No sex after the first?!boys?!

[zizu]

Hey! I hope this kind of question is allowed to ask. So I have a bf,and we had sex 1,5months ago.This was the first for both of us,we used condom,but after it he didn't show interest in it,neither me,but I wanted to have sex i just was too shy to say it.Since then we talked about it 1x,then everything was okay,we had sex almost every weekend(we can only meet at weekends).But then his mom talked to me and said that in her opinion I should take birthcontrol pills.Since then we didn't have sex,a blowjob is enough for him.His mother stuffes his head with stupid things,like condoms are not safe and things like that...He doesn't want me to get pregnant,which is great but I think it's too much worry.I'll talk to him about it when we meet,I'm just curious,boys,this really could be a reason for not having sex?He said that he don't wanna use me,but I want to have sex with him.Any useful advices?Sorry,my english isn't the best:S
(I'm 16,my bf is 18)

[Zachary G]

idk, but if his mom is filling his head with stuff like condoms are bad and he hasnt shown an interest in having sex with you since then, i would take it as a sign that he may be conflicted about what and what not to do. if there is anything you can do, i would say try to reassure him that you are okay with condoms, that you feel safer using them and would continue to see him sexually. thats about the best i can say. good luck

[tvsigeys]

It seems like he (and his mom) are very risk averse while still wanting a physical relationship to exist between you two. You seem more comfortable with the (perhaps low) risk of getting pregnant, and without a compromise, at least one of you will be uncomfortable with your arrangement.

[chiisaiaoiryu]

He's most likely jsut conflicted about what he should do. He has his mom telling him stuff about condoms not being as effective or whatever. Understandable since they can rip sometimes when you least expect it. At the same time, I think he wants to keep you without hurting your feelings. Him saying that he doesn't want to use you is in itself a good sign that he's a rather standup guy! Wish I could say that about my past two boyfriends.

But yeah, the best thing I could suggest is that you try working with his mom. It's clear that she knows you two are having sex, so it wouldn't hurt to have a little talk about her worries. Worst case scenario, try to find some common ground between her concerns and yours. Just make sure its a calm conversation and that you're open with what she has to say even if you don't agree with it. It's clear that she's worried about you both; make sure to be receptive of what she has to say and see if there's a way for you to alleviate concerns of you and her son. That's the only advice I can give you on this.

[ninja789]

things can go wrong with condoms and he may have changed his views on certain aspects of life and want to wait until later in life when he feels he can look after you better emotionally

[Swagging god]

Talk with him about your feelings towards your relationship and sex. Honesty and communication may help you understand how the other feels. Maybe after getting everything out in the open you can work something out and reconnect on a more stronger sexual foundation.