publicly coming out

[billybigfish]

so im pubicly coming out in about, im so nervous, what happenes if my family disown me? any advice at all will be welcome

[Thomas01]

Maybe before you publicly come out, you can tell a most trusted friend and if they are fine with it, you can always ask your friend and your friend's parents if they are fine with you moving in for some time if necessary

I tend to be paranoid at some things so when I was going to come out to my parents, I asked a friend that if things went wrong, if I could hae a safe place to be for awhile

Good luck! :) if you want more advice just ask

[Luminous]

Before you do, think about the opinions of the people around you. Have your parents threatened to disown you if you're gay, or do they seem supportive of it? You should probably start with just telling a few people that you trust very much so you have support.

[Abyssal Echo]

I doubt your family will disown you. I agree with Hannah come out to a friend or two to see how that goes. I wish you the best. I hope everything goes well for you.

[Tenoka]

The one thing I advise the most. Do not come out until you are comfortable coming out. Pushing it and public announcing it isn't always the best. If you do so, I wish you the best.

[sieg]

if you think you're ready, I'm glad for you. it's an important step in lgbtq life.
as for if you should tell your parents? Honestly I'd say no, its not a good idea.
likes posts before have mentioned, you probably wont get disowned. but that's only probably.
if you feel like you can't wait any longer, then tell them but make sure you've got a really good plan b in case the crap hits the fan.
It may be just me who preferes this, but i'd rather keep a roof over my head than risk getting disowned.
tl;dr dont do it until your 18 and/or have a very good backup plan incase shtf

[billybigfish]

Maybe before you publicly come out, you can tell a most trusted friend and if they are fine with it, you can always ask your friend and your friend's parents if they are fine with you moving in for some time if necessary

I tend to be paranoid at some things so when I was going to come out to my parents, I asked a friend that if things went wrong, if I could hae a safe place to be for awhile

Good luck! :) if you want more advice just ask

well, my year at school all already know, and they're all fine, its more my family and friends outside of school that im telling

[Zachary G]

have you ever talked to your parents about their views on gay issues? you might want to try to work that into a conversation just to see where they stand, that way you will know if you want come out to them right now or wait. you already have the support of friends at school, thats great, start with your friends at home, then your family.

[AlexOnToast]

All I can say is that "announcing" that you are gay is never a good idea. What I do is, if people ask, I tell them the truth and that's it. In regards to your family, if you tell them, and they disown or in any other was scrutinize you, then at least know that you are in the right and they are in the wrong. I will also say that, given your situation, only come out if you are 100% comfortable doing so. Good luck bro :)

[GreyGoldfish]

have you ever talked to your parents about their views on gay issues? you might want to try to work that into a conversation just to see where they stand, that way you will know if you want come out to them right now or wait. you already have the support of friends at school, thats great, start with your friends at home, then your family.

^^^Yes yes yes. Also, the person who said finding a close friend's family who might be able to take you in is an excellent piece of advice. I have not come out to my own family, but I came out to my best friend and her family, and her parents told me that if I ever need a safe house if my parents kick me out, I am always welcome.

But basically, find out where your parents stand on the issue and use your best judgment. Waiting is sometimes the best option, but that is ultimately up to you. Feel free to let us know of any progress or misgivings you have. :)

[geetry]

I usually tell people I befriend early so they're not uncomfortable. 95% of my friends know that i'm gay.

As others have said, I doubt your parents would disown you, but don't just come home from school and go 'Oh yeah, I'm gay.' Wait until time allows or a spot in a conversation pops up where you could just say it. Also try to find out where your parents stand on the issue. If your parents don't really like gays, I would wait.

I still haven't come out to my mom, but I think she suspects. She hasn't been pressing me about it either, which is a good sign.

Just remember not to rush it.

[MartyG]

I just don't get it with some parents. I happen to have a friend who essentially got dis-owned by his dad. Fortunately for him...his parents were divorced and his mom was fine with him being gay...so he just went to live with her 100% of the time; no more visitation with dad. Not gonna visit a dad that dis-owns ya; are we now....????

But the other thing that always irks me.....is why do parents have to make it so fucking hard on their kids. How hard can it be for parents; while their kid is growing up.....to say to themselves: "Let's see....Jimmy **could** grow up gay. We're not gonna encourage that or anything....but shouldn't we at least drop a few hints over his life that we will always love him no matter what....and....sure...if he starts feeling that he's gay or bi....SURE....he can come talk to us about it and HE CAN BE SURE 100% that we will support him and love him NO MATTER WHAT...."
How can parents do that? Well....openly support LGBT activities in their town.....speak positively in front of their kids about gay people they know....just ANYTHING that leaves little hints for their kids that IT WILL BE OK.

I mean....Parents! You say you love us yet you make this stuff sooooo hard.

[DeadEyes]

Think about it twice because you're heading toward a lot of trouble.