To all Christians: please help.

[CRH777]

I don't know where to put this so…I'm putting it here. To all Christians please pray for me…I'm struggling with my sexuality and I can't go to my youth director because he's my dad. Also I'm going through some insecuritys with my development right now. I'm 15 and it just seems like I'll explode of I don't ask for help from somewhere…so if you could; just pray my name is Conner (or Ray) so…thanks if you do pray.

All glory to The Lord of creation!

[CharlieHorse]

Connor, to be honest with you, depending on how serious your religious community is, you will probably be discriminated against for having any other sexuality other than heterosexuality. In your case, praying will not do anything except create a false sense of security, which in dealing with insecurities already, might make your feelings more complicated. I suggest you talk to someone who you are not related to and isn't in direct relation to your religious community, like a school teacher or counselor. Sometimes parents don't understand.

[Elysium]

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[Seemyheart]

I don't know where to put this so…I'm putting it here. To all Christians please pray for me…I'm struggling with my sexuality and I can't go to my youth director because he's my dad. Also I'm going through some insecuritys with my development right now. I'm 15 and it just seems like I'll explode of I don't ask for help from somewhere…so if you could; just pray my name is Conner (or Ray) so…thanks if you do pray.

All glory to The Lord of creation!

You'll be in my prayers Conner

[CRH777]

You'll be in my prayers Conner

Thank you.

[trustn01]

I don't know where to put this so…I'm putting it here. To all Christians please pray for me…I'm struggling with my sexuality and I can't go to my youth director because he's my dad. Also I'm going through some insecuritys with my development right now. I'm 15 and it just seems like I'll explode of I don't ask for help from somewhere…so if you could; just pray my name is Conner (or Ray) so…thanks if you do pray.

All glory to The Lord of creation!

You'll be in my prayers too.

Glory to the Lord!

[Typhlosion]

I second Charlie's advice, try solving this out of your religious community. They will just gently shove heterosexuality down your throat. They'll "accept" you.

Leviticus 20:13 If a man lies with a male as he lies with a woman, both of them have committed an abomination. They shall surely be put to death. Their blood shall be upon them.

1 Corinthians 6:9-10 Do you not know that the unrighteous will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived. Neither fornicators, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor homosexuals, nor sodomites, nor thieves, nor covetous, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor extortioners will inherit the kingdom of God.

Best wishes though! :)

[King_of_Hearts]

I will pray for you good sir.

[StoppingTime]

I second Charlie's advice, try solving this out of your religious community. They will just gently shove heterosexuality down your throat. They'll "accept" you.


No, he should ask whomever he feels most comfortable with. I'm sure OP is fully aware of some of the people that make up the Christian religion and their opinions on homosexuality, but he didn't seem to care. So there's no need to ridicule him for choosing a certain demographic just because you or anyone else doesn't think it'll help him. Sorry about those passive-agresssive responses, OP, I myself am somewhat unsure as to why those who posted them felt it was necessary but... *sigh* I'm not Christian, but I'll certainly keep you in my thoughts

[Etcetera]

and I can't go to my youth director because he's my dad.

I know how this is. My mom is my youth pastor and my dad is the pastor of the church.

[Pulp501]

I will pray for you, but I'm curious as to weather you want to try and stop any sexual thoughts you have of men, or what?

[CRH777]

I will pray for you, but I'm curious as to weather you want to try and stop any sexual thoughts you have of men, or what?

Yeah I do. Want to stop that is.

[Hollywood]

Sounds like you're in a tough spot. All the best to you, friend.

[Pulp501]

Yeah I do. Want to stop that is.

Well, I was the same way for a while. I thought it was a phase I would get over it, but I came to the realization that I found guys attractive and it wasn't going to go away. I accepted that God loves me, and will forgive me of my sins. Did you say you were feeling bi? If so, I would try to just stick with girls as much as you can.

[CharlieHorse]

Well, I was the same way for a while. I thought it was a phase I would get over it, but I came to the realization that I found guys attractive and it wasn't going to go away. I accepted that God loves me, and will forgive me of my sins. Did you say you were feeling bi? If so, I would try to just stick with girls as much as you can.

the fact that people feel like they have to hide who they really are out of fear of acception just sickens me.
be yourself. don't change who you are for anything. find the help and support you need in order to be more comfortable and accepting of yourself, but be who you are.

[darthearth]

You can certainly count on the Lord to hear and answer your prayers, He will certainly give you sound security as He is your only judge in the end and knows exactly what you are going through, there is no question about that. I will continue to pray that you find the path of God's will for your life.

[Karkat]

No, he should ask whomever he feels most comfortable with. I'm sure OP is fully aware of some of the people that make up the Christian religion and their opinions on homosexuality, but he didn't seem to care. So there's no need to ridicule him for choosing a certain demographic just because you or anyone else doesn't think it'll help him. Sorry about those passive-agresssive responses, OP, I myself am somewhat unsure as to why those who posted them felt it was necessary but... *sigh* I'm not Christian, but I'll certainly keep you in my thoughts

I didn't read either of the responses as being passive-aggressive, or that they were ridiculing him for being a Christian.

If anything, I found your response passive-agressive and ridiculing.

Church leaders do not always have what is actually best in mind, even if their intentions are good. They're only men, and they are taught to think a certain way, and that way tends to be very biased.

I agree that it might be best to get someone unbiased to talk to. However OP also mentioned that he wants to stop feeling this way. Ultimately it's his choice.

As for OP: If you feel uncomfortable with being 'gay', that's one thing. If you don't feel that this is who you are, and you want to get help, then by all means. It's your life, and your decision.

However, if you don't feel like you are actually gay, and you have sexual thoughts about men every once in a while, don't beat yourself up about it. Everyone has sexual thoughts sometimes, and seeing as we're imperfect, we'll never be able to control them completely. If they bother you, just find something to distract you, and let them pass.

Besides, sex and curiosity are part of human nature. Your hormones are raging. You're a teenager. It happens.

In the end, it's up to you how you deal with everything, no matter what anyone else tells you. Don't let anyone discourage you from doing what you feel that you need to do.

I'm not exactly a Christian, but I do pray. I'll keep you in my prayers.

[CcRoder]

You're in my prayers too. You'll be okay.

Let's not turn this into a debate over what accepts whom. I know personally that many communities and churches have different beliefs on homosexuality.

Sometimes, a certain Church's teaching is portrayed one way in the media, when in reality it's something completely different. But let's just keep this on the main topic, and give our support to the OP.

[nklarke]

I didn't read either of the responses as being passive-aggressive, or that they were ridiculing him for being a Christian.

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I agree with Wisen, I consider the previous answers pretty sincere and I also think you should talk with someone outside your community. If you talk to someone that belongs to your community, soon or later he could talk to others.

[xandyx]

I'm having the same trouble. I'm Christian and really confused about my sexuality and faith. I don't even know 100% if I'm gay or bi and I pray I'll just be straight in the end. Not because I hate them or anything but just for me I don't want to be. For me. I'll pray for you that whatever you and God wants makes you happy. :) Good luck

[MakeYouGo]

Firstly, can I just say that 'praying the gay away', or whatever you're trying to accomplish by getting people to pray for you isn't going to work. Maybe you should try to discover/accept who you are, without assigning labels to yourself, or worrying about what other people will think, because in the end the only opinion that will matter is yours. I think that you will find the article at this link helpful: smarturl.it/iatlhr

[Troye]

Firstly, can I just say that 'praying the gay away', or whatever you're trying to accomplish by getting people to pray for you isn't going to work. Maybe you should try to discover/accept who you are, without assigning labels to yourself, or worrying about what other people will think, because in the end the only opinion that will matter is yours. I think that you will find the article at this link helpful: smarturl.it/iatlhr

I agree, I find it relatively insulting to have Christians insult the entirety of gay people by wishing/praying the gay away -_- but to each his/her own I guess

[Lovelife090994]

I will pray for you tonight. But know that you are loved and still young with plenty of time to sort things out. God loves us all, even if homosexuality is a true sin, so is adultery and thieving, yet God loves people in spite of. His love has no strings, he'll love you even when you don't love yourself. Keep up your chin and faith. I too struggle. I am a Christian with a very traditional mother and I am not that into church, also I am possibly bisexual and confused since I am not sure if I am bisexual or not. Life is tough, but we will not struggle for ever. This to shall pass. Be encouraged. God bless you, and think about it.

Firstly, can I just say that 'praying the gay away', or whatever you're trying to accomplish by getting people to pray for you isn't going to work. Maybe you should try to discover/accept who you are, without assigning labels to yourself, or worrying about what other people will think, because in the end the only opinion that will matter is yours. I think that you will find the article at this link helpful: smarturl.it/iatlhr

I agree, I find it relatively insulting to have Christians insult the entirety of gay people by wishing/praying the gay away -_- but to each his/her own I guess


Actually I think he is just asking for prayer and solace. Put yourselves in the shoes of a confused Christian here. Terrified and lonely because how you are doesn't align to your deep held faith even though you know God loves you. He is hurt and confused. Not all want to embrace their sexuality even if it is heterosexuality. I think all we can do is pray and hope and move on. I think he is mainly looking for solace.

No, he should ask whomever he feels most comfortable with. I'm sure OP is fully aware of some of the people that make up the Christian religion and their opinions on homosexuality, but he didn't seem to care. So there's no need to ridicule him for choosing a certain demographic just because you or anyone else doesn't think it'll help him. Sorry about those passive-agresssive responses, OP, I myself am somewhat unsure as to why those who posted them felt it was necessary but... *sigh* I'm not Christian, but I'll certainly keep you in my thoughts

He never said he was praying the gay away. Many Christians are not the bloody heterosexuals people paint us as All we can do is pray and hope for this young man. He never said he was going to get rid of his sexuality or faith, he needs support now.

I'm having the same trouble. I'm Christian and really confused about my sexuality and faith. I don't even know 100% if I'm gay or bi and I pray I'll just be straight in the end. Not because I hate them or anything but just for me I don't want to be. For me. I'll pray for you that whatever you and God wants makes you happy. :) Good luck

I wish you all the best.

Connor, to be honest with you, depending on how serious your religious community is, you will probably be discriminated against for having any other sexuality other than heterosexuality. In your case, praying will not do anything except create a false sense of security, which in dealing with insecurities already, might make your feelings more complicated. I suggest you talk to someone who you are not related to and isn't in direct relation to your religious community, like a school teacher or counselor. Sometimes parents don't understand.

God loves us all even though some forget that. Prayer gives solace and this boy needs support. Most Christians believe it or not will not discriminate against someone for sexuality. While they may not like it they would never change the person, they'll love and respect hem. He should talk to whom makes him comfortable be the person religious or not. Praying is never a false sense of security but a reassuring sense of having God's grace and knowing that things will be okay. All the OP can do is pray and let God do the rest. Some of religiousity are very judgmental but not all who are religious are religious by doctrine, many still hold to how God's love has no strings attached.

[Sean Silver]

I'm so sorry for your struggle, I know it can be tough! Please just know that your struggle is only temporary and as soon as you're 18 and move out of the house, the entire world is at your fingertips with endless possibilities! Your christian faith doesn't have to dictate who you want to love, and your relationship with God will only grow stronger because God loves all his children and made them all exactly how they were meant to be.

[Lovelife090994]

No, he should ask whomever he feels most comfortable with. I'm sure OP is fully aware of some of the people that make up the Christian religion and their opinions on homosexuality, but he didn't seem to care. So there's no need to ridicule him for choosing a certain demographic just because you or anyone else doesn't think it'll help him. Sorry about those passive-agresssive responses, OP, I myself am somewhat unsure as to why those who posted them felt it was necessary but... *sigh* I'm not Christian, but I'll certainly keep you in my thoughts

I'm having the same trouble. I'm Christian and really confused about my sexuality and faith. I don't even know 100% if I'm gay or bi and I pray I'll just be straight in the end. Not because I hate them or anything but just for me I don't want to be. For me. I'll pray for you that whatever you and God wants makes you happy. :) Good luck

Connor, to be honest with you, depending on how serious your religious community is, you will probably be discriminated against for having any other sexuality other than heterosexuality. In your case, praying will not do anything except create a false sense of security, which in dealing with insecurities already, might make your feelings more complicated. I suggest you talk to someone who you are not related to and isn't in direct relation to your religious community, like a school teacher or counselor. Sometimes parents don't understand.

I'm so sorry for your struggle, I know it can be tough! Please just know that your struggle is only temporary and as soon as you're 18 and move out of the house, the entire world is at your fingertips with endless possibilities! Your christian faith doesn't have to dictate who you want to love, and your relationship with God will only grow stronger because God loves all his children and made them all exactly how they were meant to be.

Couldn't have said it better myself. God made a strong people when he made people who are different because we go through much that would tear most hearts yet many rise above the struggles.

[CharlieHorse]

God loves us all even though some forget that. Prayer gives solace and this boy needs support.

Trust me I've heard all that sort of stuff from when I studied the world's many religions.
It's a good thing that you're beliefs are based on the love and implied part of christianity rather than the hate part and literal interpretation part. :)


Most Christians believe it or not will not discriminate against someone for sexuality. While they may not like it they would never change the person, they'll love and respect hem.


That's debatable. Part of the reason why gay marriage isn't entirely legal in the U.S. is because racist, homophobic, extremo-religious, ignorant people think they shouldn't be given the rights that they have because apparently (and i've heard this before personally) marriage is DEFINED in STONE in the bible how it should be a man and a woman. So some people think it's wrong and would think gays less than human. It's screwed up, I know.
But the point being, you might not have seen much of it (which I guess is a good thing), but it certainly is still a huge issue in the world.



He should talk to whom makes him comfortable be the person religious or not.

Agreed. Totally agreed.



Praying is never a false sense of security but a reassuring sense of having God's grace and knowing that things will be okay. All the OP can do is pray and let God do the rest.

Really? Praying is the ONLY thing he can do?
He can't take active steps towards helping himself? you just said he should talk to someone about it. I said that too.

I think people should start looking for ways to be proactively changing their own lives and society for the better, the way that they can, instead of talking to a multi-interpretational, supernatural entity (or even entities if you believe that), which has never had any provable evidence.

The op can take many steps to better his situation, and in the end, probably be a lot happier in a better situation. Talking to a trusted person about it is one of them.


Some of religiousity are very judgmental but not all who are religious are religious by doctrine, many still hold to how God's love has no strings attached.

True I guess, but again it depends on how your personal beliefs are.

[Lovelife090994]

Trust me I've heard all that sort of stuff from when I studied the world's many religions.
It's a good thing that you're beliefs are based on the love and implied part of christianity rather than the hate part and literal interpretation part. :)

Christianity has no hate part. Any hate from it is from the people who have used it as an excuse.

That's debatable. Part of the reason why gay marriage isn't entirely legal in the U.S. is because racist, homophobic, extremo-religious, ignorant people think they shouldn't be given the rights that they have because apparently (and i've heard this before personally) marriage is DEFINED in STONE in the bible how it should be a man and a woman. So some people think it's wrong and would think gays less than human. It's screwed up, I know.
But the point being, you might not have seen much of it (which I guess is a good thing), but it certainly is still a huge issue in the world.


Agreed. Totally agreed.


Really? Praying is the ONLY thing he can do?
He can't take active steps towards helping himself? you just said he should talk to someone about it. I said that too.

I think people should start looking for ways to be proactively changing their own lives and society for the better, the way that they can, instead of talking to a multi-interpretational, supernatural entity (or even entities if you believe that).

The op can take many steps to better his situation, and in the end, probably be a lot happier in a better situation. Talking to a trusted person about it is one of them.



True I guess, but again it depends on how your personal beliefs are.

So what if marriage is said to be between a man and woman. A marriage in the Bible is designed by what goes in accordance to nature, even if the man or woman cannot bear fruit they are imitating nature by being male and female mated for life, in some cases. I think this is why many Christians are against gay marriage and I can relate. Many Christians are wrongly labeled and people tend to forget how not everyone who disagrees with homosexuality is a bad person. The word bigot means one who can contribute nothing to society and a person who basically should go kill themselves. I'm sure you'd hate being told that. Not all Christians think that gays are sub-human. In fact most Christians are against that but we stay silent since most gays as if naturally hate our beliefs and we do not want to fight.

If you recall I never said he couldn't talk to someone. But you were implied that prayer is empty. In the belief of Christianity it is fine to go to someone for help, but prayer helps too. Yes the OP sould talk to someone and take steps to acceptance but for now since he seems at wits end with trouble accepting it and since he asked, he and we should pray. Plus, nothing is wrong with going to your Higher Power in a time of crisis.

[Tarannosaurus]

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