Support Group Question (Please Help)

[bmcelyea97]

So recently I came out and told my family that I was gay. My dad acts like he is accepting but he doesn't want me to talk about it. Everytime I talk about my life, he yells at me and gets upset. My mom doesn't really act like it bothers her because they are divorced and I don't live with her. I live with my dad and my grandmother. My grandmother is a overly Christian person. Every day that I live, she constantly tells me that I am going to burn in hell. She doesn't even like being around me.

I also am home schooled and haven't went to public school in the past 4 years. We move every year (in the same town) and I lose my friends. I haven't been around people my age in over 3 years. Where we moved to is basically a retirement community. Seeing a younger person here is like seeing a rare species. So I have devoleped the anxiety of being around people.


Ok that's my story, now let me get to what the title says.

I was recently looking online for a local youth GLBT support group. I found one online and sent an email to inquire some information about them. They said it was for 18 and younger (I'm 16) and was for GLBT people. I really want to go to this group meetings they have every Monday but I am really nervous about going. I know we are all the same there but I constanty wonder what people are going to think about me. Can anyone give me any advice?

[ksdnfkfr]

Yeah, if you can get to the meeting then go and check it out. You know, like an observer.

[chiisaiaoiryu]

I can't say I honestly understand what you're going through since I'm still a heavily closeted gay guy, but I do understand your feelings of anxiety of going to the LGBT meeting. I've always been picked on and the target of "destroy that kid's property" when I was in elementary school. Then it morphed to "ignore that kid" from middle and high school. Nowadays, I just have that anxiety when around people or areas I'm just not familiar with.

But yeah, you should go to the LGBT meeting. They'll be able to help you out a lot with support groups and whatnot. And from your story of always moving around and such, it'll be great for you to be around those who're around your age. I'm more than positive that they'll be able to help and hook you up with additional resources should you ever need more help.

I can't go into detail myself since I've never been to my local LGBT community before. Yeah, it seems pretty stupid for a guy like me to be advising you go to an LGBT meeting when I've never been to one myself. But I'm honestly just the kind of guy who tries to help others out. Hope you're not too weird-ed out by that.

And don't worry about what other people think about you. More than likely, they might be thinking about what your story is. I'm sure everybody there has some kind of story to tell be it like yours or not. Like you said, most in those meetings are just like you. There's no need to worry about what's going on in their minds when they think about you. Then again, it is better to say that through online rather than face to face with people.

[JamesSuperBoy]

So recently I came out and told my family that I was gay. My dad acts like he is accepting but he doesn't want me to talk about it. Everytime I talk about my life, he yells at me and gets upset. My mom doesn't really act like it bothers her because they are divorced and I don't live with her. I live with my dad and my grandmother. My grandmother is a overly Christian person. Every day that I live, she constantly tells me that I am going to burn in hell. She doesn't even like being around me.

I also am home schooled and haven't went to public school in the past 4 years. We move every year (in the same town) and I lose my friends. I haven't been around people my age in over 3 years. Where we moved to is basically a retirement community. Seeing a younger person here is like seeing a rare species. So I have devoleped the anxiety of being around people.


Ok that's my story, now let me get to what the title says.

I was recently looking online for a local youth GLBT support group. I found one online and sent an email to inquire some information about them. They said it was for 18 and younger (I'm 16) and was for GLBT people. I really want to go to this group meetings they have every Monday but I am really nervous about going. I know we are all the same there but I constanty wonder what people are going to think about me. Can anyone give me any advice?

Maybe you just take steps to this deal - ask the organisers if you can say just drop in for a short time either before the end or at the beginning - Maybe you could meet with the someone before and you could go together.

[GreyGoldfish]

As a mostly closeted bisexual, I know that living without any support is painful. I would advise at least checking out the support group for a little while. You can always check back in with us an let us know how things went. :)

[Tarannosaurus]

Congratulations on coming out, give your parents time, mine were like that at first. As for the support group, I say go for it. The worst that can happen is it doesn't suit you. I'm planning on joining a local LGBT group and all the people I've spoken to say that once you walk in it's not as scary as you think it will be. Good luck :)