is he using me?

[surf dude666]

first off 14 years old,

im going out with this guy and hes always trying to grope me in public, of coarse i dont mind the occasional grope but in public is getting a bit wrong plz help

my brother made me this thats why my name is surf "dude"666





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[Aηdy]

It does sound like he wants you for the sexual side of the relationship than the loving side. But if you don't like it just tell him, and if he doesn't like what you say to him then he is most probally using you just for that.

[Sugaree]

It sounds like all he wants to do is have the sexual side of a relationship. Have you told him that you don't feel comfortable with him doing it in public?

[Maverick]

Girls Puberty -> Relationships and Dating

[Zephyr]

Hun, if he tries pressuing you and you're not comfortable, then end it.
I've been used before, and it's not a good feeling.

[byee]

I'm not sure what 'groping' means here.

When people 'go out' with eachother, there's sexual tension. Different people deal with that tension in different ways. Maybe your guy isn;t too experienced with this, the tension.

So, let's assume that his 'groping' is more his inability to control all that tension, because he's young and inexperienced, rather than him just being a jerk. If that's so, then maybe talking with him about how his groping makes you feel might work just fine.

If he's a jerk, if he's pressuring you, then you need to set a limit with him and clearly tell him that's not OK.

[NextToNormal]

like others have said, if you are not comfortable with your boyfriend groping you in public, you need to make it known to him that you dont appreciate it.
i wouldnt exactly say that he is using you unless all he ever does when he is with you is grope you. maybe he does have a lot of sexual tension built up and is touching you in public because it seems more appropriate than touching himself.
just talk to him about whats going on and try to find out exactly why he does it so often in public.

[surf dude666]

the tool ended it this morning... chocolate please:P

[ScotsGirl]

Sounds like that was one tool your shed is going to be better without! :P

xxx

[Mad Mads]

^ lol nice, all my bf and i were touchy in public but we never bit each other except on the ear lobe
good lucks
-moody mads