Getting protection

[Human]

How do I convince my partner to get her own form of protection? i.e the pill or something else

It's just annoying that as the male I'm expected to get/buy the condoms and if I don't go and get them then well... no sex, not only that but it's safer using two methods as I'm worried about breakage or slipping, and it's definitely off putting thinking about that (as well as putting it on is pretty distracting).
I don't really know what problem she has with going and getting the pill (or any other method) as it's so simple, nearly 100% effective too and she won't have to tell anyone apart from a doctor.

[baseballjock]

she wont even have to tell the doctor go to the local drug store at least thats how it is where i live

[WeAreOneRepublic]

You think going to the doctor is that simple? Where I am you must have an adult with you if you are a minor to visit the doctor and also paying for it? Well it would be charged to the parents credit card or something and would display on record after she has gone. I understand that you want her to get it but it is not as easy as you think so you will have to openly talk to her about protection during sex and ask her how she feels about getting the pill.

[Human]

She's 16 and in the UK anyone can go to the doctors for contraception or emergency contraception for free as long as they can provide a reason, parents don't even have to be informed. I feel like we should be making sex as safe as possible and it's not really fair anyway to expect me to provide the protection when it's an act for both of us to enjoy.

[Melodic]

Just tell her you're scared and you don't wanna end up in a predicament you aren't ready for. I think you two should have talked about the safety and uses of protection before any sexual acts went on. I say talk to her about it calmly before something happens you two aren't ready for.

[Zachary G]

You think going to the doctor is that simple? Where I am you must have an adult with you if you are a minor to visit the doctor and also paying for it? Well it would be charged to the parents credit card or something and would display on record after she has gone. I understand that you want her to get it but it is not as easy as you think so you will have to openly talk to her about protection during sex and ask her how she feels about getting the pill.

makes a very valid point. I agree

[Human]

Just tell her you're scared and you don't wanna end up in a predicament you aren't ready for. I think you two should have talked about the safety and uses of protection before any sexual acts went on. I say talk to her about it calmly before something happens you two aren't ready for.
I want to tell her that but she might get annoyed at me and be like 'fine then looks like we're not having sex then'. We both know about contraception and when we have had sex we've used condoms. I think she might be worried herself or embarrassed about visiting the doctors.
makes a very valid point. I agree
I assume you're trying to boost your posts as I already explained this

[Harley Quinn]

Tell her to go to the doctors and ask for the combined pill for her periods, not for contraception as that may be less embarrassing. The pill is a duel thing and works for periods and contraception. But, when it comes to pills you do have to take them exactly when it says to otherwise you're fucked at it won't work as contraception.

[Human]

Tell her to go to the doctors and ask for the combined pill for her periods, not for contraception as that may be less embarrassing. The pill is a duel thing and works for periods and contraception. But, when it comes to pills you do have to take them exactly when it says to otherwise you're fucked at it won't work as contraception.


thank youu
i'll ask her next time i see her

[Meganium]

Perhaps she's concerned about the long-term side effects of the pill? It is known to cause fertility issues if taken regularly for a long time.

[Tarannosaurus]

How do I convince my partner to get her own form of protection? i.e the pill or something else

It's just annoying that as the male I'm expected to get/buy the condoms and if I don't go and get them then well... no sex, not only that but it's safer using two methods as I'm worried about breakage or slipping, and it's definitely off putting thinking about that (as well as putting it on is pretty distracting).
I don't really know what problem she has with going and getting the pill (or any other method) as it's so simple, nearly 100% effective too and she won't have to tell anyone apart from a doctor.

I'm currently on the pill and it has a lot of shitty side effects, and I'm trying to convince my mother to let me come off of it. I was dying sick for a few months while my body got used to it. It can also raise your risk of certain cancers and lower the risk of other cancers (if taken for 5+ years), and if taken long term it can cause liver damage. It's important that she understands all of this and weighs up the benefits and risks. SHe might have a valid reason for avoiding the pill.

[Paladino]

It says your from the UK so just go to the local health centre and there will probably be a sexual health clinic and she can speak to one of the woman doctors who can explain everything to her and the different methods of contraception apart from condoms.

[Human]

I'm currently on the pill and it has a lot of shitty side effects, and I'm trying to convince my mother to let me come off of it. I was dying sick for a few months while my body got used to it. It can also raise your risk of certain cancers and lower the risk of other cancers (if taken for 5+ years), and if taken long term it can cause liver damage. It's important that she understands all of this and weighs up the benefits and risks. SHe might have a valid reason for avoiding the pill.

I'm aware of the side effects of the pill, but she has never been on birth control before so she should at least try it. In my view, it isn't fair for me to be spending money on condoms when I don't even have a job, however, if she agreed to use the pill, I would buy condoms too just to show her that I appreciate it.


I asked her today and she got annoyed at me. She hasn't told me any specific reason why she wouldn't apart from that we haven't been sexually active for long... if we plan to be in a long term relationship then why not start now because she's going to be the one in trouble if she gets pregnant due to a condom break, slippage or just a failure.