Mutual masturbating.

[Little_Spaghetti]

I have trouble getting and keeping an erection. So sometimes me and my girl just end up kind of getting ourselves off instead of having sex. I enjoy it but. It's kind of awkward. On my part I'm embarrassed I can't get it up. But anyway, does anyone actually prefer to do that?

[Liam Peter]

Seeing as I haven't had sex before, I wouldn't know, but from what I have done, I kinda think just getting each other off would be a little more fun, because their is so many different ways you can do it. Still doesn't make sex any less enjoyable/desirable, and if your new at sex, and foreplay and all that then she should understand, it'll come with practice. :D

[Swagging god]

I personally prefer oral, vaginal or anal sex over me just merely masturbating til I cum. Everyone is different though and that's fine, THERE IS NO RIGHT OR WRONG DECISION.

[Hermes]

My suspicion is that this is due to pressure. Sex is the new thing and yet you are expecting to behave like you have already mastered it and maybe think she is expecting that of you too. As soon as the pressure if off and you're back to masturbating which is something you are confident and comfortable with you relax and it works.

Maybe you need to start more slowly and become more comfortable with each other. It can be a journey of discovery together. It seems like you have already got comfortable with getting off in each others presence, mutual masturbation would be the obvious next step. Don't worry if at first you don't get each other off and end up swapping back to finish yourselves - in time you will both get better both by being more relaxed when the other person is masturbating you and also better at doing it to the other person in the way that works best. As you get more comfortable you can try more things. And talk.

[Luminous]

Try more, longer foreplay and maybe a different position?

[AlexOnToast]

It could be down to nerves...not definate but it does seem to happen to quite a few people

[lilmisslucylee]

How is m'bating with someone awkward? I think it's great!! :D

[Darksoul13]

I haven't had sex yet. But I assume it's just the fact you're just masturbating and not doing much else.

[deregisterme]

I've not done either yet. It sounds like nerves. But J/O together sounds fun, so do that for a while until Ur more relaxed

[Kelsey1031]

isnt that what viagra is for?

[Duke96]

isnt that what viagra is for?

Yeah, but it's not usually for teenagers. What you're thinking of is erectile dysfunction. OP would have to go to a doctor/urologist to be sure.

[Kelsey1031]

Yeah, but it's not usually for teenagers. What you're thinking of is erectile dysfunction. OP would have to go to a doctor/urologist to be sure.

oh thanks for clarifying i didnt know... i just hear it talked about so much for guys who cant get boners that i thought it was easy to just buy it at a drug store

[NotShortButFunsized]

I think if you lack confidence thats the first thing to look at. maybe the pure fact you're so worried that you cant do it is making it harder to do? (if that makes sense) sex is almost more of a mental game than it is a physical one sometimes

[ClaireMarie]

Just relax, talk with her, and continue to masturbate together it's great !!

[jjj8995]

try not masturbating for a while before you do anything with her

[Zachary G]

I personally prefer oral, vaginal or anal sex over me just merely masturbating til I cum. Everyone is different though and that's fine, THERE IS NO RIGHT OR WRONG DECISION.

good point Garrett!

[Philleeep]

My suspicion is that this is due to pressure. Sex is the new thing and yet you are expecting to behave like you have already mastered it and maybe think she is expecting that of you too. As soon as the pressure if off and you're back to masturbating which is something you are confident and comfortable with you relax and it works.

Maybe you need to start more slowly and become more comfortable with each other. It can be a journey of discovery together. It seems like you have already got comfortable with getting off in each others presence, mutual masturbation would be the obvious next step. Don't worry if at first you don't get each other off and end up swapping back to finish yourselves - in time you will both get better both by being more relaxed when the other person is masturbating you and also better at doing it to the other person in the way that works best. As you get more comfortable you can try more things. And talk.

I agreè.

[DarkHorse4eva]

i can't say that i prefer it, cuz i don't live near my boyfriend, but there might be some out there who prefers it