Why is skinny-shaming okay?

[TrampCore]

Sooooo I am pretty sure that most of you are tired of the weight wars that go on the internet for some time now. But I'm asking this question out of sheer curiosity and bad experience; why is skinny shaming a person okay?

Many females fight for body acceptance, especially fat acceptance, who which I totally agree, people shouldn't be treated less just because their body type.
But many people, especially females, treat skinny people so badly. They are called fashion/society victims, bag of bones, anorexic, and say things such as "bones are for dogs" or "real men like curves".

It is perfectly understandable that a person can be overweight because of their genetics or mental health problems (traumas, depression, eating disorders, etc), but when a person is skinny because of these reasons, everyone loses their shit.

I find the whole ordeal very hypocritical, people saying that true beauty is on the inside, body image doesn't mater, we need to be comfortable in our own bodies....except if you're skinny. If you are skinny, regardless of reasons, you are considered a bad person :/

[StoppingTom]

You're right, it's extremely hypocritical, but the triggered Tumblr folks don't really care about *others*, they just believe they are right and the world is wrong for not being like them.

[tonymontana99]

Isn't there a scientifically-proven ratio of what is attractive/desirable in someone's body image? All that "beauty is on the inside," "muh comfort," and "muh body image doesn't matter" is just bullshit, let's be honest. Unless you have a condition, your exterior image reflects the way you live. At the end of the day, your life is much more influenced by the people above you than yourself (unless you're self-employed) -- I'd strive to achieve physical fitness and good eating habits, whether it's to appease me or the people I deal with on a daily basis. No one wants to look at an ugly body. Even if you dismiss my previous point you cannot disagree that being either fat or extremely skinny isn't healthy. Of course we shouldn't persuade people to change by constantly reminding them of how disgustingly fat/skinny they are (both you and the person know, to be honest) -- so you should just encourage them to follow a healthier life. You know, a bit motivational comment here and there... That doesn't hurt anybody.

[Karkat]

It's not ok. I've gotten slammed for being both fat and skinny my whole life. I was a size 0 until I was like 14, and then puberty took off and I started working full time shortly after and I was a size 12

And being 6'0, that's not particularly big. I'm just a "big" person- you wouldn't expect even a really skinny 6'5+ man to have a waist smaller than a supermodels- they're naturally bigger because they're taller. They just look super thin due to body fat ratio

My... Sort of boyfriend? He's 19 and 6'5, I tried on his pants and they actually sagged a little!

So it really upsets me to hear that I'm too big because I can wear plus sized clothing, or that I should lose some weight because I'm not a size 6.

But on the other hand, I had people constantly calling me anorexic as a kid (I later turned out to have EDNOS- but that wasn't why I was so skinny as a kid, I had a freakishly high metabolism and I was always growing.)

It's all rude and unnecessary. You never truly know what a person's health is unless you ask them, and even if they are "morbidly obese"- you don't know that they're doing nothing to fix their life, and "reminding" them can be hurtful- just as asking someone "if they've been eating lately" can be hurtful.

If you truly care, you can't just stop at snap judgements and assume you know the story.

So anyways, I completely agree with you, OP.

[Babs]

Even though a few people have given me shit for being tiny, I honestly don't really care about the whole skinny-shaming thing. I just have a "whatever" attitude about it. I mean, it's not nice and all but I more important things to worry about. The subject doesn't interest me much, and I don't feel terribly affected by it.

That said, I do understand why some people would be upset about it.

[SethfromMI]

lol I have never ever been made of for being skinny

[Professional Russian]

I didn't even read the post, just the title. Skinny shaming is not OK and pisses me off just as much as fat shaming. And it's not because I'm skinny. I'm a big person but one of my very close friends gets alot of shit for being skinny and I've seen what it did to her and it pisses me off alot. It's not ok and shouldn't be seen as OK.

[Deactivated]

I believe that skinny-shaming is deemed acceptable due to how some have taken body-positivity movement too far. Being happy for your body, large or small, is good, and I'm glad to see people being happy with themselves. However, like every other movement, there's a small group who takes it to the extreme. They bash people who are thin, especially when they're proud.

I have a very high metabolism, and as a result I have never been able to gain weight. I'm 18 and shirts that I wore when I was 13 still fit me perfectly. Throughout my whole life, I've had people comment on my weight; some good, some bad. I actually used to dislike how thin I am, but now I've come to terms with it and I'm happy for my body. If some people don't like that, then that's their problem and not mine.

[SethfromMI]

I believe that skinny-shaming is deemed acceptable due to how some have taken body-positivity movement too far. Being happy for your body, large or small, is good, and I'm glad to see people being happy with themselves. However, like every other movement, there's a small group who takes it to the extreme. They bash people who are thin, especially when they're proud.

I have a very high metabolism, and as a result I have never been able to gain weight. I'm 18 and shirts that I wore when I was 13 still fit me perfectly. Throughout my whole life, I've had people comment on my weight; some good, some bad. I actually used to dislike how thin I am, but now I've come to terms with it and I'm happy for my body. If some people don't like that, then that's their problem and not mine.

who couldn't like the way you look ;)
I mean besides guys who are straight, but still haha

[Deactivated]

who couldn't like the way you look ;)
I mean besides guys who are straight, but still haha

Haha, why thank you!

[SethfromMI]

Haha, why thank you!

anytime Josh :)

but obviously it is wrong. I never had that problem, but it would be like making of people cause their fat. even if it is not your type, it does not give you the right to make fun of someone

[Jean Poutine]

It depends; how skinny? If I see your ribs poke out or if you have right angles instead of hips or that famous "gap" between your thighs then I'm gonna ask you to eat a few steaks. That's just an unhealthy as being fat. Of course, skinny as in healthy body weight is totally fine by me.

You know what though? Men do like curves. The stupidity in that statement is that beach balls think they merely have curves. Myself, I like my women a bit chubby. Trust me, trying to find porn is Hell because vids of "chubby" girls invariably feature women that could easily roll around instead of walking. Chubby is baby fat and cute, not fucking morbidly obese and thoroughly disgusting.

I don't care for the whole body acceptance thing. I used to be somewhat fat and getting shit over it was a big motivation to start getting in shape. I'm one of those guys who take on 20 pounds just looking at a bag of chips so it wasn't easy. Once I started, lost a few pounds and the shit stopped raining then I went on doing it for myself, lost 60 pounds and maintained a healthy body weight ever since.

If you weigh 300 pounds, instead of "accepting" it bar a valid medical condition, then you'd be better served getting off your ass and cutting down on the doughnuts so I and the rest of the population don't have to pay for your quadruple heart bypass. Same if you weigh 80 pounds, so I and everyone else don't have to pay for your stay in hospital due to exhaustion or brittle bones.

I don't see what's wrong with shaming fatsos (by that I mean obese, not merely curvy) or skeletons. Yes, I openly shame hamplanets and bags of bones, I don't make a big secret out of it, but I have to admit fats are my favourite target because it's harder to miss them in public. Both are unhealthy, aesthetically unappealing and liable to put an additional drain on an already burdened health care system. I'm paying for people's terrible lifestyle choices and while I have to do so, I don't have to like it.

I dislike these fringe movements that put the onus on all of us to change. It's fundamentally egocentric. We do not have to accept squat. If you're obese, get running. If you're Kate Moss thin, eat and bulk up at the gym. Fuck, it isn't rocket science. Anything outside of an healthy weight is unhealthy by definition and it's in your interest to lose or gain weight. If you won't do it for yourself, then do it for us and the people you're going to push down in hospital waiting lists who suffer from conditions that couldn't have been avoided. Hence the shaming. Calling it "oppression" is ridiculous. I read a tumblr quote once about how every man going out with a slim girl is oppressing landwhales. Scores of fats have dating profiles asking for muscular men above 6'. How entitled can you get?

[sqishy]

It depends; how skinny? If I see your ribs poke out or if you have right angles instead of hips or that famous "gap" between your thighs then I'm gonna ask you to eat a few steaks. That's just an unhealthy as being fat. Of course, skinny as in healthy body weight is totally fine by me.

You know what though? Men do like curves. The stupidity in that statement is that beach balls think they merely have curves. Myself, I like my women a bit chubby. Trust me, trying to find porn is Hell because vids of "chubby" girls invariably feature women that could easily roll around instead of walking. Chubby is baby fat and cute, not fucking obese and thoroughly disgusting.

I don't care for the whole body acceptance thing. I used to be somewhat fat and getting shit over it was a big motivation to start getting in shape. I'm one of those guys who take on 20 pounds just looking at a bag of chips so it wasn't easy. Once I started, lost a few pounds and the shit stopped raining then I went on doing it for myself, lost 60 pounds and maintained a healthy body weight ever since.

If you weigh 300 pounds, instead of "accepting" it bar a valid medical condition, then you'd be better served getting off your ass and cutting down on the doughnuts so I and the rest of the population don't have to pay for your quadruple heart bypass. Same if you weigh 80 pounds, so I and everyone else don't have to pay for your stay in hospital due to exhaustion or brittle bones.

I don't see what's wrong with shaming fatsos (by that I mean obese, not merely curvy) or skeletons. Yes, I openly shame hamplanets and bags of bones, I don't make a big secret out of it. Both are unhealthy, aesthetically unappealing and liable to put an additional drain on an already burdened health care system. I'm paying for people's terrible lifestyle choices and while I have to do so, I don't have to like it.

I dislike these fringe movements that put the onus on all of us to change. It's fundamentally egocentric. We do not have to accept squat. If you're fat, get running. If you're Kate Moss thin, eat and bulk up at the gym. Fuck, it isn't rocket science. Anything outside of an healthy weight is unhealthy by definition and it's in your interest to lose or gain weight. If you won't do it for yourself, then do it for us. Hence the shaming. Calling it "oppression" is ridiculous. I read a tumblr quote once about how every man going out with a slim girl is oppressing landwhales. Scores of fatsos have dating profiles asking for muscular men above 6'. How entitled can you get?

In my humble opinion, 90% of that was not as such relevant to 'why is skinny-shaming okay?'. Nothing was mentioned about being fat, etc.