Done with relationships (anyone else feel like this?)

[dreamofdante]

I've had nothing but pain and misery from relationships so I don't think I'm even going to bother anymore. Women don't want me and they never will. There's always the better man that they want. I'll always be the third wheel. So I won't bother anymore. It won't be easy since I wanted to devote my life to it, but oh well. I'm likely never going to change. Does anyone else feel like this because of what has happened? Or am I truly unique?

[lonely love]

Honstly, no. You aren't the only one who wants to give up on the idea of dating. Trust me. But you just have to remember that, even though you haven't met that speacial someone yet, it doesn't mean that you never will. Maybe you just haven't been looking in the right places. You never really know, but it is true that most things find us when we aren't looking for them. Just take a break and focus on yourself for awhile. It may completely change your veiw on relationships. At least....that's what I think and do when I feel like giving up......

[dreamofdante]

Honstly, no. You aren't the only one who wants to give up on the idea of dating. Trust me. But you just have to remember that, even though you haven't met that speacial someone yet, it doesn't mean that you never will. Maybe you just haven't been looking in the right places. You never really know, but it is true that most things find us when we aren't looking for them. Just take a break and focus on yourself for awhile. It may completely change your veiw on relationships. At least....that's what I think and do when I feel like giving up......

I mean I've tried about every logical place to look for someone and I always get let down or flat out rejected. So I don't think things are ever going to work for me. And I'm to the point where the very thought of a relationship brings dread because of all my bad experiences. I'm sad to hear that you've considered giving up.

[AlexOnToast]

I felt exactly like this until I men the person I'm currently with. And if I break up with him, I will feel like it again. Just how it goes :/

[lonely love]

I mean I've tried about every logical place to look for someone and I always get let down or flat out rejected. So I don't think things are ever going to work for me. And I'm to the point where the very thought of a relationship brings dread because of all my bad experiences. I'm sad to hear that you've considered giving up.

Well like I said, take some time to yourself. Stop focusing on the fact that you can't seem to get a relationship. Do somethings for yourself instead. Treat yourself to something you want. Think of all the things you can do that your friends, who are in relationships, cant. And theres no need for you to be sorry. I've just had some really bad experiences with a couple of players.....and highchool bullies.

[dreamofdante]

I felt exactly like this until I men the person I'm currently with. And if I break up with him, I will feel like it again. Just how it goes :/

I'm practically afraid to even try again. I mean why bother if this is all that'll happen, ya know? I wish you guys well though, buddy :)

Well like I said, take some time to yourself. Stop focusing on the fact that you can't seem to get a relationship. Do somethings for yourself instead. Treat yourself to something you want. Think of all the things you can do that your friends, who are in relationships, cant. And theres no need for you to be sorry. I've just had some really bad experiences with a couple of players.....and highchool bullies.

I'll just try and keep myself busy with other things. Are you the kind of girl who goes after Alpha males?

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[AlexOnToast]

I'm practically afraid to even try again. I mean why bother if this is all that'll happen, ya know? I wish you guys well though, buddy :)

Thanks, and to answer your question, it was Shakespeare who said "tis better to have loved and lost....."

[dreamofdante]

Thanks, and to answer your question, it was Shakespeare who said "tis better to have loved and lost....."

I should think to love is to physically experience it and I never really have...But yeah I suppose you're right.

[Ainsleyshea]

I'm practically afraid to even try again. I mean why bother if this is all that'll happen, ya know? I wish you guys well though, buddy :)

true I feel the same every time you like some one and they like you to and then some other person comes a long well at that time it like stand on my ball san get it over with ffs so I give up and now I wont ask no won coz there gunu do the same time and time agene

[lonely love]

I'll just try and keep myself busy with other things. Are you the kind of girl who goes after Alpha males?

I...kinda I guess.....what screwed me over happened when I was in a bad place emotionally and it just kinda made things worse......its more like im the girl thats always the best friend, not the girlfriend....

[dreamofdante]

true I feel the same every time you like some one and they like you to and then some other person comes a long well at that time it like stand on my ball san get it over with ffs so I give up and now I wont ask no won coz there gunu do the same time and time agene

I am really sorry. It sucks doesn't it? :(

I...kinda I guess.....what screwed me over happened when I was in a bad place emotionally and it just kinda made things worse......its more like im the girl thats always the best friend, not the girlfriend....

I hear you there. I'm always the best friend or brother figure. Never the boyfriend.

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[lonely love]

I hear you there. I'm always the best friend or brother figure. Never the boyfriend.

Yeah thats pretty much my situation. Add in that im one of the 'freaks' in my school, and im screwed relationship wise. But i try not to focus on it too much so....yeah, you aren't alone. Not one bit.

[Toxic]

Sometimes you just need a little time to yourself, And if you do find a girl that you find to like, show her your different than the other guys and that you care more and are willing to love harder , alot of people hope for things that they dont try hard for. Its human nature to do that. We all do that. Even myself have gotten heartbroken before and thought i shouldnt try again. People Build up walls. Try to find someone you love enough to knock them down. (The girls that you would never even think of , are usually the ones that love the hardest)

[dreamofdante]

Yeah thats pretty much my situation. Add in that im one of the 'freaks' in my school, and im screwed relationship wise. But i try not to focus on it too much so....yeah, you aren't alone. Not one bit.

I'm really sorry. I doubt that you're a freak and you don't deserve to think that. I hope that you feel better about that soon...

Sometimes you just need a little time to yourself, And if you do find a girl that you find to like, show her your different than the other guys and that you care more and are willing to love harder , alot of people hope for things that they dont try hard for. Its human nature to do that. We all do that. Even myself have gotten heartbroken before and thought i shouldnt try again. People Build up walls. Try to find someone you love enough to knock them down. (The girls that you would never even think of , are usually the ones that love the hardest)

I'm finding it really hard to trust anyone anymore...

[lonely love]

I'm really sorry. I doubt that you're a freak and you don't deserve to think that. I hope that you feel better about that soon.....

Thats very sweet of you. Not many people tell me that, so thank you. Im sorry you're having a hard time with relationships as well.

[dreamofdante]

Thats very sweet of you. Not many people tell me that, so thank you. Im sorry you're having a hard time with relationships as well.

You're welcome! Someone honest needs to and I might as well. You deserve it. Well thanks...it's unavoidable. If you want to talk more just send me an email. I know you can't PM yet. My email is in my about me section. I hope you feel better soon.

[lonely love]

You're welcome! Someone honest needs to and I might as well. You deserve it. Well thanks...it's unavoidable. If you want to talk more just send me an email. I know you can't PM yet. My email is in my about me section. I hope you feel better soon.

Still, thank you. Not alot of people are nice to me and i really appreciate it. It does seem kind of unavodable with relationships.....and thanks for the offer. I may just take u up on it when im having a low day. Nice to talk to someone who kinda gets it.

[dreamofdante]

Still, thank you. Not alot of people are nice to me and i really appreciate it. It does seem kind of unavodable with relationships.....and thanks for the offer. I may just take u up on it when im having a low day. Nice to talk to someone who kinda gets it.

Yeah I hear you there. I'm nice to basically everyone but especially those who deserve it so yeah if you're ever having a bad day or just want to talk, I'm usually available since I'm cyber schooled. And I agree, people who understand your pain are the best kinds to talk to.

[Seemyheart]

I've had nothing but pain and misery from relationships so I don't think I'm even going to bother anymore. Women don't want me and they never will. There's always the better man that they want. I'll always be the third wheel. So I won't bother anymore. It won't be easy since I wanted to devote my life to it, but oh well. I'm likely never going to change. Does anyone else feel like this because of what has happened? Or am I truly unique?

I've sort of given up, too. I mean, the only guys I seem to attract irl are only looking for one thing from me.. I've chosen to give up dating, because why would I wanna do that to myself?
There are many people who feel the same way as you do. You are definitely not alone.
I've said this before, one day, you'll find a someone who thinks the world of you, and when that day comes, whether it's soon or a little later, it will be great. Right now, it'd be okay to just focus on you though, just enjoy life. Relationships are work, and before you get into one, you should just have a time period to just focus on you.
I wish you the best of luck, Tyler:)

[dreamofdante]

I've sort of given up, too. I mean, the only guys I seem to attract irl are only looking for one thing from me.. I've chosen to give up dating, because why would I wanna do that to myself?
There are many people who feel the same way as you do. You are definitely not alone.
I've said this before, one day, you'll find a someone who thinks the world of you, and when that day comes, whether it's soon or a little later, it will be great. Right now, it'd be okay to just focus on you though, just enjoy life. Relationships are work, and before you get into one, you should just have a time period to just focus on you.
I wish you the best of luck, Tyler:)

Well I'm sorry to hear that you've given up Molly. I thought things were going well for you. I'm sure things will change and you'll be alright sooner or later...

[lonely love]

Yeah I hear you there. I'm nice to basically everyone but especially those who deserve it so yeah if you're ever having a bad day or just want to talk, I'm usually available since I'm cyber schooled. And I agree, people who understand your pain are the best kinds to talk to.

Ill deffinitly keep that in mind. Especially since there are days I feel completely alone.....and yeah. Its great to not have to explain every little thing to someone because they get it.

[dreamofdante]

Ill deffinitly keep that in mind. Especially since there are days I feel completely alone.....and yeah. Its great to not have to explain every little thing to someone because they get it.

Like I said, I'm very sorry. I feel that way many days. I'll be here if you need me. Just jot the email down. :)

[lonely love]

Like I said, I'm very sorry. I feel that way many days. I'll be here if you need me. Just jot the email down. :)

I deffintly will. Thank you. and Im sorry u understand. Its not the best thing to understand.

[dreamofdante]

I deffintly will. Thank you. and Im sorry u understand. Its not the best thing to understand.

You're welcome. And believe me, I know. I wouldn't wish it on anyone. It's a horrible feeling and a horrible understanding.

[lonely love]

You're welcome. And believe me, I know. I wouldn't wish it on anyone. It's a horrible feeling and a horrible understanding.

Yeah it really is.....

[dreamofdante]

Yeah it really is.....

Well I'm going to get off VT so if you'd like to email me, feel free. I'll be around all day. Talk to you soon! :)

[Seemyheart]

Well I'm sorry to hear that you've given up Molly. I thought things were going well for you. I'm sure things will change and you'll be alright sooner or later...

I'm sure things will get better for you too:)

[dreamofdante]

I'm sure things will get better for you too:)

They haven't obviously...

[Synyster Shadows]

I can tell you from experience - it will get better. I might be way younger than you but hear me out. I was in the same boat. Three crushes. One hated/s me, the others friendzoned me. It hurt a lot. Fast forward to November 2013. I met the most wonderful girl ever. She was everything I could ever ask for and more. When I joined VT last January, I never thought I'd ever get a girlfriend, nor did I expect to meet her here on VT. Just keep your head up. You have your whole life to find someone and who knows? You might meet that special person somewhere you would never expect. Good luck. :)

[dreamofdante]

I can tell you from experience - it will get better. I might be way younger than you but hear me out. I was in the same boat. Three crushes. One hated/s me, the others friendzoned me. It hurt a lot. Fast forward to November 2013. I met the most wonderful girl ever. She was everything I could ever ask for and more. When I joined VT last January, I never thought I'd ever get a girlfriend, nor did I expect to meet her here on VT. Just keep your head up. You have your whole life to find someone and who knows? You might meet that special person somewhere you would never expect. Good luck. :)


I've been abandoned or rejected by girls just about everywhere including here. You had it coming to you though I'm sure. When I was your age, I hadn't wooed anyone whatsoever.

[Synyster Shadows]

I've been abandoned or rejected by girls just about everywhere including here. You had it coming to you though I'm sure. When I was your age, I hadn't wooed anyone whatsoever.

No, I had no idea we'd end up as a couple. I wasn't expecting to end up as her boyfriend. She just wanted a friend and I wanted the same. You could say that I got lucky. Same might just happen to you.

[dreamofdante]

No, I had no idea we'd end up as a couple. I wasn't expecting to end up as her boyfriend. She just wanted a friend and I wanted the same. You could say that I got lucky. Same might just happen to you.

Sometimes I get lucky but the sad thing is that the girl ends it before it begins. Two have done it within the span of two weeks now. I just can't take this shit anymore. I was almost done with it but...I'm so distraught about everything.

[Saint]

First thing that you've got to get rid of is that attitude. If you're going to feed these thoughts to yourself,you're not going to be able to step forward in developing confidence,which is basically the key factor to grabbing any girls attention.(Trust me,it's easy to tell just from your voice). And it really isn't about if there's someone better than you, no one could project their emotions and thoughts towards a girl exactly like how you would. It's just a hit or miss with any girl honestly.

Besides - you're 18,just take it slow,one day it'll spark when you least expected it to happen. Love yourself first,and then spread it around.

[dreamofdante]

First thing that you've got to get rid of is that attitude. If you're going to feed these thoughts to yourself,you're not going to be able to step forward in developing confidence,which is basically the key factor to grabbing any girls attention.(Trust me,it's easy to tell just from your voice). It really isn't about if there's someone better than you, no one could really project their emotions and thoughts towards a girl exactly like how you would. It's just a hit or miss with any girl honestly.

Besides - you're 18,just take it slow,one day it'll spark when you least expected it to happen. Love yourself first,and then spread it around.

It's hard to be confident when I hate myself this much. And to be honest, I don't remember ever being confident. I think it has to do with the bullying.

[Saint]

It's hard to be confident when I hate myself this much. And to be honest, I don't remember ever being confident. I think it has to do with the bullying.

:whoops: My bad,my advice was directed towards more of the moving on in general issue. Cheer up bud,I've just seen your other topic. Everything'll be alright,VT's here for you :)

[dreamofdante]

:whoops: My bad,my advice was directed towards more of the moving on in general issue. Cheer up bud,I've just seen your other topic. Everything'll be alright,VT's here for you :)

Hey thanks...I just...I need people around me...I'm really losing it...

[Its Pretty]

I've had nothing but pain and misery from relationships so I don't think I'm even going to bother anymore. Women don't want me and they never will. There's always the better man that they want. I'll always be the third wheel. So I won't bother anymore. It won't be easy since I wanted to devote my life to it, but oh well. I'm likely never going to change. Does anyone else feel like this because of what has happened? Or am I truly unique?

If you have become a different person to impress a women then that women is going to leave you when you revert back to your normal self.

Try and become a better person for yourself first. Impress yourself. Make it so you would rather stay in your own shoes then jump in somebody else's. The best men are self-made.

[Saint of Sinners]

Well, don't worry about a thing. Relationships come when you least expect it. Thinking about it too much will only stress you out.

In the meantime, learn to love yourself more:)

[dreamofdante]

Well, don't worry about a thing. Relationships come when you least expect it. Thinking about it too much will only stress you out.

In the meantime, learn to love yourself more:)

I can't trust women and I don't like myself at all. I really have issues, man...

[Saint of Sinners]

I can't trust women and I don't like myself at all. I really have issues, man...

Why don't you trust them? Most girls are really nice people.

[dreamofdante]

Why don't you trust them? Most girls are really nice people.

Because they tell me the lie that they like me and want to be with me and then within a week they get rid of me. Or they just reject me without saying why. Every time. It's not an exaggeration. Nothing has ever worked.

[Saint of Sinners]

Because they tell me the lie that they like me and want to be with me and then within a week they get rid of me. Or they just reject me without saying why. Every time. It's not an exaggeration. Nothing has ever worked.

I'm sorry to hear that. Well, rest assured I'm pretty sure most people would agree that they're complete bitches and are not worth your time.

[dreamofdante]

I'm sorry to hear that. Well, rest assured I'm pretty sure most people would agree that they're complete bitches and are not worth your time.

I've yet to meet one who is either not a bitch or is right for me. So I don't think it's going to happen.

[Saint of Sinners]

I've yet to meet one who is either not a bitch or is right for me. So I don't think it's going to happen.

You're only 18. That's plenty young. You never know....

[dreamofdante]

You're only 18. That's plenty young. You never know....

That doesn't make me any less ugly or give me more of a chance to find someone. People who are alone at 40 now were on 18 and alone. Think about that.

[Saint of Sinners]

That doesn't make me any less ugly or give me more of a chance to find someone. People who are alone at 40 now were on 18 and alone. Think about that.

Aww stop being so depressing lol. Adopt a positive attitude:)

[dreamofdante]

Aww stop being so depressing lol. Adopt a positive attitude:)

Sorry for ruining your day but a guy who thinks about drinking bleach every day can't have a positive attitude. I have no reason to be happy.