Stuff, Judgement, Labels, Conclusion Jumps, Double Standards? Yuck.

[Lovelife090994]

Stuff, Judgement, Labels, Conclusion Jumps, Double Standards? Yuck.

Hi. This may belong in another section, not sure.
I have noticed a trend in Western society and it has alays left me baffled. Why is it that when someone is not so much into a thing or person or something else where people assume that person is now something negative? Example, a boy in school is more so the type to involve himself in studies and art versus girls and may not be popular and people assume he is gay? If that were the case then only people who like penises or vaginas have sexualities which isn't true. Not all straight guys like vaginas, not every straight girl likes penises but does this mean they are ot straight?
Not all who are gay are purely into the same-sex. A gay male could very well fall in love with a woman, does this mean to say he was never gay? Are we inclined to judge or label based on another's experience? What is that about? Really labels? We are all human. A girl may like to be very girly but get this deep down she may be more masculine but is too afraid to show it. And why are kindness and sensitivity only seen as "feminine" and "weak"? When we all want it? I have no clue here.

How come we jump to conclusions so with sexuality and personality? Bullying aside here for the most part. Like if a guy doesn't have the deepest voice or is manly automatically he is gay or just plain a weirdo? Or if a chubbier guy falls in love with a small girl people and both are over 18 people call him a pervert?

Another thing I noticed is mean girls. Yes, the infamous group and stereotypical all blonde group in heavy high-dollar makeup to look 10 years older with fake breasts, high heels, and high-in-the-air noses with eyes fixed down. But let's be honest, how many girls are actually like that? Point is some girls are very girly and give grief to those who are not or even the other way around! Yes, I've seen it. Girls called too girly or feminine and labeled "tool to man". A bit ridiculous if not ludicrous in my opinion.

And what of guys vs. girls in relationships. A guy can have had only five girlfriends in week and gets praise, but if a girl does that she is labeled a slut? Really judgemental few? And lastly, the case no one ever mentions, religion. Yes it is very sensitive, if you wish to leave then please be civil and do not read ahead. Okay, has anyone ever noticed how some judge people purely based on the religion that he or she may follow? I've seen it where Muslim women are called, "clueless", "slime", and "terrorist." Really people? The girl is Muslim, not a radical. The acts of few do not define her. And with Christians in general. Big, big, stereotype. "All Christians are judemental anti-scientific homophobic bigots who never looked at a calender." I am pretty sure at least one person on this site has noticed a few people who have been treated as less for beliefs and has seen Christians judged before they open their mouth or just because they wear a cross. No one is perfect, some things are crazy, religion is often a scapegoat. Heck, mostly anything can be a scapegoat.

I never got these jumping to conclusion scenarios, or judgemental scenarios either. I mean don't we all have enough hell to endure without things. Maybe some don't think. Maybe if we ignored our differences we'd get somewhere right?

What do you think?

[Hypers]

People like to categorize other people so that they feel comfortable. And so those categories often are broad. Eventually people assume that everyone in that category have the same traits, aka stereotypes. Then people start stereotyping other people that they might not completely know based on first impression, thus there is 'judging.' People like to conform, people feel uncomfortable around those who are different.

[Synyster Shadows]

People like to categorize other people so that they feel comfortable. And so those categories often are broad. Eventually people assume that everyone in that category have the same traits, aka stereotypes. Then people start stereotyping other people that they might not completely know based on first impression, thus there is 'judging.' People like to conform, people feel uncomfortable around those who are different.

I couldn't have said it better myself. I'd rep you if that were still around. People are uneasy around what they don't understand or what is different from things to which they're accustomed. It'd be great if everyone could learn to stop, labeling, stereotyping, and all that bad stuff, but we're humans, which are not perfect. We can do our best to control it and that's it. No one's perfect and no one ever will be perfect. We just have to deal with it and control it as best we can.

[Lovelife090994]

People like to categorize other people so that they feel comfortable. And so those categories often are broad. Eventually people assume that everyone in that category have the same traits, aka stereotypes. Then people start stereotyping other people that they might not completely know based on first impression, thus there is 'judging.' People like to conform, people feel uncomfortable around those who are different.

I couldn't have said it better myself. I'd rep you if that were still around. People are uneasy around what they don't understand or what is different from things to which they're accustomed. It'd be great if everyone could learn to stop, labeling, stereotyping, and all that bad stuff, but we're humans, which are not perfect. We can do our best to control it and that's it. No one's perfect and no one ever will be perfect. We just have to deal with it and control it as best we can.

Thanks for the replies. I know this topic may not be seen as important to some.

[JamesSuperBoy]

For one as far as a younger age group are concerned many just adopt the stereotypes and discriminations of thier parents or peer group - they may well develop or have other ideas but it is hard to express them -

Yes it is wrong when taken to extremes but mostly we are only able to give a chance to those that conform to our own ideals or identity.

[britishboy]

It's just mild stereotyping.