Is this logical?

[variantwarrior]

Ok, so I really like anime. That seems pretty normal to me, as anime is enjoyed by many teenagers across America. However, my mom, who is terribly narrow-minded when it comes to entertainment (video games rot brain, no play more than three hours!) . seems to believe that she must research every anime I watch before I watch it. While that may not seem so bad, she often takes weeks, sometimes months, to analyze the anime. That is, if she looks at them at all. My mother often uses the common parent code "maybe, let me look at it," to mean "never in a million years." She shot down me watching Fairy Tail with my little sister because, and I quote: "The female characters are too developed for a cartoon!" My favorite anime of all time, Fullmetal Alchemist: Brotherhood, even falls under her scrutiny. I have watched the anime twice through, but still she must check it out before I can watch it. Give me an opinion on this, please!

[Croconaw]

That doesn't make any sense. That's dumb that she would do this. :(

[Typhlosion]

I guess she's aware of hentai anime and doesn't want you to watch that kind of stuff. Or, as you suggested with "However, my mom, who is terribly narrow-minded when it comes to entertainment (video games rot brain, no play more than three hours!) " makes me believe that she might fear that anime's have some sort of negative propaganda.

Either way, explain to her than animes =/= cartoons. Try to talk to her about trusting you with your choices, and find a way to start watching an anime while she's reviewing, and work upon that. Animes are not necessarily kids shows, so it might be helpful talking about the various tones and character development, as well as art styles and japanese culture behind it. If she trusts the internet, show the synopsis of the anime at 'myanimelist' or related sites and point out the rating and absence of 'ecchi' and 'hentai' tags, if necessary show the philosophical undertones as well.

[refrigeratorx]

I think when parents do this, they lead their kids to become rebellious. when normal privileges are stolen, kids are more likely to resent the parents and then go out and do it anyway. its pretty unreasonable for you not to be allowed...what u watch is personal and i think rather than any show being a bad influence on you, she is hurting you more. GOOD LUCK with this!

[ksdnfkfr]

Sounds way over protective and paranoid.

[variantwarrior]

Tried watching a few episodes of FMA with my mom to show her it wasn't bad, but she exploded. She said she was disgusted that I watched the anime in the first place, pointing out that there was too much "real world violence." As if I would never be exposed to blood and gore in the modern world anyway. Now, she gets angry when I mention her reviewing another anime. All attempts to explain that FMA was violent because of context and that it wouldn't make sense without seeing the entire show failed. Thanks for replying, but I don't think I'll be able to watch anime (with her around) until I move away.

[Karkat]

I think when parents do this, they lead their kids to become rebellious. when normal privileges are stolen, kids are more likely to resent the parents and then go out and do it anyway. its pretty unreasonable for you not to be allowed...what u watch is personal and i think rather than any show being a bad influence on you, she is hurting you more. GOOD LUCK with this!

Ah, see, this. My parents are way overbearing- what's worse is that there are four of them. I'm literally the black sheep of the family because I can't live the way they want me to live.

They aren't NEARLY as strict about my entertainment (I get frowned on if I watch anything too language-filled, sexual, or violent, but if it's something they already know that I watch they usually just heckle me about it then shrug it off.)

Thing is, my parents are abusive as well, and that makes me want to fight them even more.

I don't think your mom is abusive, I just think that she's very strict, but kids rebel against strict parents even more than they rebel against abusive ones- kids are afraid of abusive parents.

I'd tell her how you feel about it, and explain how anime is different from cartoons as others have mentioned. Good luck. :)

[backjruton]

Haha. That is pathetic, my parents have never restricted the games I play and the things I watch because they know I get angry alot and need the stuff there to help calm myself down. I've been playing 18+ games since I was around 7 or 8 and they've never really cared. I would say you shouldn't let your parents control your life but that's harder than it might sound. I've managed it in most cases but that can be quite hard as there are some areas I still need help taking care of myself but I've managed in the more recent months to start getting some independence.

I know this is slightly off-topic but 5 months ago they were having to call me taxis to get back home from college when I finish early because back then I literally couldn't walk home on my own. I think I might have agoraphobia which would explain (as well as an addiction to RuneScape) why I don't leave the house ever unless I actually have to for things like college. I hate being outside on my own, but because they put a bit of faith in Me I can now walk home by myself and buy my own food on the way so I don't have to cook anything myself as all I really know how to make is soup, beans and sausages and pot noodles. I only know to re heat things and that is boring, I get more exercise the other way anyway XD

You should just watch these shows, don't let her stop you. Keep fighting back when she causes you problems, as we're all teens on this site, all growing up and you can't grow up properly if you're not allowed to do what you want st home every once in a while. I haven't lived a model life and that's perfectly clear but I've lived the way I want to so I've done great in my opinion, especially because my parents keep telling me when I was born the doctors said I wouldn't ever be able to walk or talk and I've clearly defied them ass holes. I never began to do more rebellious things, I just rebel against my parents and do things they don't want me to without letting them stop me :D but obviously some parents are nicer than others which sucks because they should all be the same :(

[frisbee25]

Ok, so I really like anime. That seems pretty normal to me, as anime is enjoyed by many teenagers across America. However, my mom, who is terribly narrow-minded when it comes to entertainment (video games rot brain, no play more than three hours!) . seems to believe that she must research every anime I watch before I watch it. While that may not seem so bad, she often takes weeks, sometimes months, to analyze the anime. That is, if she looks at them at all. My mother often uses the common parent code "maybe, let me look at it," to mean "never in a million years." She shot down me watching Fairy Tail with my little sister because, and I quote: "The female characters are too developed for a cartoon!" My favorite anime of all time, Fullmetal Alchemist: Brotherhood, even falls under her scrutiny. I have watched the anime twice through, but still she must check it out before I can watch it. Give me an opinion on this, please!


How much anime do you watch first off next what kinds then your mom want your little sister to enjoy animated fairy tales what you said kind of made her feel sad that your ganging knowable beyond her thought of tv. (Not being mean)

[HUSTLEMAN]

I feel you man. What you should is watch the anime in secret. Get up super early in the morning, watch your anime then stop before she wakes up. Or you can continue to defend your stance LIKE A BOSS and then she'll give up and you can watch your anime.