--->Please Help Me<---

[bmcelyea97]

Ok so I recently came out as gay to my family. I live with my dad and grandmother. The only problem I have with anyone is my Grandmother. She is a super religious person and is constantly telling me that I should be ashamed of myself and that I am going to burn in hell. I tried telling her that she is going there with me because she is judging others and the bible says not to do that. She told me that if I really wanted to, I could change myself and be a good normal person. I am so damn sick of her telling me how to run my life. I told her I have the right to live my life just like you had the right to live yours. She makes me feel like its wrong to be gay and she's making me embarrassed to me gay. I have already had to be admitted to the hospital because I tried to hang myself. Can someone please help me?

[Croconaw]

You shouldn't listen to her. You do have the right to live your life. :D

[Luminous]

Your grandmother is wrong. You like who you like and that can't be changed. You don't deserve to be treated like this. Tell her you respect your opinion and want her to respect you and yours. Maybe you could ask your dad to talk with her?

[Tenoka]

Pretty sure thats bullying, regardless of the person age. Talk to your dad about it, if he doesn't help arrange to move in with another relative. Don't be ashamed to be you, in no way are you wrong. You can't change your sexuality and there's nothing wrong with it. I hope you can push through it, it can honestly be really rough. If you need help feel free to talk to me.

[GreyGoldfish]

This is exactly why I refuse to come out to my parents. I know they will not accept it. I have been told I am going to hell too. Kindof makes everything more confusing.

[chrisjenkins]

She is wrong do not listen to her.

[MartyG]

She may have the best of intentions and she may sincerely love you and care about you...but she is tragically mis-informed. She is a product of her upbringing; her issues and beliefs are just that: hers. Please find the strength to acknowledge her weaknesses;you have a wonderful assignment ahead of you: Find the person that you can pour your love out to.
Maybe when Grandma sees that love....she will accept you; but I doubt it.

Good luck my friend. It will be OK; hang in there.

[Zachary G]

you cant let her get to you, i know she is your grandmother, but you cant let her get to the core of your being. God loves you, he created you and he knows your life from beginning to end. remember that. i could tell you more but i dont want to get preachy..lol

[Liam Peter]

Id like to help but the problem is how religious she is, its like talking to a damn wall, they are always right and they don't need to back it up because 'the bible said so' im sorry bud, my advice is just ignore her, and carry on knowing that theirs nothing wrong with you and you shouldn't be as=hamed, be proud of who you are, theirs only one you in this world.

[Typhlosion]

I think a different approach with your grandmother's intolerance would be better. Instead of condemning her to hell (which is not nice at all) you could talk in favour of acceptance, as Jesus is forgiving and maybe this (http://biblethumpingliberal.com/2011/05/19/you-can%E2%80%99t-quote-leviticus-to-prove-god-hates-homosexuality/) which, playing your cards properly, could 'prove' her opposite.

Best wishes :)

[AlexOnToast]

I know this may sound brash, but if it were me I would just laugh and carry on living my life and not taking to heart what some cantankerous, old minded person has to say. I would also console myself in the thought that said person probably won't be around for much longer to judge me anyway.... That's just me, however...