holding hands

[OrigamiKing]

so I've been dating this girl for a few days now, we've hugged a few times but I'm not sure how to hold hands with her and how to make the first move without making it awkward. By the way she is always the one to make the first move when we hug

[Living For Love]

Maybe you should wait for her to take the initiative.

[Melodic]

Best things to do. 1) Brush your hand againist hers for a couple seconds, then if she doesn't seem to mind, hold her hand. 2) Ask her if you can hold her hand. 3) Don't hold her hand and wonder for eternity how you never felt the touch of her hand.

[JamesSuperBoy]

Maybe you should wait for her to take the initiative.

Good advice there -

[kylem]

just when you're sitting beside her close and her had is on her lap or close to you, just like move your hand towards hers and just place it on top of hers and see what she does. If she really likes you she will want to hold you're hand to. I know I was soo nervous the first time I wanted to hold a girls hand, but once we started doing it I couldn't do it enough, I always wanted to hold her hand.

[OrigamiKing]

quote from kylem *just when you're sitting beside her close and her had is on her lap*

wouldn't she think I was trying to like get in because of how close it is to her ummm

[Something Creative]

quote from kylem *just when you're sitting beside her close and her had is on her lap*

wouldn't she think I was trying to like get in because of how close it is to her ummm

Yeah, don't do that. If you've been dating only for a few days it could come off as creepy or pervy.

Do what TheVoiceWithin said. Just casually brush your hand against hers, and if she doesn't mind then you can hold it.

[Croconaw]

You should wait for her to hold your hand.

[ausley]

if you're going out just hold her hand she wont mind most likely just go up behind her and grab her hand

[Luminous]

You could just slightly brush her hand letting her know the option's open.

[kylem]

Yeah, don't do that. If you've been dating only for a few days it could come off as creepy or pervy.

Do what TheVoiceWithin said. Just casually brush your hand against hers, and if she doesn't mind then you can hold it.

sorry didn't mean to come of creepy, I was just trying to give you ideas on how you could start the hand holding. That's how I first did it when we we're at a movie and she had her hand on her leg like down by here knee, not close to her umm you know, and her's was close to my hand on my leg so I just brushed against her hand and next thing we we're holding hands. Probably helped that we went to a scary movie to, lol.

[Something Creative]

sorry didn't mean to come of creepy, I was just trying to give you ideas on how you could start the hand holding. That's how I first did it when we we're at a movie and she had her hand on her leg like down by here knee, not close to her umm you know, and her's was close to my hand on my leg so I just brushed against her hand and next thing we we're holding hands. Probably helped that we went to a scary movie to, lol.

No, I'm sorry. That was way too harsh, and I totally didn't mean to call you creepy or pervy. I just think that kind of thing wouldn't work. Not for me, anyway.

But if it worked for you, than I totally take it back. Also, again: I don't think you're creepy. Or pervy. Sorry. :P

[Zachary G]

Best things to do. 1) Brush your hand againist hers for a couple seconds, then if she doesn't seem to mind, hold her hand. 2) Ask her if you can hold her hand. 3) Don't hold her hand and wonder for eternity how you never felt the touch of her hand.

TheVoiceWithin -- shes totally correct, plus you will never know if you dont try

[Green Arrow]

Best things to do. 1) Brush your hand againist hers for a couple seconds, then if she doesn't seem to mind, hold her hand. 2) Ask her if you can hold her hand. 3) Don't hold her hand and wonder for eternity how you never felt the touch of her hand.

Basically this ^

[Saint of Sinners]

Just do TheVoiceWithin's option 1. Sounds about right.

[Saint]

Or give her/yourself an excuse to do so. That'll probably get you pass all the awkwardness involved,if you're afraid to confront them :p

Turn the temperature down,and use that as an excuse.
Get her to the movies,ask if she's feeling the cold.

Basically just be creative with your excuses,use them and take the next step :violin:

Don't sweat it honestly,if she took the first step previously,she's probably interested in more.

[kylem]

No, I'm sorry. That was way too harsh, and I totally didn't mean to call you creepy or pervy. I just think that kind of thing wouldn't work. Not for me, anyway.

But if it worked for you, than I totally take it back. Also, again: I don't think you're creepy. Or pervy. Sorry. :P

Thanks its all good. After I read it what you saw the first time, yeah I can see how it would of come off as creepy lol. And when I actually did that to her, we had dated a few times before that actually, so I figured why not try and see what happens.

[charmynyankawaii]

If you go walking with her then just gently hold her hand and don't say anything. ( ´ ▽ ` )ﾉ

[goundy]

This is like asking, how do I move my arm?

You just do it. You're scared because on some level you think that male-to-female contact is unwanted. All you need to know is that girls want you to be physical with them just as much as you do.

[DarkHorse4eva]

when you walk next to her, you reach out and hold her hand