sexes. But the thing is the attraction is very different with each sex. It's like I'm romantically attracted to girls but physically attracted to guys, and that's very confusing!

To elaborate, I could see myself in a permanent relationship with a girl but not with a guy, and my first and only crush was on a girl. But I'm neither into boobs nor like vaginas, whereas I'm drawn to the penis (though I'd like sex with both sexes). So it seems I'm homosexual but heteroamorous. What does that make me? Bi-something? Gay? Neither?

Could it be that I'm actually an asexual straight guy who just happens to like penises because I've got one myself? Is that it, or am I denying something? I'm very unsure here.

So if you've got any clues to what I might actually be, please let me know.

[Kirina]

I'm going to use this opportunity to share the truth. Read closely.

Everyone has the potential to be attracted to anyone/anything. TL;DR You like what you like.

Using music as an analogy. I really dislike the opera genre, but sometimes I hear a good song.
On the other hand, you can love a genre but that doesn't mean you like every song within it. This means that most people are not completely straight or completely gay.

If someone claims their 100% straight, that implies that they are attracted to all individuals of the opposite sex.

Sexuality can't be set in stone.

[Wilde]

Sexuality is a label, nothing more. You may read stuff about how homosexuality isn't natural. Well, guess what? We, humans, did it. We're natural thus it's natural.

I wouldn't place a label on it. The only reason labels exist is so that people like us can get hooked up (ever tried finding a bi/gay guy to do stuff with - in my experience, it's easier to get some if you're not really looking for it).

To answer your question, you're human. I know this may sound like inspirational bullshit but one day you'll realize none of this mattered. Easiest way to explain it: give a guy a mind and some testosterone and he can quite literally get off to anything (not a joke - I'm serious - behind all sex is work your brain is doing). Try get off to different types of porn and then do what I do, don't watch any porn when getting off. You'll see that your mind is the real thing getting you off, not the label you prematurely attached to yourself.

[NordicGuy]

Thanks for the replies.

I understand from your replies, Kirina and Wilde, that I don't have to label myself since sexuality is fluid. And you're right, but labels help you identify who you are more accurately, and I really want to know who I am. But I guess I'll just have to stick with bi-curious, as it's more or less impossible to narrow it down any further. And that's okay, I hear from you. Thanks for the insight.

And yes, Ninz, I am indeed going through what amounts to an identity crisis. And not just here, but also in my political and religious views (sort of). Adolescence sure is confusing.

[Miscreant]

Adolescence sure is confusing.

Keep reminding yourself of that.

[Legoboy]

Yeah I don't like how people keep making up labels for everything, just do you.

So you like guys bods more than girls and maybe you've not yet met a romantic guy?

IDK but it seems like you could have a LOT of fun finding out :)

[Just a Guy]

This kind of reminds me of how I feel, I think you're straight but just get aroused because you're in the middle of puberty and stuff

[DoodleSnap]

Yeah, being constantly changing isn't easy: that much is clear to me now. But after it all settles down in my brain, the thing I have to hold on to is that life is always transient, and that we are all changing. My sexual identity is wildly different from what it was a couple of years ago. My best advice to you is to just try and work on being comfortable in your changing self. Don't let labels define you, just be you. Your sexuality might change, it might not, but just be comfortable with whatever happens. Heck, if you're desperate for label, bi-curious, or simply queer would work fine.

[NotQuiteANerd97]

A lot of guys are attracted to other guys, but not much. I'm fully bisexual, and I used to be like you for awhile. For me, it was just a matter of time before I found out what I like. You could totally outgrow this and have no interest in guys at all after awhile, or you might find yourself being romantically attracted to them. Give yourself time and when you meet new people, that can often help you on that journey of finding out who you are.