Believe
February 2nd, 2014, 01:59 AM
Need some input.
Im in college, im 18 and have only had 1 previous relationship (~1 year) 3 years ago. I havent found interest or liked anyone enough since then and therefore havent dated anyone since. Long story short, first semester i met this girl (A) and became close friends with her best friend (B) who already has a boyfriend, and really began to like A. We would hang out every weekend, go to movies and get drunk together etc, and i grew to like her more and more. Around 3-4 weeks of knowing her I asked her out, to which she said no. B talked to me about it since she knew A for 7 years before college, where A never had a boyfriend or anything of the sort, and which she only liked guys after knowing them for a while, and she already liked someone else that she just met (which was very unlike her). After this, we still hung out as friends, i stopped trying and "wasting" my time and waiting for something that could never come. (Been there before never doing that again). At several points in the weeks after being shutdown, she took more initiative, tried to hookup whilst we were drunk, person B telling me to kiss her, and even slept over my room once. Although i never accepted or went along with any of it, simply because I knew that wasn't what she felt, and she wasnt thinking straight. I slowly got over her but did successfully.
Winter break comes and goes, and now i feel like im right back where i started. As opposed to before break, she seems to be flirting more and looking for my attention, as is B asking the two of us when we go to eat who of the people we know is attractive or would want to date, completely out of context of the situation or conversation we were having.
I still like this girl, but i get that idea in the back of my mind that im the second choice, and that i already got over her at one point. Also im not sure IF she actually does like me based on this, and dont want to seem like a creep for still thinking she likes me. Im not sure how to respond to all of this.
"Should I use my heart or my head?
I wish that I could just replay the thoughts of things I never said"
To anyone who reads this, thanks =)
Im in college, im 18 and have only had 1 previous relationship (~1 year) 3 years ago. I havent found interest or liked anyone enough since then and therefore havent dated anyone since. Long story short, first semester i met this girl (A) and became close friends with her best friend (B) who already has a boyfriend, and really began to like A. We would hang out every weekend, go to movies and get drunk together etc, and i grew to like her more and more. Around 3-4 weeks of knowing her I asked her out, to which she said no. B talked to me about it since she knew A for 7 years before college, where A never had a boyfriend or anything of the sort, and which she only liked guys after knowing them for a while, and she already liked someone else that she just met (which was very unlike her). After this, we still hung out as friends, i stopped trying and "wasting" my time and waiting for something that could never come. (Been there before never doing that again). At several points in the weeks after being shutdown, she took more initiative, tried to hookup whilst we were drunk, person B telling me to kiss her, and even slept over my room once. Although i never accepted or went along with any of it, simply because I knew that wasn't what she felt, and she wasnt thinking straight. I slowly got over her but did successfully.
Winter break comes and goes, and now i feel like im right back where i started. As opposed to before break, she seems to be flirting more and looking for my attention, as is B asking the two of us when we go to eat who of the people we know is attractive or would want to date, completely out of context of the situation or conversation we were having.
I still like this girl, but i get that idea in the back of my mind that im the second choice, and that i already got over her at one point. Also im not sure IF she actually does like me based on this, and dont want to seem like a creep for still thinking she likes me. Im not sure how to respond to all of this.
"Should I use my heart or my head?
I wish that I could just replay the thoughts of things I never said"
To anyone who reads this, thanks =)