HELP! My best friend is cutting and is thinking of killing herself, idk what to do

[Ibanez Girl]

She has been my best friend since the 3rd grade, and she is the closest person I have. The only true friend I have.

But about two years ago she had started scratching herself, now she it cutting and her arms are f'ed up. So are the insides of her legs.

I think it started with her being just rebellious, because she's adopted and her parents are very strict.

But now she sees 5 therapists and is on an anti-depressant and about 3 minutes ago she had just got done explaining that she's failing her classes and is thinking if she should kill herself...she said this after her mom called her a bitch.

I don't know what I would do if I lost her I'd feel empty I guess...she was there for me so now I am here for her but I don't know what to do in this situation.

If anyone has ever been through this or has any advice would you mind sharing? I don't know what I can do other than tell her she call me anything and to join boxing or something.

Also, I think my friend Eric (who is her boyfriend) is influencing her, and she's contemplating taking drugs. I told her if I ever found out she was taking a hard drug I'd never forgive her.

But right now she needs me and I don't really know what to tell her

[Seemyheart]

She has been my best friend since the 3rd grade, and she is the closest person I have. The only true friend I have.

But about two years ago she had started scratching herself, now she it cutting and her arms are f'ed up. So are the insides of her legs.

I think it started with her being just rebellious, because she's adopted and her parents are very strict.

But now she sees 5 therapists and is on an anti-depressant and about 3 minutes ago she had just got done explaining that she's failing her classes and is thinking if she should kill herself...she said this after her mom called her a bitch.

I don't know what I would do if I lost her I'd feel empty I guess...she was there for me so now I am here for her but I don't know what to do in this situation.

If anyone has ever been through this or has any advice would you mind sharing? I don't know what I can do other than tell her she call me anything and to join boxing or something.

Also, I think my friend Eric (who is her boyfriend) is influencing her, and she's contemplating taking drugs. I told her if I ever found out she was taking a hard drug I'd never forgive her.

But right now she needs me and I don't really know what to tell her

Assure her that you're here for her, that you'll do everything you can to help her and be here for her. she's going through a rough time now, but that doesn't mean it won't get better. it will.
Tell her this is just a small portion of her life, and she CAN get through it. life gets better, it always does.
Getting her into a hobby might help. running, drawing, writing, etc. anything to help her get her mind off what's wrong.
If you think your friend/her bf is influencing her...she needs to get out of that relationship
Wish you and your friend the best

[King_of_Hearts]

Hmm... well, start by talking to her... try calming her down and showing her what she means to you. Tell her you are here for her... I am suicidal and used to cut... the reason I am here is because people showed me they cared and were there to help me... it helps knowing you arent the only one and that people here for you...I am speaking for personal experiance, I dont know what she is like though...

[ImagineRepublicCity]

First of all, I just have to remind you that if things really do cross the line, there is not much you can do and you'll just have to accept it. (It hard, I know, but sometimes you have to be a bit selfish.) Now, if her boyfriend is telling her to do things like that, they should probably not be together. The drugs aren't going to help. Let her know that because it'll make things worse in the end. Let her know that you'll be there for her and that if you think it, things will get better I mean, she has you and you've stuck around for ages, so why should she leave you? Also, you should tell someone that she is considering to commit suicide because the worst thing to happen is that she does and that you feel like crap about it. All the best. c:

[myfoodisnotshared]

Firstly - it's not your fault and it never will be. No matter what happens, no matter what you do or what she does, she's makes her own choices. You can't stop her, all you can do is try to help.

Be there for her. You don't have to offer advise, just be there when she needs it - let her know she can always call, that you will always care about her. Do stuff with her, get her a hobby, distract her if you can. Give her something to live for, if you can.

Drugs... obviously, that would be the absolute worst thing for her. But you can't force her into anything, so even though she should dump the boyfriend and never think about drugs again, only she can make that choice. You are not responsible.

You are incredibly brave for trying to help her. Not everyone would be strong, not everyone would stick around. Have you talked to your own family, or any other friends? I know it's hard to 'gossip', but you need to deal with this yourself as well. Therapy, perhaps, could help?

Take care of yourself:-)

[mickeyhang10]

Well I'm a former self harmed and I found out that my bff is cutting to and it makes me want to start again because it depresses me to know that this beautiful girl is hurting her self and seeing her arms reamid me of my horrable past I made this book mark for her today and I thought it might help add a star sticker ( I gave star stickers with it ) for every day she don't hurt her self I did some thing like this it was like a paper chain u add a green peice every day u go with out hurting ur self and u add a red one if u hurt ur self that day it actually helped for me cuz I could look at it and see my progress maybe ur friend should do some thing like this also I draw on my self with a red pen, I chew on leather, and I write poems storys and music to replace the blade. There r many self harm chat rooms to maybe u could make her a account for one I use lifesafe.gov and vt there's a couple of places to talk about it on here tell ur friend that she can make it threw this (but it sounds like to me she want attion) most ppl self harm to cope but a few life less morons do it for attention and that's what this sounds like because ppl don't tell there friends that they r gonna comment suiside I felt like it some times but I never told any one that I self harmed actually my parents don't even no that I ever cutted but the only person that know is my girlfriend (yes I'm lesbian) but idk she might not be wanting attention but that's what it sounds like to me its just my opinion